She is making me miserable. She has always made me feel like nothing I do is ever good enough.
I am in college (doing very well), I have two children. She always makes comments like "maybe they think they are too good for you" when I talk about why I don't fit in with yuppie parents at my son's school; she planned a camping trip for family and friends on a weekend that I would be unable to go and I informed her of this prior to her making final plans-she then got mad when I told her that we would be unable come because we would be in Myrtle Beach and told my sons that they would miss out on the camping trip because i am a "selfish-meanie" which of course upset them that they would not be going; she lost track of my son at a water park last weekend and he was missing for 1/2 hour-he was fine but I was so upset because she didn't apologize and only said "it's not my fault"; the list goes on...
Am I being oversensitive or do I have a right to be upset with her?
2007-07-12 07:42:43 · 11 answers · asked by HRchick 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
a note about the camping trip: my brother and his wife had a problem with the first weekend she picked out, so she changed it for them-couldn't do that for me though.
2007-07-12 07:59:20 · update #1
Sounds like your the mom and she is the child. Your mom has a problem with taking accountability for her actions. Clearly your son being lost was upsetting enough. Kids run off in a second and I am sure it was not done out of carelessness but 1 I would not want anyone bad mouthing me
to my child. It does no good for your relationship nor helps your child. Think your mom has a control issue I would try to work on that with her and let her know that although no one is perfect you were really hurt by what she did.
2007-07-12 08:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upseet with her. All moms can be like that. But you have to also remember that she is your mother, she is used to having you all to herself and being able to spend time with you ALL the time. I think it is just hard for her to see her little baby all grown up and running her own life and doing just fine without her mother. She just wants to be still all in your life even though you are now an adult. Like that camping trip. She jsut felt hurt because she was looking forward to spending time with yall and then mad when you had other plans that did not include her. I think you should just tell her how you feel and include her in some events and trips and activities. Everything should be fine. You both love each other no matter what.
2007-07-12 14:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by twentyalready?! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the source of your misery over your mother is because you allow her to control your emotions.
she is trying to put guilt trips on you and succeeding. im' sure this has been a life-long practice of hers, and that it's worked well for many years....
but do you have to give in to her manipulating you and feeling guilty? You can't please others all of the time, and as a mother and adult person, you have to do what you WANT TO DO, not what others EXPECT you to do.
so, "thank you but no", "i appreciate the offer, but i can't" are two statements you might think about using when it comes to your mother.
i know she is on your last nerve, accepting the fact that she's a pain in the butt, and annoying others is her way of life might help!
take care of YOU and those kids.
i wis you all the best.
2007-07-12 14:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If somebody LOST my child and then said it's not my fault, I would be highly pissed off. Maybe you should distance yourself from your mom. Are you living with her, if so move get out on your own you don't need the negative energy and neither do you kids. Best of Luck Hang in.
2007-07-12 14:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you definately have the right to be upset. I mean she LOST your child and thats "not her fault".. I would be highly pissed if my mom did that and to sit there and bash me in front of my kids.. She just needs to stop being so bossy. Good Luck!
2007-07-12 14:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by libbynstanlo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anytime anyone tries to dictate what you do with your own children, especially in a negative they are in the wrong. They are your children. She had her chance and you have every right to be upset
Good luck
2007-07-12 14:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ruby Tuesday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's not perfect, but also like you are making some of the things bigger than they are.
Try to keep the peace, if possible. You only get one mother.
2007-07-12 14:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ppl like tht wind me up, i wud like to give her a slap if i were u. just tell her to *** off and leave you alone to raise your kids how you see fit.
2007-07-13 05:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave u a star!
2007-07-12 18:49:17 · answer #9 · answered by BrOwN eYe GiRl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it ur right. tell her you have your own likfe and not to tell your kids that
2007-07-12 14:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋