How would you react to a family member committing suicide?

Question

I ask because today my grandfather took his own life.

Answer 1

I am sorry to hear about your tragic loss. I had an uncle who took his own life. He had been extremely sick for a long time. It's hard because you wonder if there was something you could have said or done to make things different. The truth is that if someone really wants to commit suicide, he'll find a way to do it. No one knows what goes on in another person's mind. You don't know what kind of pain and anguish they may feel, whether it's physical, mental, or emotional. The best thing to do is to have compassion for your grandfather. He must have been in tremendous pain for him to leave the people he loves so much. I hope that you can find some comfort in this difficult time.

Answer 2

Hi Professional:

I am very sorry to hear about your grandpa. If I can do anything, please let me know. My contact info is in my profile, use it as you choose. Again, I am truly sorry.

I can say from a different view point as I have attempted suicide 2x in the past within 5 weeks of eachother. Both times were successfull but I was revived by the medics just in time and blessed to have no ill effects from the stupid thing I did.

After the disbelief of my family to what I had done, I did not see them for about a week each attempt as I was on a vent (breathing machine). But from what I observed of their behavior when I awoke was a mixture of anger, frustration, the big question of WHY, more anger, anger, anger and WHY WHY WHY and confusion.

I saw that little three letter word eat away at them for weeks if not longer WHY? WHY? WHY? We all were blessed the way that I see it because I survived and eventually was able to tell them why and answer that question that was eating away at them. I am grateful that I survived for now seeing what I was doing to not only me but to my family of leaving them with questions that would forever go unanswered as the answer would have died along with me.

And I can't say enough to them how sorry I am and forever will be for putting them thru that.

I believe you will be going thru the stages of grief that we all go thru and that is:

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance

These stages happen naturally and are not planned. PLEASE if you feel that when you are in any of these stages and you feel it may be getting out of control, please seek help immediately.

Loosing someone you love is never something easy and painfree. Be aware of yourself and take care of yourself and know that we are all here for you if you need us.

My prayers will be for you, your family and your grandpa.

Be safe and be well

Answer 3

I don't know how to react. My brother took his own life on Saturday. They didn't find his body until Tuesday evening; he was missing since Saturday though.

We found out that his wife had been having an affair and was planning on leaving him.

I don't know yet how to react. I am very sad and angry at my sister-in-law and very worried about their children.

I am so sorry about your grandfather. I only now know how hard this is for you and your family. You will be in my prayers.

Answer 4

First and foremost, I wish to apologize for your loss. It is very hard to grasp and understand why one would want to take their own life, my husband tried to kill himself last year. First there will be shock, then you will want answers, then their will be confusion. Why could I not see that my loved one was suffering so deeply? Then the anger comes and that is the hardest to deal with, why was this person so selfish, why could they have just not talked to someone, why did they chose to leave us behind. It is a very tough thing to deal with and I wish you and your family all the best in getting through these tough times, but always try to remember the good times that you had with your grandfather

Answer 5

I tried to take my life 22 yrs ago, but lucky for me I didn't succeed. I tell you, at the time, I felt it wasn't a selfish act. Quite the contrary. I felt that my family would be better off without me, that I was a hinderance. I truly didn't want to be here anymoreI What I am trying to say is he is happy now, out of pain, whether it be physical or mental. Remember, people have free will. Just know that he loved you and you loved him, no matter what. Wish you luck and hope you will find peace.

Answer 6

In bitter shock was my reaction. That has happened to family/close friends 3 times in the last 3 years so I know what you are feelling. I was mostly shocked about the whole thing, but you have to remain strong for yourself. I remember that when my friend took his life I wanted to go die as well, but you HAVE to realize that things never get that bad! Praying helped me a lot too. I couldn't have gotten thru that stuff without God by my side.

Answer 7

My uncle committed suicide. It had an excellent result on my father. i did no longer rather get to comprehend him, it became into nevertheless very unhappy and harm anybody. no longer merely having this variety of super loss even though it sent my father right into a rather undesirable state of melancholy. he's been occurring hill ever because of the fact. My mom have been given bored stiff with it and that they separated (i do no longer blame my uncle nevertheless.) It opened my eyes that loss of life is something all of us face ultimately... i'm unsure i ought to of dealt with it besides as I did if I had prevalent him extra suitable. It became into undesirable sufficient gazing my dad crumble.

Answer 8

dude that is a serious thing my mom, dad and everyone in my immediate family has tried to commit suicide and none of them succeeded but sometimes things like this just happens and you have to deal with it and remember its okay to show emotion about it but not in a harmful way!!!

Answer 9

Aww, thats sad. Your grandfather... thats real sad. I'd freak out. You seem calm though, stick with that.

Answer 10

I would cry for days. But your grandpa might have been suffering and didn't want to tell anyone. Just keep in mind how much he loved you and you loved him. And keep him in your thoughts.