all of these guys seem to like me, and i'm a really nice person, so i try not to be rude or anything, and they dont make it obvious enough about liking me that i could confront them about it.
one guy asked me if i had a boyfriend, then as he was about to leave, asked me quickly for my number, and i didnt want to say no, so i gave it to him, but i think he got the wrong impression.
another guy keeps calling me, asking to hang out.if i'm not busy, i'll accept, because he really is a cool guy to hang out with, i just dont like him that way.
and then this other guy, i told him i just like him as a friend, and it was pretty settled at that, but then he randomly asked me if he thought we would ever be more, etc..
almost all of my friends are guys, and i like hanging out with them, but i'm really not interested in them as boyfriends..i still wanna keep my friends though, and i dont wanna look like a whore..please help!
2007-07-12 15:31:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello - - c o m m u n i c a t i o n. Just say "thank you for asking for my number, or for asking me out, however I am not dating right now, or I have a boyfriend".
It is just that simple!
2007-07-12 15:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ♥Be Happi♥ ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well not going out with them you wont look like a whore I promise. You just need to tell your friend you have a rule that you will never date a friend because it may not turn out good and you love your friends and want to keep it that way. The other thing is if a guy says to you do you have a guy and you are not interested, and he asks for your number say you seem nice but I am not interested in dating right now but thank you. That way you will not hurt his feelings much, oh he will he hurt some but it's not like some girls I've heard that say hell no I'm not giving you my number, or the ones that give a fake number that is mean and disrespectful. I mean if a man asks he likes you, you should be flattered and not be mean. So just say no thank you but I am not interested in dating right now. Oh and remember if you make the no dating friend rule, you have to stick to it, or there maybe a lot of your guy friends that will be upset and hurt.
2007-07-12 15:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girlfriend, good question! To start, I'll tell you that I have been in your shoes before...like most of my adult life...until I got married! My husband explained to me the way that guys think and you're right, they get the wrong idea. They may think you're easy or being a flirt even though you just feel you are being nice and don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. The best thing to do is just tell them you're not looking for a boyfriend at the moment if you don't want to blatantly say "I'm not interested." Something I used to do, which is kind of a cowardly way out of it, is to tell guys I'm seeing someone, that I already had a boyfriend just to get them to go away. I don't recommend that, it's lame. If you can, the best thing is just to be direct...most guys don't take hints well and they will not understand past what you say, they take things for face value. So if you are not interested it is best to tell them directly if you can. Otherwise, try number one. Good luck.
2007-07-12 15:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by BeautifulOne 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your interested as well ask him privately if he wants to go out - choose a place he knows and has been but not too crowded, remember if he is shy a bit of time with just you and him should get him out of his shell. At first you might need to be the one to start conversations but don't seem desprate. Oh and don't make hime feel like he is being shy. My last peice of advice is have a freind call you after 20-30 minutes just to make sure your ok, and so you can have an excuse for going. I.E. I gotta go someones just been rushed to hospital Let us know how it goes - CX
2016-03-15 03:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, let me tell you one thing. You are young, and probably as hot and fabulous as you'll ever be. So WHY are you so worried that guys like your company?!? As long as you aren't easy, you won't be labeled as a whore. Now get out and have some fun. And don't worry. When you meet a guy who you KNOW will last you a forever and more, you'll drop those other hanger-ons and move on to hopefully getting engaged and married, etc!
As for me, I have many guy friends whom I have NO INTENTIONS of ever going out with. So there. They're JUST FRIENDS. and nothing more! Quit the stressing--and have F-U-N!!
2007-07-12 15:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Diamonds_R_4Ever 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Here is what you need to do. You need to tell him straight up front that you are not interested in him that way. Yes, he may feel hurt, but it is best to tell him up front than lead him on and hurt him even more. Don't give out your number unless you really like the guy that way. Just let him off easy, by saying "Thanks, but no thanks" or "You are nice, but you aren't what I am looking for".
You also need to quit hanging out exclusively with guys and hang out with the girls more often. You increase your odds of attracting a guy you will like this way. How is that? Simple. If you keep hanging with guys, the guy you may have your eye on will not approach you because he thinks you are already involved.
2007-07-12 15:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me, just tell them you are not interested. Its as simple as that! They may seem settled to be friends, but they really just wanted to sleep with you. Don't be flattered by that too much either, because they also want to sleep with everyone else. You are wise to keep your options open when it comes to guys, a bad reputation can happen really quickly if you let it. If you lead them on too long, they will get ticked off and turn on you too. Just be kind, but honest. If you enjoy the attention too long, it will backfire!
2007-07-12 15:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's actually quite simple. If you don't have your snatch hanging out of your incredibly tight shorts, you won't have this problem. Tramps are usually flattered when they have to fend guys off with a stick(metaphorically speaking), and your clearly no exception. Just comes with the territory dude. If you dress trampy, guys are going to try to stick their ****s in your fanny.
2007-07-12 15:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sir 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well the best thing is to tell them what you just told us..."you like them as friends but your not interested in a boyfriend." If they have any respect for you then they will leave it at that and accept that they are just your friend.
2007-07-12 15:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be honest and upfront with all of them. You became friends for a reason. As to the guy asking for your number, just say that you are uncomfortable giving your number to a stranger. If he is a nice guy, then he will walk away.
2007-07-12 15:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by dabblin 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋