about marraige,that i ain't getting into one,she told me that she doesn't want to be married either.We both talk about the issue of a kid if by chance she got pregnant,that we will both work it out to make sure that the child is well taken care off.Now that she is pregnant,i told her that she can move in with me if she wants.But she is now telling me that her parents wants us to get married and she agrees with her parents.I refused,because i told her from the onset that i'm not interested in married.
That she can come live with me or i will pay child support,my question is she makes more money than me and does anyone out here what amount of percentage child support is,and if there is any word of advice for me,because i feel that we are both adults and we consented that neither of us is interested in marriage,when we started dating and her parents consent should not coming since she is in her mid thirties and i'm in my late thirties.
2007-07-12 14:12:00 · 9 answers · asked by Abinobi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you are right about not giving in to a marriage that you don't want. You voiced that preference while you two were serious. I don't believe having a child changes that.
As for child support, I think they look at what you make and go from there, I don't think they take into consideration how much she makes because she'd have residential custody. I applaud you for stepping up to your responsibility to the child.
I do think she should've taken birth control or you should've used a condom if the two of you weren't ready for kids, but I don't remember you saying that. So if you two planned the child and she wigged out on you, you have every right to feel deceived with this new marriage outlook she has sprung on you.
2007-07-12 14:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents just do not want their daughter too look like a cheap woman because she got pregnant. No matter what the age, when you are an unwed mother, pleaple judge you and automatically assume that you are a terrible and loose person. They just want to protect their daughter reputation so that people do not call her names.
but htey also do not need to be calling for the 2 of you to get married...that is the decision of the 2 of you....if you do not want to get married....then don't, no one can make you.....but moving in together is not going to help the situation either. Both of you are in a terriable situation, and so is the baby.
2007-07-12 21:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, someone should have been using birth control but that is water under the bridge. she cannot force you to marry her, and neither can her mommy and daddy and I certainly would not give in to her if you do not want to be married. as far as child support, you can ask for 50/50 physical custody through the courts and then she will be paying you child support. but you may not get it since you are not married but it may be worth a try. really, you should talk to a family law attorney in your state as they all have different child support laws. good luck and congrats on the baby
2007-07-12 21:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, learn better english! second of all a man in their late 30's who cant speak proper english has no bussiness reproducing. She cannot force you to marry her, but maybe if you didn't want that responcibility you should have been more responcible or not had sex at all! you're a F***ing loser, seriously. Yea, I dont even know why you would post sucha stupid question on this.
2007-07-12 23:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Uninvited_Ideas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If moving in is'nt good enough then that's her problem. At least you want to be apart in the childs life. Some women have to worry about stuff like that on there own.
2007-07-12 21:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. 50-50 custody means you don't pay her, she doesn't pay you but child responsibility is equal.
2. If she filed for child support, it will be based on your income.
3. Don't get married or pressured if you're not ready.
2007-07-12 21:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry for her --- she thought you were serious and you are not --- marriage is just a piece of paper --- its the emotional commitment you make to each other that makes a relationship strong --- whatever your feelings about marriage you should make her your first priority --- pregnant or not --- if you care for her you would jump at marriage and being together not moaning about child support --- i hope she drops you like a hot rock because you dont deserve her love
2007-07-12 21:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were u and in love with her i would reconsider my thought about getting married for her and the baby. maybe u can tell her that u r not ready too and that one day u would like to marry her, or break it off with her so u dont waste each others time.
2007-07-12 21:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um,if she is in her mid thirties then what her parents say should not be even considered you two are old enough to decide what you want.If you do not wish to be married you must stick with your decision it's not JUST her decision it's yours as well,and she should be understanding of that.
2007-07-12 21:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by witcheshonor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋