My former g/f of 10 years cheated on me but I am still worried about her. Her mother died of leukemia (had it for 10 ten years, last 3 she was bedbound) 8 months ago and she has never been the same since. She has and still, since the last day I saw her, made comments about committing suicide. She has gone to therapy since her mother died but still after all the drugs and sessions with a therapist has done nothing. She is severely confused and I beleive she has lost touch with reality. Even though I do not see her anymore and I should be very angry with her, I still care and love her. Besides getting on with my life, is there anything I can say or do to stop her from punishing herself?
When her mother was ill, my g/f was the only one who took care of her yet her mother was verbally abusive and controlling of her. This caused severe stress onto my relationship with my g/f. Any advice would be great. Thanks.
2007-07-12 12:59:40 · 8 answers · asked by cappatown23 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Man , you seem to bent upon harming yourself.
when your girl friend has already damaged her own mind that she can not see what is good and what is bad for her and for you.
she is thinking of suicide she is confused
and still you want to catch hold her finger such that she will take you with her on the way down the ditch.
have you not heard the proverb that .... when you pity some0ne , they will make your condition pitiable.
friend , it is good to help those who are n distress, but you can not help others without helping yourself.
if you are okay your girl friend will retunr to you.
you are feeling bad for your girl friend cheating you. and you have not come out that shock how can you help your already socked girl friend.
2007-07-12 13:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jhentee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you are feeling, but I don't think there is anything you can do. For about a year I was on the verge of killing myself and I knew even then that it was something I needed to do myself. I can say from experience that having someone tell you that they care about you means the world. The fact that your ex has made comments about suicide is actually a good thing, it means she does want to get help. If I were you, I would let her know that you are still there for you, in any way you'd like, but make sure that you make your intentions clear, because if she'd like to get back together with you and you don't, you could create a new mess of problems. My last piece of advice is: don't be angry with her. Cheating can't be justified and I am not trying to excuse it, but it is in the past now and it sounds like she just needs help.
2007-07-12 20:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is just best to move on. Your presence in her life may be a reminder of her mother and all the pain associated with the whole situation. You may be a trigger to her depression. Tell her that you still care and that you will be there for her when she needs you but that she has to call you. In the meantime, do something that makes you happy and be thankful for the time you did have with her. Good luck!
2007-07-12 20:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by kksay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if her depression is that bad theres not so much you can do for her,she will need a professional if thats the case but being there as a friend for her is important,just make sure a line dosent get crossed and complicate matters further ould be my advice
2007-07-12 20:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by razawire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your ex to go to a doctor. This is too big of a problem for you or anyone else besides a shrink to handle. Beyond that, just be supportive of her, but if she does something stupid know that you are NOT to blame.
2007-07-12 20:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by Tigerlily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could possibly call one of her family members and let them know you're concerned, but if you don't see her anymore, you need to move on.
The man she cheated on you with could still be in her life, so maybe he can deal with her.
2007-07-12 20:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if posible to still speak to her let her know that your willing to put the relationship and problems with her behind you and you still care and worry for her, let her know your available for her if she needs support, someone to talk ,sream at,etc. what ever she needs, basically be a sounding bored for her.
2007-07-12 20:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by semperfiauric2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do or say that will help. Your best bet is to STAY AWAY if you value your own sanity.
2007-07-12 20:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by nim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋