Suppose you are a parent of two preschool children and you are in your early thirtees, just establishing your career. Would you give up your career and take care of children? or would you opt for day care and continue to work? For either choice, please state your reasons.
2007-07-12 09:53:13 · 9 answers · asked by binqasimm20 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well, my hoped-for profession is a writer, which is fairly time-flexible and usually done from home. So if I had a wife who could support me and was willing to, yeah, staying at home with the children and writing when I get some spare time would sound like a pretty good deal to me.
Although like most men in this culture I'm conditioned to think of being the breadwinner as part of my responsibilities so I'd always feel like a bit of a moocher. It'd be a bit embarrassing when all my friends and relatives asked me what I was doing - I'd probably stress the full-time writer part instead of the stay at home parent part.
2007-07-12 11:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Somes J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation. I have to work because it takes two incomes to be financially stable. However, if I had to choose, I'd quit my job and be a full-time mom. My husband would be equally willing to quit his job and be a full-time dad. Your kids are your most important contribution to this world... more important than any job. If you have to have money in order to be able to support your family, then by all means put the career slightly ahead and opt for daycare during the work week... but don't put in extra hours unless you get paid for them, and make sure you're always there if your kids need you for after school activities or on the weekends and in the evenings. Don't live at work. The kids will remember, and they probably won't ever forgive or forget that. And keep in mind they aren't little forever. You'll have another 20 years on the job to suck up to the boss and put in extra hours if you need it. Enjoy them while they're small, and still like you!
2007-07-12 10:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Luann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would give up my career if I was financially able to. The pre-school years are especially important formative ones and I would want to spend as much time as possible with my children. I, however, have a career which I could do some work from home, so I could stay on top of my skills and be ready for employment when the children are older.
2007-07-12 09:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I could afford it, I'd be a stay at home mommy in a heart beat. I loved being home with my girl, going back to work was the hardest, heart string pulling, thing I've ever had to do. I would probably do some sort of side work from home none the less if staying home was a possibility. But responsible single mothers rarely have that luxury.
2007-07-12 09:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're assuming there's a viable choice to quit working, correct? That the mother does not HAVE to work for financial reasons?
If I didn't need to work, I would be home raising my daughter every day. I would still want the fulfillment that work generally provides (or at least should provide), so during school hours (once they're in school) I would work or volunteer. But my daughter is the focus of my energy - I would choose to be her sole caregiver.
2007-07-12 12:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work because I have to. financially I cannot stay home. But if I was financially stable and could afford to stay home, I would. The preschool years are so important. My kids are now in school full-time and I feel horrible that I cannot volunteer at school or just be at home when the bus drops them off. I feel that it is important to support the kids. But I have to work, so I have to support them in other ways.
2007-07-12 10:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by docbrownis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say work, because it will allow them to have a better life. Also, I am not sure if any man actually believes a "stay at home mom" is a REAL job. Plus if anything happened to my husband, I would still be able to provide for my children.
2007-07-12 10:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would "give it up", i think if it is possible it is great for kids to have their mom around all the time, there are other factors too, low income families, or single parents, but if both parents are working just to have a bigger car, nicer house... then i think they have their prioritys messed up.
i don't think you have to "give up" your career though, maybe just take a break while your raising your kids. once i am done raising my kids i will go back to being a nurse.
p.s. if you HAVE to work i pass no judgment, its just the people that work to "keep up with the jones' " that annoy me
2007-07-12 10:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by karateJenn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No..I give up my career...I am doing it now...Time flies...and in the end..all you can take with you is memories...and in return..its all you can leave behind as well.
My only goal in life is to spend every second I can with them...because that second...could be the last one I get.
2007-07-12 10:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋