Is this normal?

Question

I am a 14 year old girl. Lately i have been going into yahoo chats and talking to guys. I like to talk to the guys about sex, what we would do if we had it and stuff. I find sex interesting but i know i am too young and i would do it until i was ready. I think i have been talking about to guys to replace my want to actually do it. Is this a bad thing? Is it normal?

Answer 1

It is normal to have a curiosity about sex, however, you need to be very careful. There are a lot of dangerous guys on line. You should stop now before you end up in trouble!

Watch an episode of To Catch a Predator to see what kind of scum is out there.

A better idea might be to talk to your older siblings, parents,or even your peers.

Answer 2

when it comes to sex there really isnt a norm or an ab norm. So yes you are normal. But you are playing a ver dangerouse game. and what you are doing right now is a game. Before you do n e thing in life make sure you get the facts.wether people want to face it or not even at 14 in some place at 12 sex is a big issue and this will not be your first and last question about it. I know you feel like you cant talk to your mom about this or older sister female cousin or aunt. but theyve been there to. meybe not the whole online thing but theyve been where your feeling. My suggestin is doint talk to a guy talk to a female.why a female no they dont have you body but they went threw the sme changes at about the same age. I personsonally dont agree witht he online thing. this is my reason why granted i dont know the laws for where or your from but chances are they guys your talking to most of them are not your age or perhaps even near your age there prob more to you fathers or uncles age. and i have a feeling if a hundred people came in here and told you to stop you wouldnt. so at least please do this be informed about you rrealy life and always wonder what the person your talking to online really is is he 14 or is he 40. and know that a true preditor doesnt need you to tell them any thing to find you.i dont want to scare you just knowledge you. if there there are a few things a gowing women should have its knowldge and self respect and i hope you always keep and find it . but yes your wondering is 100% normal

Answer 3

IN this society it is probably fairly normal but way too young!!!

I have known enough guys, who's goal was to get notches on their bed posts etc and then the dump and run to the next girl that I would say that any woman that has sex before getting married (married after dating for atleast 15 months or more.) is selling herself short!

One guy I knew in University would lie, cheat, anything just to be that "first time" with a girl and then he would dump her in a few weeks and start a new conquest. I had girlfriends (ex by then) coming to me asking why he wasn't returning calls etc. What a loser!

Be the good girl, find the good guy, get married and then have sex until you can't remember your name... but after you are married! You can trust each other and have a much more close relationship which will make it 10 times better. Your virginity is the best thing you can give your husband the day after the wedding... you're just too tired the night of the wedding.

Answer 4

Its not a healthy thing, chatting with guys, its normal to be interested and curious at your age, but go get some books and talk to friends, you are being very unsafe and dangerous. You don't know who these guys are and you seriously aren't taking it serious that it doesn't take much for a pervert, pedophile to figure out how to find you. They look for girls like you and prey on them. Stop doing that. You probably aren't getting the truth about sex on there anyways, you are getting perverts who don't respect or care about you, is that what you want sex to be like. It should be something that is about you and your partner sharing something and there should be nothing but absolute respect for each other. These guys don't know you and don't care about you, and they will say anything. I won't lecture you about your age and not having sex because you sound like you already know you are to young, but I will tell you that you should not talk or chat with anyone on the computer about sex, Its dangerous and you could get VERY hurt.

Answer 5

As a teen, it is natural to think about things like that. But to act upon it is something totally different.

If you do decide to act upon it, you need to be very sure of what you are getting yourself into. Sure you may get a few minutes of pleasure (after the initial pain), but is it really worth going through a lifetime of something negative by your actions? Think about it, there are a number of things that can happen if you decide to go through with that.

Unplanned pregnancy, HIV/AIDS, diseases! These are some factors you seriously need to consider that can and/or will be a possibility of your actions.

In reality, since you have to ask these questions online, then you are not really ready to tackle such an adult issue. Put your mind into more advantages things such as focusing on your education for one. Continue to be the child you are at this time and enjoy your life.

By thinking alone of guys and sex, you are trying to take on an issue you are not ready to deal with - physically, emotionally and mentally. Once you step into that region, it is already too late to go back.

You also need to talk this over with your parents, no matter how uncomfortable you may think it is. Remember, your parents were your age at one time as well, and they went through the same things your going through now. If you're uncomfortable with that, go to another adult that you feel comfortable with and talk to them. BEFORE, you think about doing anything!

Answer 6

Its not bad. Just be careful who you talk to. I think that its probably normal. Being 14, there are obviously a lot of questions about sex. I'm 15 but never really did anything like that becaue our school does a whole sex-ed thing and all that. Its fine though but seriously, be very careful who you are talking to.

Answer 7

Hi To answer your Question . I'm a 51 yr old guy and I to have niece's and nephews who now are having childern. And to say that it is normal for you, to be having these feelings about sex, Yes and no. At 14 you should be more worried about finishing school first, boyfriend maybe but talking sex to guys on the Internet,Sweetie please be careful OK?

Answer 8

Don't take it personally, but you are too young to be talking in chat rooms about sex. It is dangerous. There are a lot of people out there who could take advantage of you, so be very careful.

Overall, I'd suggest that you avoid those chats altogether.

Answer 9

It's actually very normal at your age to think about sex because your hormones are high and you need an outlet to talk about sex. Just becareful when you're online. Using common sense like not giving out real information is ok. I wouldn't say its a bad thing because all people are different, some prefer cybering, while others feel uncomfortable.

Answer 10

at your age it is normal to start being curiouse about sex...and these days it is normal to talk about it on line with other guys..the only thing is, it is not safe..they could be telling you that they are your age and more then likely they are perverts that are like in thier 20's and up..it is dangerious..i would say instead of talking to guys about sex to keep you from having sex..i would start educating your self on sex and read up on it in books and stuff that can be provided from your parents..i would go to your mom and just say ..that you want to know about this stuff and if she could buy you a book that can explain it..that you want to know what your body is all about..they have those books for girls your age to read...then maybe sometime down the road..way down the road..youll at least know how to take care of your body in sexual situations..like birthcontrol and condoms..you need to get educated...