My cousin planned on taking a trip in Sept. from the 5th to the 9th to South Beach....now with a child entering the 1st grade I thought I would be able to go on the trip and return in time for the first day of School but I just yesterday learned that in NYC school is starting on Sept 4th this year (earlier then I thought)......Now I can't go but she's telling me to get someone else to watch her so I can go on the trip.....I'm not missing my daughter's first week of school just so I can go to South Beach cause SHE needs a vacation.....Why doesn't she understand that that's no one elses responsibilty but my own??? Why is she being so selfish?? She's Mad at me cause she wants to go but her daughter isn't in school yet and she doesn't understand....
2007-07-12 09:11:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she doesn't understand because she is not looking at it objectively. if it were her in your situation we would hope that she would make the same choice you did. so try making her put herself in your shoes. memories with your kids are priceless and you can can't turn back time and say "man i wish i had been there". you just need to make sure you are. our kids are our worlds vacations are nice but i know my kids would come first!
2007-07-12 09:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by MotherTeresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't really need to understand- she just has to accept, like you do, that Mom's put their kid's needs first, and not their own. So do what you know is right, and cancel or change the dates of the trip so you can see your girl off to school like a good Mommy should.
2007-07-12 16:16:49 · answer #2 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her be mad. I understand where you're coming from...I also understand how hard it is to find the right babysitter, fighting off the guilt at leaving your child behind for awhile, so yes, I get she's disappointed, but it's NOT your fault and she will get over it. Her disappointment at you not going is what's in her head right now, give her some time, she's a mother too, she'll eventually get it.
2007-07-12 17:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cuz is just going to have to accept, what you told her. You want to be their for your daughter, and that it. Let her stay mad, she will get over it.
2007-07-12 16:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not have kids. She can not understand your perspective. Stay home, bring your kid to school. She cant deal then to bad...
2007-07-12 17:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Shootsscores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not need to understand anything except that you will not be going!
2007-07-12 16:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's being self centered....which will pass.........not being there for your daughter would last a life time.........she will not understand........but tell her anyway
2007-07-12 16:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by bandit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋