My brother's wife and I are always arguing, which always puts my brother in an awkward position. However, we have to see each other during family gatherings. I really don't want to make it difficult for him, or my parents, but I find her stuck-up, arrogant, annoying, aggressive, shallow and possessive. What can I do to help relieve the situation when we're in the same house.
2007-07-12 08:46:48 · 11 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be the bigger person and refuse to fall into her argument traps. There can only be a fight if both of you participate. Try to stay away from her as much as you can. I am sure if you feel this way about her there are others in your family who feel the same way. Everyone knows and you don't have to point it out. :-) Good luck to you!
2007-07-12 08:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Angie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her a wide berth whenever possible and be civil yet distant when you must deal with her, in order to avoid an argument or unpleasant discussion. If you give each other room to breathe, you may find you'll be less inclined to argue with her when you do interact. One of my S-I-L's also has a "difficult" personality, but we don't argue, but we annoy each other none the less. We have an unspoken agreement that my brother's happiness is the key issue, and remembering him, it's easier to overlook her arrogance.
2007-07-12 08:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your better half's mom is a witch if she is easily doing all what you're asserting she is, and for no obvious reason different than that she does not such as you. Is there a reason she does not such as you, and is that reason legitimate? nevertheless, you at the instant are married to her son and he or she ought to back the heck off!! and to not knock your husband too lots right here, yet i think of he's a wimp for not status as much as his mom, and combat to your dignity/honor! he's, in an oblique way, stepping throughout you besides, in basic terms like mom. Neither of them recognize you too lots, if in any respect. the priority, then, truly is extra alongside with your husband!!!! that is for the reason which you shouldn't ought to attend to his mom anymore for the reason which you 2 are married and stay one after the different, and exceptionally whilst she does not look once you. yet, your husband is the single conserving that channel of abuse and hate open between your mom and you via persevering with to divulge you to her and not protecting you. He ought to stand organization and tell his mom to back off, and say that for the period of any different case he won't see them anymore till that occurs. yet your husband does not have his priorities today, in any different case he would placed your thoughts and well-being first, in the past his mom's! that is that easy. He sounds like a moma's boy to me. And with those, you're in for an prolonged, agonizing marriage. stable success.
2016-10-21 00:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me. There is such a big family that I really didn't have to talk to her. Hope yours is too. Usually I would just speak to her and move on and talk to someone else. Finally after about 10 years things are better, but not great.
2007-07-12 08:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
girl u are preaching to the choir. I cant stand my brothers wife she is soooooooooo immature and thinks she is soooooooo beautiful. however as the good book says kill them with kindness. be so nice to them and then think all the nasty stuff u want in your head. put the argument aside and if she brings it up then put her in her place and tell her i will always be his sister HOW LONG WILL U BE HIS WIFE? i said that to my sister in law and she straightened up . i hope this helps u and keep your chin up.
2007-07-12 08:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the better person, smile at her , talk to her when she confronts you. But always be nice don't want to come between your brother and his wife, Keep your feeling to your self and be nice. Good Luck.
2007-07-12 09:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by Tina the cat lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I hate my loser SIL, most of the time I'm civil to her, or I just ignore her. You can't choose your family all you can do is make the best of a bad situation.
2007-07-12 09:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on being the best person you can be and think before you act or speak - ask yourself - will this help the situation or make it worse? Will this cause all to be joyful or cause anger?
Be what she is not.
2007-07-12 08:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My SIL is the same way. Be civil to her when around her. You don't have to go overboard just be nice. I only do it for my brother's sake. Otherwise, I don't care to ever see her again.
2007-07-12 09:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to other people like shes not there dont let her get to u and be numb to everything she says oh yeah if need to answer back if nessary but dont have feelings towards her act like her fony
2007-07-12 11:14:29 · answer #10 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋