My family thinks that since I am the closest to him (we are like brother and sister) I should be the one to talk to him. It seems like he has been dropping hints lately. We just want him to know that it is ok and we don't care...he doesn't have to hide it.
2007-07-12 13:26:26 · 15 answers · asked by cpaw03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think that people should not be confronted. just be accepting when or if he comes out. forcing him into admitting it would be very cruel.
however, if he does mention or drop a hint about a gay person, say something positive. he probably is trying to feel out your reaction.
2007-07-12 13:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should hint back to him that you don't have a problem with being gay and that you would still be there for a friend if you learned they were gay. I would not confront him directly. Coming out, especially to family members, is a big step for homosexuals. When he is ready to tell you, he will.
2007-07-12 13:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront is probably the wrong word and attitude.
If you want him to know the famiuy is cool, why not just mention a family discussion that occured where the topic of guys and gals liking the same gender came up and no one seemed to be turned off at all - keep it neutral rather than directed at him so you let him know no one in the family is biased against gay people without trying to say he is known to be gay and all that. that gives him the knowledge he needs to do as he pleases regarding his own sexuality.
2007-07-13 07:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he continues to drops hints, just causally ask him. It's good that your family seem comfortable with it-let him know it's okay, because what he is seeking from you is your support. He wants to know will his family understand and stand by his side.
When it comes to issue such as this-family support becomes liable in a person life. Therefore, as cousins just talk him blankly when he gives you a hint. I am sure you know what to say to him. God speed
2007-07-12 13:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, make him feel comfortable first and then you tell him that you will support him no matter what is his preferences. A lot of people afraid to come out in the open especially when they thought they won't be accepted or they think it is very shameful to be a gay for that matter, so the best way is to make him feel he is accepted and being loved and that you will support him all the way. I am sure he will confide in you.
2007-07-12 13:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by gem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would talk to him. He may be very conflicted inside and it would really help for him to know his family will still love and support him no matter what. If he's NOT gay, then I guess it could potentially be an embarrassing conversation. He may deny it but at least he'll know inside that his family all really love him no matter what.
2007-07-12 13:34:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care why do you have to confront him? Just as you say he is, 'drop hints' that you don't care. If you ask him and he's not gay he'll be wicked uncomfortable...
2007-07-12 13:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that you should confront him. more like, ask him. but before you ask him tell him to be truthful and whatever the answer is that you and your family accept him the way that he is. and then ask him. if you feel he is not exactly telling you the truth then keep talking to him about it and making sure that he feels loved even though he may be gay. tell him that his family feels fine about his gayness. don't let him feel uncomfortable.
2007-07-12 13:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by in a world of my own!!! :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT.
You have no business doing that and his sexual preference is none of your family's business either.
Put your noses elsewhere.
If your cousin is actually gay, and he may not be, he will decide if and when he will tell someone.
Geeeeeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzz.
2007-07-12 13:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you dont know any gay people, pretend you do when you have this conversation with him. tell him "danny, this guy i know that is gay is so funny. blah blah" complimant this danny. this will show your cousin that youre not disgusted by this. it may open him up a little and he might tell you. when he does, gentley tell him that your family has had suspicions and they are totally okay with it.
2007-07-12 14:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋