For those that don't understand, BYU (my alma mater) happens to be coming to Pasadena to play UCLA on Sept. 8th. This rarely happens. My sister-in-law goes and schedules her wedding for then. I live in Burbank and was primed to do this before I got word that the "I do's" will be clashing with first downs. AAAAGGHHH!!
2007-07-12 07:48:31 · 33 answers · asked by RickNY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Loved those "family first" responses. I'm just curious if the results would have been any different if I had placed this questions in the sports section. Perhaps more sympathy? Nevertheless, don't worry, I'm heading to the wedding after I TiVo the game. Go Cougars!!
2007-07-12 09:43:16 · update #1
Go to the game. It's your sister-in-law, not your sister. If her other family members are also Mormon, they're probably as pissed as you are! They will envy your bold decision.
Your wife, however, will likely kick your ***!
2007-07-12 12:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kirk S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is an awful dilemma!!!
Like Sylvia's hubby, my fiance & I are huge Buckeye fans ~ I have always dreamed of an Oct. wedding, but won't do it due to the upcomming football schedule =( Will be marrying in the spring instead.
Attend the wedding ~ usually there is downtime between the ceremony & the reception ~ try to catch some of the game then. Is the reception formal or casual? If it is just a casual buffett/cocktail style, you may be able to skip the beginning of the recep. to finish watching the game. The new couple will be so busy greeting people, etc. that they won't notice you are gone for an hour or so. If there isn't a sports bar nearby, bring a tiny headset ~ or just sit in your car to listen. Record the game so you can watch it later. And don't forget to incorporate BYU colors into your suit ~ just because you are at a wedding doesn't mean you can't *tastefully* support your team =)
GOOD LUCK!
EDIT: Just posted my answer & saw Bridget is a Buckeye, too - Go Bucks =)
2007-07-12 08:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by vanilmil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a bummer. I would be pretty disappointed. I know a wedding is important and you would cop so much flak if you didnt go but I understand the passion you can have for your team. I follow an Ice Hockey team, and here in Australia our season isnt very long. We only get 14 home games, the rest we have to fly interstate for....which we do sometimes when the finances allow.
My niece had her engagement party and it was on the same time as the game. As we have season tickets, I didnt want to miss the game......it was quite a dilemma and we caused a bit of family talk when we turned up late at the engagement party after going to the hockey first. The thing you have to do is weigh up how important that family member is and how much **** you will cause if you dont go.
We went to the hockey, but still went to the engagement party. I am not particularly close to this niece. And as it turns out, the engagement ended not long after the party anyways. So I am glad I didnt miss my hockey game over it.
Good luck. And I feel for you.
2007-07-12 10:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that you need to skip the game this time. They will come play again (as rare as it may be), but the wedding will truly only happen once.
Are they really at the same time of day? And there's no way to do both? Bummer! Perhaps if your SIL is a good woman, she'll be okay with you checking in on the game from the bar at the reception hall?
2007-07-12 07:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this was a minor relative - distant cousin or similar, I'd say go to the game.
BUT seeing that this is your wife's sister - you'd better be at the wedding - with a genuine smile on your face.
Games are fun and school spirit is nice - but family is family and that's how it is.
Quit fretting and don't look for too much support for going to the game.
2007-07-12 08:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Decent people don't get married during football season. The proper thing is Memorial Day to Labor Day. Maybe after the bowl games are over. I can see if it were a scrimmage or pre-game, but if the schedule was out your brother is crazy to be marrying this girl.
2007-07-12 09:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I think you should go to the wedding. It's no fun having family feuds over picking other events over weddings. It will make her feel that this is more important that her. So honestly, would you have been mad if she choose to go to a Britney Spears concert or whatever else would be important to her instead of going to your wedding? I think you would have wanted her there even if you want to deny it.
2007-07-12 07:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by sun day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from someone who thinks football is more boring than watching paint dry... go to the wedding. You said they "rarely" go to your town - well, your SIL will probably not have another wedding! So go to her wedding and go to the game the next time they're down.
2007-07-12 08:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the wedding and tape the game - there will be many more games but hopefully only one wedding. What would you say if the shoe were on the other foot?
2007-07-12 07:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wedding.
2007-07-12 09:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family first. Go to the wedding.
2007-07-12 07:57:55 · answer #11 · answered by gizmo0013 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋