A young teen, sort of a family crisis. Money problems.?

Question

I'm Taylor, and I'm a 16 year old girl. My family is thinking we have to move because of our money problems, and I really don't want to. I've lived in this house for years! I have a little brother, and a little sister. I've argued this with my parents before, and they said we wouldn't move. Well, this morning, I found some papers in the computer room about a month later with properties on them. And I'm very upset about it. Seriously, I could cry. I'm thinking I might as well go through with it, but I will not like it at all. I'm feeling so embarassed, especially thinking I have to tell my friends about it if they ask.

I was just wondering if anyone has dealt with this kind of problem, and advice to give me. I really want to help my parents out, but it's hard. I can't drive yet, and to get to a job, I'd have to ride my bike, and it'd take a lot of time.

Please, give me any advice and/or personal stories! I could really use them right now.

Answer 1

Hi Hon.. i'm sorry you're going through this.

First thing to remember... when or if your friends ask WHY you are moving, you can tell them because your parents have decided to do so! It's no one else's business about your parent's financial/money problems. Keep that to yourself, and don't embarrass them. I'm sure your parents are worried enough about money, without the entire world knowing they have problems... ok?

Secondly, i moved when i was a teenager, too. It was hard, but i made some very nice, new friends. The move wasn't a disaster like i thought it would be, after all!

Old friends kept in touch by mail for a while... but it didn't last because it was time consuming writing, and mailing, etc...but

Since we have email and instant messengers now, it will be easier to keep in touch with your old friends. Perhaps consider that option?

Sometimes adults have to do things they don't want to do... such as in your parents' situation. Be supportive, and try to go with the flow. I know it's frightening to have to move after all those years, but better things are around the corner for you.

take care, ok?

Answer 2

Some people are just rude and don't think about anything. Teens who have sex never think that they will get pregnant. However, some way or another it happens. People have to respect their decision. It's not like these kids were standing on the corner of a street just trying to get pregnant. They tried not to get pregnant and did their best but they did. The baby is loved more than some 40 year olds love their baby. Teens care for their babies because they want something close to thier heart and don't want anything to happen to it. So yes. I agree with you. I hate when people have rude answers like the ones you've stated, such as "Keep your legs closed." I think it's rude and disrepectful. These people don't know how hard it really is until they are a teen mother/father or they know someone that is. By the way, this is only my opinion. I'm 14 and have no children.

Answer 3

i don't have any stories to tell but, i think you're making to much out of this. you really don't have a say in where your parents move to. i know it's sad but maybe you could try to see there side of it. it doesn't sound like they want to move but they have to. i doubt they want you to be sad and your getting angry isn't going to help. it will only make the possible move tougher. you don't have to tell your friends what's going on. you're moving. case closed. if they want to know why, just tell them your parents want to. leave it at that. besides, it's really nothing to be embarrassed about.