We love each other and know that we will be together. He said that he would like to be proposed to which I would love to do, but would like a traditional proposal, with traditional wedding. I know its old fashioned, but would thats how I would like it!
2007-07-12 15:06:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I let him know how I feel but he still wants it to come from me. Please help!
2007-07-12 15:14:43 · update #1
Why don't you both propose to each other. You get him a ring or a small gift and he could get you a ring. Then pick a nice place and ask together.
Good Luck.
2007-07-13 03:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... I wonder if this is the same guy in an earlier question who wanted an engagement ring?
If you were BOTH okay with a you ask him proposal, that would be fine, but you're not. I say, you get a vote, he gets a vote, and "tradition" gets a vote. That's 2 out of 3: better that he should ask you.
BTW, I was the one who asked my fiance out on our first date. I told him if there's going to be a proposal, HE's going to be the one who proposes, b/c I can't do everything! And he was the one who proposed.
2007-07-12 16:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I admit I am old-fashioned . . .
But if this guy wants to marry, then he will propose. Tell him you expect him to get his act together and do this properly.To me, it sounds like he is just playing games with you and is not actually interested in marriage.
You don't say how long you've been dating, but I'd be tempted to give him a time limit. If you have been together for a long time already, then give him six months. If he doesn't get his act together, then you move on. Dump him and find someone who truly cares for you and who will act like an adult . . . not some child playing games.
2007-07-13 00:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Suz123 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you asked him why it is so important that you propose? Does he think he won't have to get you a ring? Does he think you won't do it, and so there won't be an engagement? Or is he lazy? If he can't be honest and clear with you about this... well, he won't be about other touchy subjects.
If you decide to propose to him, be sure to do it during leap year. Any other year is unlucky (per my grandmothers).
2007-07-12 15:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by dabblin 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is joking to cover a fear of commitment. I dont think he is ready to propose so by saying he was hoping you'd do it, he is really saying "I was hoping you wouldn't start pressuring me to propose."
I just don't think he is ready yet. If you are traditional and want a traditional wedding--chances are he is traditional too. If so, he really doesn't want you to propose. He would hate telling everyone that you proposed. He just wants to wait a while longer.
2007-07-12 15:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would feel really weird if my girlfriend wants to propose to me. I would be ok at her hinting that she wants me to proposed... but not the other way around. If you're confortable with your boyfriend, why not do it? Does he expect you to pay for the engagement ring too? lol... maybe its not that bad, If my gf proposes, I expect an engagement ring!
2007-07-12 15:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by Nebby 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a friend who was in your situation...and he just wanted her to propose, so that he could know she was committed and interrupt part way through and perform the SWEETEST proposal EVER...maybe that's what your man will do.
2007-07-12 15:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by its about time 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes.. he wants you propose to him? Doesnt he want to make you feel like a princess and special?
Make im old fashioned.. but i cant wait until the day that my boyfriend proposes to me. I cant imagine him telling me he wants me to propose! That would make it so much less special!
Maybe you should tell him how you feel and that you prefer a traditional proposal
2007-07-12 15:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should, i feel that its a mans place to propose to the woman, but if you want to then that's on you.
2007-07-12 15:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
That's quite odd. Perhaps he just wants to get out of buying an engagement ring?
2007-07-13 02:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋