2007-07-12 08:46:50 · 10 answers · asked by ♥ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm so sorry you lost your baby. It didn't matter how he got there, he was your child, and you loved him.
I lost two babies. One was really early, but the other was 17 weeks--almost half way. I still cry thinking how the family would have been with another little brother.
Is your sadness because of the baby, or because of the rape? Either way, some counseling would help a lot.
Please don't let this situation cause you to want a baby badly in your life now. Both you and a baby would be better off if Mom had educated herself and had a good job. If you can just hold off for a few years, you can have a wonderful life with a family you adore.
2007-07-12 08:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
And you will ALWAYS have some 'sadness' ... both over having been raped, and over having the miscarriage, even if you didn't want to keep the baby. (It's not really 'clear' whether the rape got you pregnant, or if you were pregnant and the rape was so violent that you miscarried a child you were carrying).
I really don't have nearly enough information to give you a good 'diagnosis' for treatment, nor do I know that you even NEED treatment. THAT IS UP TO YOU! If you are 'in doubt' for ANY reason, then please go see a 'counselor' (preferably a psychologist) and talk to that person about 'what you feel is wrong' and what you would like that person to 'help you with.' It may be that all you needed to be told is that it is PERFECTLY NORMAL to feel sadness in your situation, and that you are (probably) fine and should 'move on with your life' as much as possible (you WILL 'think about it' from time to time, but that will naturally lessen through the years). It may be that you would benefit from being 'in therapy' where you can 'talk openly' about your 'problem(s) and learn to 'deal with them' in a better and more successful way. So ... it's now 'up to you' and ONLY UP TO YOU (not anyone else, even those who are close to you) to decide 'what to do' ... but if you 'feel shaky' about 'going it alone' then PLEASE go see a counselor and 'lay EVERYTHING out' so that the two of you can make a better 'decision' about what YOU need or want to do. GOOD LUCK. I'll be praying for you and your 'lost baby.'
2007-07-12 16:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sadness will eventually suppress but never go away. You are sad because one, you lost a child. Secondly, you are sad at how the baby came about. Just know that one day you will be able to have a child that was created in a loving relationship. The person that raped you may have taken away something from you, but you can definitely grow from it.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-07-12 16:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by ericka1031 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a journal so you can get your true feelings out. Do it for at least a month. You will be surprised what will come out when you write. Try to seek help. If you live some colleges offer free mental health if you are a student. I know RCC does. Look into it. If you have a doctor discuss your problem and ask them for a referral to someone that can help you. Don't live in fear.
2007-07-12 15:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go thru this alone. It's not un-usual for you to feel this way. Speak to a counselor. That is what they are there for. If not in person, most states have a phone crisis center. The important thing is you survied and you are stronger then you were before!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-12 15:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy will make you feel worse, so you might want to talk to someone. Even if it's not a doctor or therapist. Talk to a friend that you can confide in and who will get you through it.
Sorry that happened :(
2007-07-12 15:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by TJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow-and now you are 37 weeks pregnant! Things turnaround for thes best.
Anyway, have you had any counseling? It's never too late to deal with this. Talk to a therapist. You shouldn't feel sad.
2007-07-12 15:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dalice Nelson 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
What's your question?
2007-07-12 17:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by soccerref 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you like to know?
2007-07-12 15:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by 3peas in a pod 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to hear that but what is ur ?
2007-07-12 15:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by Baby B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋