I love my fiance more than words can say however all my life i have wanted a big wedding..just like cinderella...now I am having second thoughts not about the marriage but about the wedding..we are of limited means..we have money and live comfortable however my family isn't going to pay for this cinderella wedding..I have been thinking that i want to get married in the courthouse and have a small reception until we can afford as a couple that cinderella wedding I have alwys wanted...so should I wait for my dream of a cinderella wedding or follow my heart and marry the man I love in the courthouse which I know he would perfer??? What would you do???
2007-07-12 18:10:56 · 29 answers · asked by alwyswaiting107 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
MARRY HIM! it's not the wedding that makes a marriage! You will be just as married as someone who has a huge expensive "show" of a wedding.
Since he is the perfect man for you- plan on renewing your vows at your 10 year anniversary and have your Cinderella wedding then. That will give you time to save up. :)
PS- kudos to you for not going into major debt for a wedding- I think that it's plain silly to start out married life in debt over a huge wedding that is all said and done and you are paying for it for years.
2007-07-12 18:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by Amy P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are of limited financial means and you're family isn't willing to pay for your dream wedding, the court house is the next best thing. But it is supposed to be the biggest and most phenomenal day of your life, you're supposed to have the huge wedding and all of that.
Yet if you can't afford it then you can't afford it, it's that plain and simple. But you should really think about if this marriage will be the best thing for you right now. If fiances are a problem, that will of course be an issue when you two are married and find that there is SO much to pay for , even if you do have a basic living.
You should really sit down with your fiance and see if you guys are ready for marriage, in all aspects, cause love isn't enough, even if the song says so. In a couple years you guys might find yourselves stuck and realize that marriage wasn't going to work for the finances and that ends up pushing you two away from each other. Until you know for sure absolute this is the right thing to do, don't do it cause you'll only ruin the life you'll have with the man of your dreams. If he is really that, then both of you should understand that marriage should come when the logistics will work out, cause court room marriages are no way to celebrate that and what that devotion means.
2007-07-13 01:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, this sounds like me!!!
I wanted to marry in my church and have a big reception in my hometown, but things didn´t work out like I wanted.
Since my fiance is German, we wanted to get married in the easiest place we could, and the absolute easiest place to do this was somewhere that I swore I would never marry...Good old Las Vegas. Do you know what happened? I realized that Cinderella weddings don´t have anything to do with how much you love the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. I have attended Cinderella weddings, and the couples have gotten a divorce-do you think this had something to do with the wedding...no!
Where you marry is one day out of the rest of your life!!! Why not do everything else you fantasize about-I wanted a full length dress all of my life, and I got one. I wanted my Dad to walk me up the aisle, and he did. The most important thing is the relationship after the wedding, not the wedding itself. Live within your means, and follow your heart.
We had a blast in Vegas, and we want to go back there. I hope we go back there when we are in our 80s and still together!!!
2007-07-13 05:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand about wanting to have your dream wedding but if you would seriously consider not marrying guy you say is the man of your dreams just becasue you can't have the expensive cinderella wedding, either a) he's not the man of your dreams or b) you're being seriously shallow and superficial. If you love this man like you do it shouldn't matter where you get married, it should matter that you're doing it.
2007-07-13 01:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by booberann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like the courthouse thing...and I understand the cinderella wedding and cost, I suggest somewheres in the middle and not only you but your parents and all involved will feel that was a great way to do it.
2007-07-13 01:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married and have the "cinderella" thing later if you still want it. My husband (of 23 years) and I got married in the courthouse. Money was tight for a few years, but I wouldn't have traded them for ANYTHING. We've had several big anniversary celebrations and for our 25th we have big plans. The longer you wait, the longer you miss out on this wonderful adventure! Best wishes.
2007-07-13 01:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should marry the man of somebody's, not your dreams, as long as his parents pay for a big wedding.
What are you stupid? Who cares about a huge wedding?
Marry the guy, be happy and have a huge 5 or 10 or 25 or 50 year anniversary.
2007-07-13 01:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why settle for a courthouse? How about finding a small chapel. It would be a lot more memorable. Some Justices of the Peace have chapels set up in their offices. The courthouse just seems too cold.
2007-07-13 01:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have a very nice wedding, even on a budget. You might be surprised. Bridal magazines and websites often have great ideas. With a little planning and resourcefulness, I think you'll end up with a very nice wedding. It might take awhile to shop around, but you'd be surprised by the deals you can find! I found the cutest little Victorian church in my town, and it turns out, it would only cost $200 to rent it! David's bridal has tons of dresses to choose from, many at very reasonable prices. I think you can find a hapy medium that won't cost too much.
Good luck!
2007-07-13 01:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by Priscilla B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go ahead and get married to the man of your dreams, Plus they always say the more money you pay for the wedding like the really expensive ones you won't last long..
2007-07-13 01:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpeaches1934 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋