Why are so many people afraid to commit themselves to a relationship?

Answer 1

I think it is an age thing, the older you get the more likely you have had "learned experiences" about love hurting and are a bit warier. Fear of committment is linked to fear of pain and we are all scared to be hurt. Marriage and other committment is less and less likely to last - statistically. So more people are fearful. Don't let this put you off, so many people find happiness and committment. You should see it positively even though so many dont

Answer 2

It's not really fear, but forethought that holds them back. Committing is not a thing to go lightly into. I think people commit too easily, just for the sake of not being alone. That's why there is so much divorce. A relationship should last at least two years before it can be considered true. Most divorces occur after two years because nature programmed them to last that long. Do you want a lasting relationship? Or do you just want to settle?

Answer 3

Most of the time when people ask this question it's because they can't accept the idea they might not be perfect for someone they happen to like.

It's a way for them to justify being broken up with by blaming the other person.

Most people are not at all afraid to commit themselves to a relationship. They simply want to do so with someone else.

The excuse stems from people's desire not to be responsible for their problems, as well as their inability to accept the idea that they are not perfect for everyone.

Some people's self-esteem hinges on the idea that they are perfect, and if they experience any sort of rejection this view forces them to blame the rejector as opposed to themselves.

Granted you will run into someone who is "afraid" to commit, but it's usually a similiar explanation. They are not afraid of commitment in general, they are merely afraid that commiting to you would turn out to suck if someone better than you happens to come along. I'd say they are afraid of settling, not afraid of commiting.

I can't think of a situation/case/experience in which I've seen or heard of someone genuinely being afraid of commitment in general outside of a lame chick flick made to make women feel like men are afrad of commitment so they can later use that to justify guys breaking up with them.

Answer 4

My belief is that people don't want to experience that "buyer's remorse" feeling like you get after you buy a car or another big purchase. People have been bouncing around on their own for so long that they don't want to change their lifestyle, especially if they're uncertain about whether or not the other person is "the one." In the past I've been the same way, but i believe very firmly that I have found "the one" and haven't had any problems committing myself to her.

Bottom Line: The combination of a lifestyle change and not being completely certain leads people to have a fear of committment.

I hope that helps answer your question!

Answer 5

Because two-person relationships give too much power to the girl.

Look, whoever can walk away controls the deal. Girls have it much easier post-breakup than guys do. If a girl wants a new guy, all she has to do is put on a short skirt, sit on a barstool, and smile. It's a lot harder for guys.

I date around. If a girl I'm dating dumps me, I can shrug my shoulders and call up another one. I don't have to sit there wondering if I'm good enough. And my woman-attracting skills aren't atrophied from months of not flirting with other girls.

So I guess the real question is: why would I WANT to commit myself to a relationship?

Answer 6

Why get stuck buying one PIG! when all the PIGS are giving away the SAUSAGE for free ?
Not committing will allow you to get all the free sausage you want and can jump to another pig anytime with no apologies and no regrets because there is no commitment. The pigs who are giving away the free sausage have NO RIGHT to complain seeing they are WILLING TO RISK IT ALL instead of making the commitment and eventually end up with a soggy sausage!

Answer 7

You know what i have ask myself that question.due to i have once was engaged and when the guy would commit to me,they would end up backing out!. I have never been married.But i honesty think more now these days people are more about themselves or their afraid to commit to someone. those are usually the 2 reasons.

Answer 8

Because they are so afraid to be hurt. A relationship have to be of two. Both have to give all they got , and maybe the relationship wil work out. Is like a lottery you play but maybe you loose!

Answer 9

Its not always a matter of being afraid. Sometimes one of the people in the relationship is just there because there isn't a better one available. they know deep down its not going to last.

But other times it is about fear.

Answer 10

I think more people are open to a relationship because they now have the choice of a divorce. If that wasn't an option then I don't think there would be so many unhappy people in this world. They would use their brain to find their soul mat not lust.