Carter and I have been together for seven months. Everything was going great. We went to the same college together lived on campus so we spent a lot of time together. He proposed to me at the on the dock at the lake we came to so often to be at. He was always sending me cards or letters. He was so good to me and I love him very much. We could even read each others thoughts. So anyway, in June he was suppose to come for a week down at my house and we went to Florida to Walt Disney World for four of those days. When we got back to my house, that's when I noticed a huge change in him. I told him to be sure and call me when he got back home. It was like he was in a hurry to get out of Murray where I live. He quit calling me all together. When I would call him, he sounded different and seem to make excuses why he didn't call me and wouldn't want to talk very long. He went back to school because he has two weeks left.
2007-07-12 14:08:27 · 7 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you need to call Carter and ask him why the sudden change. Prepare yourself for rejection. It is better to know why and then go on with your life.
Best wishes.
2007-07-12 15:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ruth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your age (I'm assuming fairly young?) he probably found someone else he has feelings for, and realized he is too young to get so committed. He, being a typical male, also probably has problems expressing something that might hurt you (i.e., "I don't want to see you exclusively any more", or "I want to see other people" or "I'm not into you any more"). He took the weenie way out and is avoiding you, hoping you'll get the hint. It sucks, but you should move on and try to learn from the experience. It wasn't your fault, it's more likely that the timing was just wrong between the two of you. It's better to find out now than later anyway--you'd end up more hurt later on, with more invested in him. Hope this helps.
2007-07-12 21:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Corozal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously hiding something from you. I cant tell you what it is because...i dont know what it is. Maybe he did something he feels guilty about and doesnt want to be around you. Or he might be suddenly going through some emotional problems and needs time alone. I'm not a psychic and i cant tell what it is he is hiding or what he's up to but hope for the best, and just remember to love yourself no matter how it ends.
This happened with my boyfriend who i was in love with for over a year, i know he loved me too but suddenly after a year he was acting the same way your bf is so suddenly. I didn't do anything wrong and i don't know what he might have done he just suddenly said he wants to be friends and i didn't know why. I was so hurt and depressed, with the way he was acting i was expecting anything but it was still hard to take but wither way i knew to just take care of myself and move on. But fight for his love and tell him you've noticed his change and ask him what is going on - if he avoids the question too much like my boyfriend did when i asked then don't get yourself worked up and too emotional. Keep your dignity and be strong, if he's acting weird you're better than to feel like crap about it. Tell him "take your time with whatever is going wrong with you and I'm here to talk when you're ready" and find some things to keep yourself happy while he's....just acting weird.
2007-07-12 21:20:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sorry to say that I believe he is no longer interested. Did anything change between you? Arguing? Etc ... It is a possibility that he is busy. But, he is not to busy to talk or ever call. Perhaps he is involved with someone else. Check out Yahoo article "Five Signs of a Breakup" on the yahoo page. See if any of these things happened. If so, cut your ties, accept your loses, and move on.
Good Luck!
2007-07-12 21:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by davabombshell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something happen to Carter to make him change in his dealings toward you or maybe it's not you, it could be him. The next time you speak to him, just simply ask him. "Has something happen since the last time you saw him? - Maybe he's going through something, health issue, family issue, something with school. Whatever it is, he does owe you some kind of explanation, I would think.
2007-07-12 21:13:41 · answer #5 · answered by rwiamhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is trying to distance his self from you and something definately went wrong . I hope you can at least talk to him and find out . I think though it would be a lost cause . He is trying to say good bye .
2007-07-12 21:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's met someone else. He's trying to distance himself from you to make the breakup easier.
Can you go to him and see if he'll sit down and talk to you face to face? If not, then maybe ask his parents or friends if they know. Good luck!
2007-07-16 13:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋