if, (god forbid) your husband died in Iraq and his group was coming home from their tour would you still go to great the rest of them even though your husband isnt coming home with them like he should have? my best friend who is pregnat wants to go great the troops who served with her husband. i just dont think its a good idea i think she will hurt more. seeing them but not her husband. im not a army wife so i wanted to get your thoughts on this. would you go? and why? for closure?
2007-07-12 08:11:33 · 17 answers · asked by lovely 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
and dont get me wrong im not trying to make you not go, i just wanted to understand and knowing that being a army wife is so different from a ragular wife i wanted to her others opinions and they are helping me understand. thanks
2007-07-12 08:37:48 · update #1
oops not trying to make HER not go
2007-07-12 08:38:08 · update #2
There will undoubtedly be members of the group coming home who will have no one to welcome them. Your friend will be doing them, and herself, a great service by greeting at least one of these singles. It will act as closure for both of them and she just might find a few new friends to help her along. Military folks stick together.
2007-07-12 12:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by TJ W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would go! Not a military wife, but I would. Just because I totally support out troops, no matter what their mission is. Even if myself or the rest of the world doesn't like it. I totally am sooooo greatful for our soldiers. And that is what (I believe) a military wife should do, because (God forbid) one day, this military wife would be able to be there for another spouse who looses their loved one. God Bless Our Troops and Our Country!
2007-07-12 15:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by LilbitFiery:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels like it is something she needs to do, then she should go. These people are the last people that were connected to her husband and I can see how she would want to be there, not only to show support for the people that her husband was in the desert with but to have that feeling of being connected to her husband. She is still part of the family even though her hubby is gone.
I think that if my husband didn't come home, I would still want to see all of his buddies and welcome them home as well, especially after sending care pacages to the group and spending time with their families while they were away.
2007-07-12 08:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Was her husband and her close to any of the other soldiers?
It would most likely hurt seeing others coming home and not her husband, but could bring relief see some of the other brothers-in-arms. We do gain a strong family bond with each other, even the single soldiers bond with other family members.
US Army Veteran
1990-1996 M1A1 Abrams
2007-07-12 09:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rawbert 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband is scheduled to come home in 37 days, if something would happen between now and then i would most definently be at the homecoming. in the past few months of his deployment i have become friends with not only spouses but the deployed soldiers that my husband knows. im sure it would be of great comfort to me knowing these soldiers have come home ,even though mine hadnt. it will be hard for her, but if she feel she has to be there, then by all means she should. the military is a special family and they stand beside their man or women in times of need. sorry for her lose and may god bless her to the fullest.
army wife
2007-07-12 09:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by bgclarkstjaz 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My family and I work with an organization called TAPS, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors. They are a peer support non-profit that helps people who have family and friends who die in active duty.
The website is below. It may have some resources she could use.
As to the welcome home event...it all depends on where she is emotionally in her grief process. Everyone grieves differently, and while an experience like seeing your deceased husband's troop coming home could be very painful for some, it could help others in their journey of healing. It is a very personal thing. I think she should do what her instinct tells her is right for her.
2007-07-12 08:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by ItsJustMe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would go it will acutally help her out to see the men ant served with him and cheer her up i would feel if that happednt to mine alot of thoes men are close because they have to live together and fight together too plus she can keep connections with his buddy that was there and all and find out some things about him and his last days i would deffinately go greet them plus it shows a sign of respect to her husband to cheer for the others that did make it home and they will give her great respect in return too
every one has there own diffrent way of greiving and if it will help her pain then she should go it may make her sad is true but it would be a great step for her to go greet them some of thoes men have no one to greet them when they come home and the site of her standing there for them would make them proud and by her doing that she is honoring her husband she would stand for the ones that didnt make it and the joy for the ones that did you see.
happy army wife husband deployed for almost a year now
2007-07-12 09:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know people who have gone and some who haven't. Personally, I don't think I could go. But, some people need that. I don't know if it's for closure so much as it is that it's really hard to let go and these were the last people to see your loved one alive. You miss SO MUCH time with them when they're gone and you wonder so many things. I know for most of the people I know who needed to go it was because they needed to know how their loved one spent their days away from them and what their last days were like. For them the unknown NEEDS to be filled in. I think even if I couldn't greet them coming home I would eventually still need to know the answers to some of my questions to fully be able to move on with my life. But, in any case they are truly the strongest women I have ever met. I would not want to be one of them; but they have my deepest respect and sympathy.
2007-07-12 08:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by april 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband returned in February and they did loose a soldier while they were there, his wife came to meetings and award ceremonies, even after the accident, she however was not at the homecomming , and i honestly feel that she is stronger than i am cause i in no way could have shown up at any of it. i would have been way to devastated, but if she wants to you should mabey just support her, people deal with these tragic ordeals in different ways hope it helps.
2007-07-13 03:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by caytana82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but those are the only people that she is going to relate with right now. In the Army we are our own community-family and she needs those guys and they need her. I know it probably seems strange from the outside looking in. But to answer your question as a wife yes I would go and as a soldier I would want to see your friend.
2007-07-12 08:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by MAGS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋