What is everyones opinion with sex before being married? mine is that if you are with a partner and using protection and if you know you are going to be with that person for eternity there is nothing wrong with it. what are your feelings?
2007-07-12 08:32:02 · 27 answers · asked by alm27 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I still think that it is better to be abstinent until married because you can be sure that you know what you're getting yourself into before you get hooked on someone sexually. You can be pretty sure that you're respected and not used and dumped. I always had a tendancy to get way in over my head. Anyway, it's all a learning experience and we all don't do what is best but we learn anyway. I wish I could tell you that you will be with that person for all eternity. You never can tell. Back in the Bible times, you could have sex if you were engaged because it was the same as being married so I guess this is the same situation today. Go with your conscience and not under pressure. Don't let anybody judge you but God. Best wishes.
2007-07-12 08:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why speak of eternity? what do you know of what will be tomorrow, how can you know? It's a silly justification for your actions and could possibly bind you in the future, what counts are feelings.
By growing up you realize how you can't base your choices on such sort of assumptions like eternity, because they're indeed, basically assumptions, often illusions despite your best intents and things always change, no matter what you thought.
What counts is "now". You love him? Good, then make love to him because your feeling is pure. If it's forever, then it's for the better. If it'll end someday, well, your intents were right at the time and after all, you just made love.
Sexuality is a complex issue, you better start exploring if you care for yourself a little. I do not see how this could possibly hurt your faith, love is exalted in sex, there's nothing wrong with it, especially in youth.
Nature calls after all.
extreme christians won't agree with me of course, but I say sex is just in the natural order of things.
Enjoy it dear!
2007-07-12 15:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Laura L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO. You don't KNOW you're going to be with that person forever. I don't care if you're engaged either! People that are engaged break up too you know! If you're married then you're okay. I believe you need to save it till your married. And protection...so what does that matter? That doesn't make you any less not a virgin...you're still having sex therefore you are NOT a virgin. Just because you don't get pregnant doesn't mean anything. Besides, being a virgin is special. People can make fun of you for it and be like "Ohh you're a virgin blah blah blah" but hey, think of it this way. I may be a virgin, but I can always have sex and lose my virginity. However, you lost your virginity so I have that special gift that you'll never get again. You'll NEVER be able to say you're a virgin again.
2007-07-12 15:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by ihearttwirling 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's best to wait.
You cannot know you will be "together for eternity" until you have made that vow to God and to each other. If you are going to be together forever, then you can certainly wait for sex. It is difficult, but so worth it. You, and your boyfriend, are worth waiting for.
My daughter is 21 and has been dating a young man for 2.5 years. They are looking at rings and talking marriage. They are waiting to have sex until they are married. They both feel that sex should be within marriage. It is hard on them, but without sex in the relationship, they are able to spend more time getting to know each other and be true friends. They also know that they are committed to this relationship and it's not just lust disguised as love.
There are a lot of good reasons, even non-religious ones, to wait. You are worth it and so is your boyfriend.
http://www.lifeway.com/tlw/
2007-07-12 15:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Misty 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the bible is pretty clear about sex before marrage. My personal thing is if am thinking of having sex with them, then I need to have respect enouph to marry them.
Besides, how do you know if you are going to be with the person for eternity. I just left a relationship that I thougt would turn into marrage. Yet we are split up. You never know.
2007-07-12 15:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by JG-OR 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honestly my opinion is ya need to wait until after the wedding ceremony. You never know what will happen and you always want to have a clean heart and life before the Lord. Better to be safe than sorry so to speak. Not saying it's not difficult. It's not easy that's for sure. I've been there about 3 years ago. But I can tell you it's worth the wait. It just makes it that much more special.
2007-07-12 15:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by lisaandpathailey 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I had a girlfriend once, and I thought we were gonna be together for ever, but 4months later we broke up. I have a girlfriend now & I'm still not sure if we're gonna be together forever & we've been going out for 4 years now. So how do you know at the end of the day? Rather ask yourself that
2007-07-12 15:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by qrund 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you KNOW that you are going to be with that person forever, then why aren't you married already?
Whatever excuse that you are using to put off the marriage until later can also be used to put off the sex until later.
2007-07-12 15:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by Randy G 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian or not the Bible makes it perfectly clear that sex outside of the marriage relationship is sin whether it is heterosexual or any other.
The name in scripture for heterosexual sex relations outside the marriage is "fornication." The Bible states that no fornicator will enter the kingdom of Heaven.
Finally, I don't go by feelings because feelings are the most unstable thing to go by that ever was. They vacillate too much and can't be trusted as a barometer for anything.
EDIT: ANY THUMBS ON THIS ONE WILL COME FROM OPINIONATED OR WILLFULLY IGNORANT PERSONS.
2007-07-12 15:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
It really is not about what "we" think is right.....but what God thinks is right.
If we Love the Lord we will abide by his laws
I asked God a long time ago to forgive me for having sex outside of marriage (i'm married now)......because in his word he states clearly it is not what he wants for us.
Please refer to the site below and address the chapters given for details.
God Bless You.
http://www.verticalthought.org/vt/vt02/sexformarriage.htm
2007-07-12 15:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by WHOISTHEPUPPETMASTER? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋