My goal is only to find a companion that I can share some fun with. Just went to a happy hour and I realized that OMG...I have lost my nerve because of being committed for years. Any tips on how to approach a woman at a lounge/bar without looking like a jerk. Or advise on where to meet others. Never thought I would be in this situation. Any advise is appreciated..thanks ladies!
2007-07-12 08:24:43 · 8 answers · asked by rolo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Someone had suggested online dating services.... im not really cool with that. Any thoughts?
2007-07-12 08:29:16 · update #1
As far as freaky things....Im aware, Im from New York, blueeyz. Thats why I mentioned bars/lounges...cause im surrounded by them. Good Luck to you.
2007-07-12 09:14:05 · update #2
You don't say where you're from, but it's a whole other world out there. If you're not ready to take it all in....... lookout!!!!
People are into some "freaky" stuff these days. Just be you. That's all you can do. I'm in the newly single thing myself, and OMG! GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-07-12 08:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
meeting women in a lounge or a bar isn't the best place to look... many of these people are dysfunctional and irrational.
go to the same bar every day and sit there for a while... you will see the same people drinking to escape from life... not good.
i suggest joining a gym, taking a class (Karate or something?), socializing with family and friends, perhaps even hosting a BBQ or a get together with friends at your place once in a while, if possible. do you play tennis or another sport? get involved! take up a hobby. also, use your spare time to regroup.
i know that you are looking for companionship, and i think casual dating is just fine.... you still need time to recover from your divorce and all the chaos right now! don't you?
take care of you FIRST. i'm sure you will make new friends and find some nice people to date.
P.S.. If i sound like someone's mom, it's because i am! lol
all the best!
2007-07-12 08:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engage some spare time in a hobby or activity that you like and that women would also be active in and you can at least start by meeting a woman who you already share something in common.
I started college for the first time in my life and met a wonderful guy, and I was 47 at the time and had been single 4 years previous.
2007-07-12 08:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by sara r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo 38 single and stupid.....---Yahoo answers is a good place to spend some time. Keep you off the street and out out of trouble. I have no idea what you expect out of the bar scene??? Women slugs and Women with bills and Women with kids and no daddy. Women with drug problems and boozers and just every problem people go to the bar. Save your money pay off your bills and become debt free. Going out--go wherever. The only advise I can give you is if the ladies have kids--babies--boyfriends in Prison date and have fun. If you move in expect to pay the rent and food and everything else while the woman saves her money. Where ever she gets it from. Your best opportunity for meeting a nice woman is in church. Go regularly and go often. They know you are divorced no need to tell. Child support is one reason a lot of women don't date guys with kids. If you are a smoker QUIT. Catch more flies with honey than with ash tray breath and clothes that stink and house that stinks....Nicotine... There is a lot of nice women that are single and just want to have fun... Buy a motorcycle--OOOKKK Jerk?? your divorced your a jerk and it makes no difference what you wear---see that coming in the door.. Act like a nerd they like that but don't act gay...
2007-07-12 09:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Gerald 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to meet girls at a bar you shouldn't since most of them usually just want to have fun and dont want a realtionship and girl think the same way for men who try to hook up with them there. Just be yourself and bring the best qualities you have out. Good luck
2007-07-12 08:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by pm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advice not to try it in the bars. Usually if people are picked up their, it's for a certain something. Go somewhere that there are people and it's easier to talk. Surely you're interested in something. Volunteer, join a club, something.
2007-07-12 08:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll never meet anyone decent in a bar/lounge!! If you have friends that know any single women ask them to introduce you - or try online dating sites (plentyoffish.com is free).
2007-07-12 08:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't look for much in a bar, try a park or cycling or church, somewhere you will meet someone you have something more in common with than drinking, hey when you sober up what's there to talk about?
2007-07-12 08:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋