I've been talking/seeing this guy at work for about 3 months. We talk on the ph for hours sometimes, text a lot. Sometimes we chat on aim at work, we always hang out on breaks and lunches but we haven't hung out a lot outside work and weekends. I'm 25 yrs leave w my 2 lil sisters (18 n 21 yrs), he's 26 leaves w his parents. We leave about 45 mnts apart. So we don't really have enough privacy to be alone. We hung out only 4 times after work to grab something to eat or have a drink. This situation is kind of weird for me so I thought he probably has a gf/another girl. 1st time when I asked him, he said there's a lot of rumors about him at work and when I said if he wants me to leave him alone he said not to. The 2nd time, he didn't answer my question and things between us got kind of awkward it took us awhile to get on track again but that still leaves me with no answer if he has a gf or not. Sometimes I have doubts that he's into me but what I know is he said he likes seeing and talking to me also enjoys my company. He goes on breaks and lunches w me everytime he gets the chance because he's always busy at work. We've been calling each other hunny and he's the one that started calling me that. Last Friday he asked me to hang out w him I thought it's just going to be another ordanary night w him but it turned out to be a great date! (our 1st date) from the date, I could tell that he really likes me because he couldn't stop looking at me and kissing me on my forhead, cheeks, and my hand when we're holding hands. On Monday when I was sick, he asked me if I was feelling any better, etc but there are times that I have my doubts if he's into me because if I think about it most the time I'm the one that always call him 1 to 2 times a week or text him first everyday, and if I don't he sometimes text me and rarely calls me. He sometimes doesn't txt me back or pick up the ph. Especially on the weekends there are no ph calls or texts from him even if I text or call him, it would be a miracle if he answered me back. Btw about our intimate stuff, we only did that twice. Now I'm getting tired of this game and decided to stop calling or text him. In my head I do want to ask him but in my heart I think I already know the answer. So I really don't know what to do...do you guys think he's playing games, booty calls, into me or do I bother him to much or what is it? Please help me...
2007-07-12 14:36:36 · 14 answers · asked by marlie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
follow your heart ...it never lies...you know when a man is into you
2007-07-12 14:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound too young to actually need to care about this stuff. If I were your father I'd sit you down and tell you to focus on college. Figure out the boy stuff when you get there. Don't make highschool the best part of your life. That'll ensure you work at the local gap till your 40. Get great grades and join after school social activities colleges love personable people. Don't settle for cute boy in school. Get rich dude in college.
2016-05-21 02:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is not a booty call or you would have been intimate more than twice. Second of all, as a guy, I find it hard to be with a girl that I am in love with that much unless we are doing something really cool. Try finding what he loves to do on the weekends through a friend and go do it with him. This will bring you closer to him and his friends so that its okay for you to hang out with him around his friends.
2007-07-12 14:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by sudokisan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to pour salt on dat man game but shawty playin u. If he was a man (a 26yr old man) he woulda said u know what, I am talkin' to someone but we aren't on good terms, but i would like to get to know u better because i don't think that me and my gf are going to get over this. All that little play stuff at work don't mean crap. He is just passin time until he get off. And i don't know y in the world u slept wit him. He is tryin to have his cake and eat it. And u keep feedin it to him ovr and ovr. I can tell u like dis, b4 someone gets really hurt u need to quit callin him. If he really honestly and truely likes u he will start blowin up yo cell phone, textin u, keep beggin u to talk to him at work. Now for this to work u HAVE to ignore him. Now i don't mean not talk to him at all but when he keeps askin u what's wrong? and y aren't u actin the same? U can say i ain't changed, i am still the same. Then u will truely find out if he likes u or not.
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2007-07-12 14:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by atlantaboyizzy04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really likes you. It also sounds like for him this has not yet risen to the level of an exclusive relationship. It would worry me that he won't tell you whether he's dating anyone else or not. If you're not exclusive, why not be honest? It does seem like a good idea to slow down a little, see if he shows some initiative. And if you're not comfortable being only one of the women in his life, you should cut it off.
2007-07-12 14:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it, but sounds like he is just having fun flirting at work and got his piece a few times... If he's not willing to hang with you on the weekends and doesn't have the decency to return your calls/texts-he doesn't deserve you.
I would stop attempting to call/text him and if he does it to you during work don't answer-he'll get the hint. If he really is interested in you, he'll find a way to get you to talk to him, but make him work HARD for it.
Good luck!!
2007-07-12 14:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you have to look inside of your self first is he worth my love and time and if he is then sit down with him and ask him stright out and don't leave till he gives you the answeare how long have you had these feeling for him and does he have the same feeling for you you have to ask your self that he's 26hes a man but you should keep a open mind i think he doesn't have a girl friend i think he might be afaired of a one and one realshipe but hes hiding something from you if you don't get a answear from him then walk away move on theres plenty of men out there not boys k
2015-09-25 05:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by lmahoneyjr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow now thats a question! Well i think there is someone in his life but i dont think its a g/f. The thing is he clams up when you ask him and giving him an ultimatum wont work either. Does he have any kids you dont know about? You say he lives with his parents, could it be a crazy mother thing ie: she wont let him see other females.
2007-07-12 15:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by stevie-b-101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait....26 and lives with his mama? Girl, boo...go get a real man who is not trying to string you along at his convienence. And make sure you don't work with him. Plus, if he won't tell you whether or not he has a girl, there's no telling what he could possibly be exposing you to.
2007-07-12 14:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him not giving you a clear cut answer to whether he has a gf or not gives you a big "no-no" alert. If he really was not attached, he probably would tell you straight out that he is single.
2007-07-12 14:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have any doubts, ask yourself what makes you doubt, if you care for him that much, ask yourself if he is worth it and if you want to just confront him on this! There are a few sketchy things to, from what you mentioned. I hope it works out for you!
2007-07-12 14:40:46 · answer #11 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋