Is it okay to be going out with someone but still think other guys are hot? I mean, I don't tell him but I laugh with my friends about it and stuff. I am going out with a guy but am chrushing on about 5 other guys... I think some of them like me too but I would never dump my current bf. Is this okay for me to do?
2007-07-12 15:07:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you shouldn't really be crushing on them, but thinking other guys are hot is perfectly natural. I personally think plenty of guys are hot besides my boyfriend. But good job in not telling him. I don't think he wants to hear about it. =]
2007-07-12 15:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, its normal to still have attractions to other people. I mean guys stare down other women with their wives and gfs there all the time. Mind you some of them even go as far as thinking of a few in a sexual position or two. But that is still in passing. Now I would say you are on the same level here with being attracted to other guys. But the crush thing isn't so advisable. Because even though you say you may never leave your bf for any of those 5 guys you have a crush on. In you on some unconscious level you are sort of distancing yourself from the bf for some reason. Its like with the crushes you kind of have a back up net of guys in case it doesn't work out with the bf. Because a crush that means there enough feeling there that if you so choose or if the bf makes you mad about something you would call one of those guys up and invite them out one night just to get back at the bf because he pissed you off. So I think its best to evaluate for yourself why you would need to have a safety net like that. Think about what is going on in your relationship or lacking that you may be finding so attractive about these other guys. It may just help you out in the long run.
2007-07-12 22:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a human being. You have no mental ability to stop yourself from finding other men hot.
However, what you can control is your limits. Know this you have a boyfriend, and that you can feel emotions but you don't have to act on them. It's a fine line, but it's there.
However, if there comes a time when you know that you actually are in love with another man, there can be nothing else for you to do other than to break up with your current boyfriend. He can't be your boyfriend if he doesn't have your heart. However, don't get love mixed up with crush. You can't love five men at the same time.
Good luck!
2007-07-12 22:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure - just don't get upset if he does the same thing to you (or thinks "porn chicks" are hot)...
This sounds like a case of the old "Double Standard" - where it's ok for one partner to "admire" (but NOT pursue), but not for the other to do so...
As long as you are 110% sure you aren't going to stray, then it's quite healthy. Let's just hope that HE sees it that way ;););)
2007-07-12 22:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously other guys besides ur bf r hot and its ok 4 u to think so but its probably not good for u to be crushing on other guys
2007-07-12 22:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by thinktink_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a guy, i think that messed up. If you just want to fool around say it upfont before feeling get hurt.
2007-07-12 22:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, its fine, guysthink the same thing, **** , i am a guy, i'll be walkingthrough the mall with my girl, and this gorgeous redhead will walk by, i can look but not touch, so yeah, its fine to talk about it and look, but no touching... that can get u in trouble
2007-07-12 22:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh ya your young why wouldn't it be do you have a ring on your finger?
2007-07-12 22:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋