We are "Best Friends" and sometimes lovers, but he drinks too much and is only 7 months out of a nasty 12 year relationship. When we met, we connected right away, and have ever since. BUT I do not drink like he does, and he says he is not ready to give up his freedom/partying yet. He is sincere when he tells me that my 2 children and I are everything good and wholesome that he has been looking for (even though my avatar might look suspicious lol) and that he wants me to give him some time, and when he gets through this funk he's in, we are the ones that he wants to wake up to every day for the rest of the time we'll have him. What on earth should I do? He asked me to give him six months, and by Christmas, he thinks he will have it worked out of his system. We are the same age and are getting older. Should I bide my time and wait to see if he is really not stringing me along? I am 2 years out of a bad marriage, and I am ready to get serious again. He & my kids love each other.
2007-07-12 13:40:55 · 3 answers · asked by KitKat 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you call him, get your own thoughts straight. What do you want from him? Why?
Let me tell you something... drinking is not the only issue here. It's all you see. He wants something better and you are the goal of what he is working towards. It would be loving and kind to bid your time and wait 6 months to see what changes he makes, but guard your heart. He may not change, but may give up and leave you in the dust.
2007-07-12 14:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by tgrx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps rather than ask us sit him down and talk to him --- if he is serious he will stop all this rubbish and make you (and your children) his priority rather than "working out" his problems --- any problem he has is solved by simply deciding on a solution and implementing it --- it sounds trite -- its also true as i have had LOTS of problems and decided to make them all go away by finding those that are important and fixing them and those that are meaningless and forgetting them ---- best wishes
sorry yes call him
2007-07-12 13:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should ask him this question. we cant really help you because we dont know what either of you are like and how you really get along. i wish you all the luck though and i hope everything goes well.
2007-07-14 03:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by flutterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋