How do you deal with nostalgia?

Question

I find myself most of the time yearning for the past. I just finished my first year of college and for the most part, it was a bad year. I'm not really sure what I want to do at the moment but I'm pretty sure I'm going to transfer.

I'm always missing my good old high school days. I had a nice group of friends who would always do stuff together. We would do a variety of things ranging from just hanging out to going on trips together overseas. Everything seemed almost perfect.

Now it's the summer and I don't know what I'm doing. My "group" of friends has for the most part deminished. I still hang with a few of them but theres a lot of people I've lost contact with.

Answer 1

That's life kid!

Sometimes everyone you know hangs around, has a good life, and stays in touch with the friendship you had. MOST of the time, this doesn't happen. After high school, the game is different. Different people are forced to categorize themselves into the schools that offer the best curriculum for their major, and that could be in Antarctica, and nowhere else! But, if that's what you gotta do, that's what you gotta do.

There are 3 things for you to consider here, at this junction in your life:
1. What do you like to do? What are you good at? What makes you happy? Really think about that stuff, and ask your family and close friends what their opinion is about those questions in reference to your life as well. You might be surprised to learn that your mom has always thought you were an excellent writer, and now you realize that you are, and in fact, you love to write! There ya go--you've got a major picked, and direction for a better school to attend.
2. Communicate with yourself. Be selfish for a little while. Heck--there's no one around to complain, right? Do stuff that your friends groaned about doing with you--like wandering through museums, reading books at the park, visiting your aging grandmother, volunteering at an animal shelter, etc. Give yourself a day of pampering with a massage, facial, manicure, or hair treatment (this applies to men as well as women).
3. Just because your friends are separated by geography doesn't mean they're not still your friends. Think about the things that made all of you crack up with laughter--post a comment on their myspace page to remind them of that funny moment. Admit that you will not have the same physical time spent together with all of them unless they're in town visiting family or on business. It's just the way life goes. Don't dwell on the past and be sad; rather, dwell on the positive events of the past, and focus on making new ones. Maybe while you're volunteering with Habitat for Humanity, you'll meet a bunch of other people like you that remained in their hometown and have lost their circle of friends. Bingo! New friend!

I completely understand your feelings. They are associated with fear of the unknown, and that's a mentality you have to force yourself to change. Don't be afraid of what's to come; embrace the boundless opportunities! You are only in your 1st year of college? The world is your oyster, my friend! You've only just begun to live.

Answer 2

My grandson feels the same way, he's home for break having a ball with all his old friends from high school. My son is in the navy, and when he gets leave he always contacts his old buddies. He even sent for one that lives out of town, and he is 43. I think everyone has at least a lingering yearning for the days when we were happy and carefree, it's human nature, but as we mature we have to realize life goes on and things must change in order to grow. Try not to dwell to much on the way things used to be, and concentrate on new friends and relationships to build yourself happy times now and great memories in the future! Have fun and join some new groups that have similar intrest.

Answer 3

This goes to show that life goes on and you grow up, and should also move on. you should be making new friends at college and doing new things with them.. that does not mean that you can not keep in touch with your high school buddies. they will always be your friends.. I am old enough to be your mother, and still keep in touch with the girls I went to school with.. but time does not stand still, and you must move on, and grow, and make new friends, and become a broadened man, and learn new things and meet new people.. to stay in the same place doing the same thing is not healthy, it may seem like a safe place to you right now, but it is not healthy. you really don't want to be the one living in your folks basement 20 years from now !! get out there and meet some new people and get into some classes that really interest you and have the time of your life, now is the time to do it..

Answer 4

While the past is full of good memories, wishing for the past makes one miss the life they are living right now!!
Recognize that you are at a point of big change in your life, you will make new friends in college and after college, you'll figure out the path you want to take. But if you're unhappy with the college you're at don't hesitate to move. Many people do after freshman year. Just make sure you know what was making you unhappy there. If it is simply that you are missing your old life, than make a pact to embrace the new life you'll make at your new place and that you will do it with the intention of making new memories that someday you'll fondly recall.

Answer 5

This is a huge time of change for you, from childhood to adulthood.
Be happy that you had those fun times with good people, take the memories with you on the journey into your new adult world and flourish from them. Its important to focus on the rest of your life, theres so much to look forward to. Ask yourself what your dreams and aspirations are, look ahead to even happier times, cause they will be.
Embrace the changes, cherish the fun memories. Its time to live in the real world and grow and prosper.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Can you involve yourself in an activity or organization where you will meet new people?