Im 18 years old and Ive always thought I was gay, but now I dont believe being gay is right How can I change??

Question

I know this sounds like a stupid question for many people, but I never used to feel this way before because I wasnt really interested in having serious relationships. But now I would really like to live a normal healthy life, get married, have kids you know the drill and another thing and probably most importantly is my relationship with God. i do not think he aproves this way of life (just what i believe). So can anyone help me?? I really dont know how but yeah........

Answer 1

Consult a doctor. I don't know if they can change your sexual oreientation or not, but they certainly can change your gender and then you can marry a guy and have kids, etc.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Well God made you the way you are, so he can't judge you without being a hypocrite. I don't think you can change something like that, it's natural. You can try to have a relationship with a woman, but I don't know how you'd feel or if it would feel too unnatural. God is supposed to accept all of us, so why not you? People believe you'll go to hell because that's how they've been raised, because their parents were raised like that and on and on, which all dates back to when the Bible was written, and my personal opinion is that some things are in there because they didn't want people acting a certain way. Just accept yourself for who you are and don't try to change.

Answer 3

You're conflicted about the morals of right and wrong. There is nothing wrong with you if you truly are 'gay'. I know that you may try everything to change yourself and force yourself to be something so that you will not have to be a disgrace to the people you love.

Be true to yourself and learn to accept how you are. You don't choose to have feelings like you do. It's not like you're an alien. You're a human being, and you hold the right to whatever your heart desires.

Hang in there and don't beat yourself up over something llike this. You should be more angry at society for making such a fuss over something as simple as personal preference. The only thing that matters is YOU and what YOU think of it.

Let me ask you this: If you don't accept yourself, how can others accept you?

I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Answer 4

Situations such as this is not unusual at your age. Adolescence is when our sexuality and sensuality develops fully. We can recognise our differences when younger but it is not until late mid, late teens 'we know' our sexual gender partner preference.
Many Gay men want the life of a committed relationship with children. Some have successfully achieved 'having it all' with their male partner.
How do you change? From all of my readings and from my g Gay male friends, it is not simply a matter of 'changing' oneself. If you are Gay from within yourself and it is part of who you are then being Gay is there for your whole life, no matter what behavioural or lifestyle changes you make.
The movie Brokeback Mountain is a perfect example of this and it also shows how intolerant and homophobic society was towards male homosexual men. There are still pockets of society today who hold these beliefs.
With regards to God and your relationship with him. This is a matter between you and him. I do not believe in a punishing God, I believe He loves us all and wants us to live together with our differences in harmony and peace.
The answer is within you we can only offer our thoughts.
Be happy with who you are in total.

Answer 5

First you have to take a moment and figure out "am I gay or am I straight". I don't believe a person "learns" to be gay or straight; it's the way you are. Don't worry about what God thinks, god forgives us; If you are gay and marry a woman just to appear straight, you are just puting on a act, you are being dishonest with your wife and yourself! You will never be truely happy and will never love your wife in the way you should, because your heart won't be in it!

Answer 6

At your age your going to experience different feelings, ultimately if you come out the other end of it intact your doing ok.

18 is a difficult age.

I experienced what you have, and i never went and crossed over the line, and for me i`m glad i didnt, i have a friend who did, and she`s screwed up now, as all she ever wanted was a bloke relationship.

My ex girlfriend has done stuff recently, and i know for her anyhows she`ll regret it in the years to come because she says its experimenting, but i know her and i know she`ll end up in an emotional mess.

Dont judge me, i have gay friends, but our views dont get discussed generally, its to mad for me to talk about it to people i care about a lot, and i dont think they`d listen to me anyway.

Sounds to me your through the confusion you`ve experienced, and realised that for you anyway, a normal healthy life is what you want to have instead.

In the bible gay is written as hateful sin.

We have choices, and if you choose being gay its your call, if you dont then its your call to.

If you have a relationship/faith in God like me, get your bible out and do a bit of reading up on this matter.

Answer 7

in my opinion, being gay is perfectly normal. its not something that you chose to be. it just happens. gay people can get married in some states, and you could always adopt. if you really wanted to change, you could go seek some help or trying to change. also ( to me) the church hates on gays. but god made them that way so saying you don;t like gay people is saying what god did is wrong.

Answer 8

gay people are born that way. you cant just change. its not like giving up drugs.

you could lie to a woman and pretend you are not gay.

Answer 9

you are what your are! I don't think you can change. At least my friend who is gay thought he could change and guess what ? Naw he still wanted men.

Answer 10

it's up to you. you can choose what you want to be.


but personally, I think being straight is more natural, and being gay is a choice.

you should look for a nice girl to be in a relationship with, and later get married and have kids and be happy