Okay this is really very odd, my 3yr old neice is Always trying to smell places where people have sat, look under the backs of girls skirts , ask people if they "did poopie", or walk up to people from behind and poke or point at their buttcheeks while laughing hysterically!
This is really WEIRD! Her mom (my sister) is embarrassed and will actually just walk away when she does this, or say "I don't want to see that". I just want to smack her hands when she does these weird things! What should I do? is this normal, Ive never had kids so I dont know what to do!
2007-07-12 13:12:27 · 6 answers · asked by wwe fan raw and smackdown 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No, it is not 'normal' and what the mother is doing (walking away) is part of the 'problem' ... but you CAN and SHOULD help this girl to become more 'civilized' ... but not do it when her mother is around. Take her to where you live ... and if you can take her for 2-3 days, that's even better (and Mom can have a little vacation!). Let her play, and the FIRST TIME she does her 'poopie show' in ANY WAY, pick her up and set her on a 'high shelf' (the kitchen counter or 'bar' is perfect) so you will be 'standing' and she will be 'sitting' and you can look her straight in the eyes. Tell her 'You are a big girl now, and I know you can understand what I am going to tell you. You are imitating your mommy's behavior when she was teaching you how to use the toilet properly. That behavior is proper only when a parent is teaching a child to use the toilet properly. When you do this, you may think you are imitating her and she should be happy, when she is actually very embarrassed by what you are doing, for both you and for herself. When a person uses the toilet, it's private. Nice people don't talk about 'poop' or 'pee' except when they are teaching thier children how to use the toilet. You are trained now, and I bet you wouldn't like it if someone smelled where you had been sitting, or looked up your dress, or asked you if you 'did poopie, would you?' (Give her time to 'think' on this ... she should answer that she wouldn't like it.) Then what you need to do is to stop trying to imitate mommy's behavior in this way, and find a better way for you to impress mommy. Now why don't you help me ... bake a cake and frost it, or draw a nice picture, or learn a new song she can sing for her mom. You will probably need to have this same 'talk' with her several times over then next 2 or 3 days, but by the time you take her home, she'll not just behave in a more 'civilized manner' but will have something 'nice' that she 'helped with' to take to her mom ... and YOU will be a very much loved sibiling to your sister for 'taming' her 'naughty daughter' so quickly!
2007-07-12 13:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Completely normal, my 3yr old son (and this is probably my fault) is obsessed with the fact that his new baby sister came out of Mommy's pee-pee (he witnessed the birth and helped cut the cord). Now he informs any and everyone that will listen where his sister came from, and walks in on me going to the restroom and tries to look at me while asking is any more like "sisser nana" (her name is Avianna) are going to come out!
At the same time I have a 3 yr old nephew (who was not breast fed) who tries to pull down his moms ****, so he can "lick and/or eat her boob boobs". This started after he saw me nursing my daughter.
Tell her sister that she has to stay calm, (if she makes a big deal her daughter will like the attention, even though it's bad) and calmly remind her of whats appropriate and have her give any apologies that are necessary. It'll all pass soon.
2007-07-12 13:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by JWilridge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not a normal habit, no, but kids do sometimes do this. Maybe she'll become a proctologist. Seriously. But, really. She will grow out of it. You can be the one to let her know sternly but nicely that this is not cool. Not cool. You shouldn't do it, you can say to her, please don't. Be gentle but firm (no pun intended) when you tell her so that she isn't freaked into shame or fear. Todd Parr, children's illustrator extraordinaire is only one of many many authors who address anatomy for kids, making talks like this super easy. Take the gal to Borders! Peace.
2007-07-12 13:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just asked if it was normal that my kid is showing his "stuff" to everyone and now I don't feel so bad knowing that there is a mom out there who's kid is sniffing butts!!! lol
HA HA hang in there I'm sure this too will pass!
2007-07-12 13:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree.
The most important thing is to not let them push your buttons- then it will become a game for them. Don't over react, it will only encourage them.
2007-07-12 13:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Hal H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its normal for yungins 2 b fascinated with that stuff. let her be at home but explain its innapropriate
2007-07-12 13:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Temporary Sadness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋