nervous about getting married?? You know like, you are so very happy and excited about your wedding but the nerves are getting to you?!! I feel soooooo nervous!!! My stomach churns when I think of it. What can I do to stop feeling so nervous??
2007-07-12 09:53:18 · 18 answers · asked by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
YummyGood - thankyou!! Haven't set a date yet but soon InshaAllah!! I'm feeling soooo nervous!!
2007-07-12 10:06:58 · update #1
i was excited to get married, but on my wedding day i asked like 15 times can we do this tomorrow, i will be ready tomorrow. everyone laughed at me...and made me anyway :P being a little nervous is very normal.
EATING BREAKFAST is very important! i can not stress that enough to people, EAT ON YOUR WEDDING DAY!
just take a day to calm down, no wedding talk, and remind yourself that after all is said and done, you will have a great man in your life.
2007-07-12 09:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Ah sweet Jabron-Ali, how little you know.
My first wedding, I was fine... until I was 30 minutes late getting to the church because the hairdresser took too long to get started on me.
Then my inner Bridezilla came out....and then I was handed a Valium and a glass of scotch. After that I practically floated down the aisle!
As I approch this marriage (God Willing the last) I still have twinges. I'm completely comfortable with him, he's sweet and kind and loving..but it's worse in some ways since I know just how hard marriage can be.
To the asker - Congratulations! Don't lock your knees (You'll pass out), And no matter what details come up, just think of how much you love your habibi, and that things aren'[t always easy...having someone with you when things get bad makes it a lot easier.
2007-07-12 11:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by lystrayel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting so nervous... it's annoying, cuz I'm not a particularily nervous person. I keep having a nightmare that I freeze at my vows and physically can't say I do. And it's not that I don't want to say it... I can't wait to marry this man!
So whenever my brain starts spinning about the wedding and everything that still needs to be done I stop and look at my ring, or read the card he gave me the day he proposed. It reminds me how completely blessed I am and what an amazing journey I have ahead of me, and gets me breathing again. Congrats and good luck!
2007-07-12 10:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its the same thing when you are with your woman or man, it depends, im not married but i have a girlfreind, and when or if Inshallah we do get married it wont be that BIG of a deal as we already know eachother, for some who dont know eachtoher much like an arranged marriage then maybe they butterflies in their stomach lol, we talk about it a lot and the only thing i be nervous is about how beauiful my girl will look, not that she doesnt look beautiful of course she is beautiful, slim ,Mashallah, but with all that jewelery and other stuff will make her look exotic but other then that it wont be like we never seen eachother before. considering we have been together a while now, Mashallah, but dont worry it be alright, go with the flow man, let nature do its course, it be fun and less nevervouse then u think, u might be suprised.
2007-07-12 10:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL Yes, I think it is normal. We have a pic of us together the moment before the judge came in for the civil ceremony--we are NOT smiling. Our eyes are so huge--like deer caught in the headlights LOL --we laugh about it--it's SO funny.
I was fine but super nervous all of a sudden a week before! A lot of ppl don't like to admit it...but right after we were married everyone came out with all their horror stories and their 'truths about being married' LOL.....yeah, it's very normal. It's funny how ppl would act about marriage before I was married and then once I was married all the 'dirt' came out - HAHA. I swear it is a conspiracy to get more ppl to get married--because if they knew the truth, they wouldn't! ;)
j/k....or am I???? LOL!
I forgot my advice! Just hang in there and yes, take a break from it all. Do something normal the way you used to before you were engaged. And no talk of engagement/wedding that day! Also, the best marriage advice I got was this:
You can choose to be right, or you can choose to be happy!
Think about that!
2007-07-12 10:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sassafrass 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes! I was a ball of nerves only because I was so excited to finally become his wife! It was so much wrapped up into one for me...seeing my husband at the end of the aisle, my father walking me in the chapel, our song being sung during the ceremony, the excitement of pictures and seeing the cake for the first time, greeting all of my guests and seeing all of the planning finally unfolding into a wonderful day! You're going to be so happy!! There's reallly nothing you can do to stop it...I wouldn't want to stop it!
2007-07-12 10:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes... Yes... Yes...
I am... My wedding is in less than 2 mths.. I am so nervous.. But I also want it to be over with.. Planning a wedding is so stressfull.. You want everything perfect..
Advice.. TAKE A BREAK... seriously... take a break from the planning.. from the issues.. from it all...
relax.. take a short trip somewhere.. let it all out.. go to a spa with teh girls for the day.. Just do anythign to keep you busy and not thinking about the wedding..
2007-07-12 10:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
We've not set a date either, but are doing a small courthouse wedding sometime in the near future. When I was getting sized for my band I was shaking so bad the woman sizing me actully held my hand still. lol...
I think it is natural, no matter how sure you are and all it is a big change going on in our lives/
2007-07-12 10:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by his wife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was not nervous in the slightest. I knew everything was going to go perfectly and had nothing stressing me out.
However my stomach was so churned up that I couldn't eat the whole day of the wedding. My stomach was tied in serious knots.
My MOH who is scared of public events--public speaking and walking down the aisle--was nauseous for nearly 2 whole days before the event. She didn't even make it to the bridal luncheon b/c she couldn't eat a thing.
How far out from your wedding are you? If it's this w/e--consider it normal and there is nothing you can do to get rid of it. Consider calming breaths and meditation for a bit to calm yourself. Think calm things and realize you have done everything you can. The only thing left is to be happy and tranquil.
However if your wedding is farther out--like more than a month--consider your body might be trying to tell you something.
2007-07-12 10:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Ooooooo!!!! Congratulations! I didn't know you were getting married. When is the big day? I wasn't nervous until I started walking down the isle. My father-in-law gave me away and as he's walking beside me I see him sweating buckets. But once the ceremony starts you forget all about your nerves and you're just thinking of your wonderful honey.
2007-07-12 10:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋