a shy child learns to stand up and be counted and earns a few success and you easily buy your veneer of confidence until you are an arrogant ah. and people complain and you really don't care until one day. one day you are alone. and older. i think bordeline personality disorder is the result of enviroment and conditions, do you? would like to hear from a witness not a theorist but i will grately accept all input. i just don't trust ordinary health care professionals. most, i find, are extremely abstract, prefer abstract and like pills no meaningful, insightful allegories and such. i am one who appreciates technical writing but you cannot explain emotions and humanity that way. exceptions to everyting, a first time for everything but i have crossed paths with such a thing. tell me a story.
2007-07-12 17:30:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
INCREDIBLE -- so many excellent answers. Never had this experience on "Answers." However, i asked for a story, an alegorical approach, and i will be true to my stated request. Thanks people. Best answers all if i could. Some for the files.
2007-07-15 02:53:54 · update #1
ANY of you answerers have any views, going a another step, able to comment on any sense of the possibility of a higher power?
2007-07-15 03:03:41 · update #2
yes and no, borderline personality disorder is the result of environmental conditions.. I was recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder and half of me blames my family background and environment, the other half blames my drug use and brain chemical imbalance.. but no matter what the cause is, unfortunately we just have to accept that we live to exist in a battlefield.. there's always the good vs. the evil and most of the time, we blame the existence and the influence of evil, when in reality, we are almost always faced with the battle against ourselves, of being in control or uncontrolled. It really depends on the choices we make, sometimes we can't even make the right choices. It's really hard, really, really hard.. but i think what's important is to become positive about what you're going through, believing that something is happening for a reason. Believing in your own self and acknowledging your in-born strength to survive and exist despite it all. it may seem vague today, but time will tell when you can cope up and live with it, as if living-like-you-don't-have-it, from then on everything will be positively clearer and brighter.
2007-07-12 18:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by makemepositive 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's a story.
Once upon a time, there was a little fair-haired, blue-eyed girl that gave smiles and hugs to everyone she loved. She had a pure heart. No one taught her how cruel life would be, even within her own home. Years and years of abuse from the evil of the world took it's toll, but then, why wouldn't it?
Telling herself she IS good, she IS worthy, she IS important and she IS valued helped her to cope and deal with the cruelty of the world. Even if she rarely ever heard another person acknowledge her contribution to life.
Would it have been better for her to take the road to ruin and go off the deep end in some ways? Drugs, alcohol, promiscuity? No, because that is exactly what the evil of the world wants. She took the high road, the hard road...the road much less traveled. Rarely seeing others who follow that path quite simple because they are so few in number.
And today, she prefers her own company to the multitudes of phonies. She prefers her solitude to the worthless small talk. She prefers to do her craft, to weave her words to think her tapestry of thoughts. For she has wisdom and she doesn't need to be a part of the "norm". For what is the norm really? It looks pretty sick from where I sit.
2007-07-12 17:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I spent my life trying to become what others want.... partier, student, daughter to be proud of best parent in the world.... but failed miserably.... until one day when i decided to quit the drugs and stopped seeking the acceptance of others and began to rely on my own ideas and feelings.... and now I better at all those things with out really trying hard. I changed my perception (which was hard work) and voiced my opinion without fear and yes personality disorder is the results of the enviro and cond............ I found myself speaking and acting one way around my mom and another around my dad and friends ect.... now i just speak out loud my thoughts and I feel better and for some whacked out reason people are attracted to me.... some get offened through there own insecurities... but most appreciate my honesty and come to me again and again for my thoughts on their issues.... I offer experiance... but if I havn't been through the same thing as they are going though I let them know this and then try to offer them a few simple suggetions i.e. support groups or writing... don't know if this helps but the way i perceived your question my differ from what it is your looking for
2007-07-12 17:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by trish m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have direct experience, but not borderline, i have the other pd, 'self in exile', (aka schiziod).
I'd like to witness if I can, I think I get your drift, I relate to these issues, about being real, about the professionals and that they can be shallow, not understand what theyre doing, the harm of taking things out of reality and into thier carreer structure, or hierarchical structures, and yet, also, the theory can be so so enlightening, I deal with this dichotomy. Yes, the poignancy of being human, the emotions the subtle underlying paradigms that tho they are unspoken can yet be felt and be so obvious but nobodys saying it. I had a T. I loved her, she got me by all my emotions, but couldnt see what she was doing,I felt like i was being stranngled at times, so I left to take a breather, and wonder what to do, hopefully revive by talking to others.
x.river
2007-07-14 00:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
is acceptence doable? who is the judge when you are only asking yourself? it is only doable if you want it to be. no one can tell you how you should feel or what you should and should not accept. it is a matter of what you will and wont do. and as for the meds and such, it doesn't matter how many you take, there is no magic pill, no great panacea, one has to want to get better and put in their own effort as well. come to terms when you are ready, and no sooner.
2007-07-12 17:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by leperchaun 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do not believe that personality disorders are caused by environment. I think I have raised my children with love and acceptance and discipline and I have a step-daughter with Bi- polar disorder. She has lived with me for most of her life, not raised by her natural mom who is also bi-polar and her maternal grandmother who was not diagnosed but committed suicide because of it we are fairly certain.
In my opinion, things like personality disorders, mental health, and sexual orientation are not things caused by environment but genetics. I suppose that a person subjected to extreme abuse could develop such things but I have no experience with that.
2007-07-12 17:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by rcsanandreas 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Breathe...ok? In with the good air...out wih the bad.....I agree most doctors would rather serve as legal "drug pushers" than actually "help" anyone these days.
2007-07-12 17:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by Chaz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋