how to stop cutting??? without going CRAZY!!?

Question

i am 15 && my life has always been thrust into problems.....everything i do seems to cause a knew problem....i try && try to stop cutting...but each time it just gets deeper!! i kno i need help, but my friends jus put me down && say that its stupid...i kno its stupid, but it helps me.....i need to talk to someone who has been there && understands.......HELP???

the thing about doctors is then i would have to tell my parents...so if u have ne other idea than doctors that would be better!! my parents have too much stress to deal w/ me too!! but thanks for all suggestions...

Answer 1

You're not alone.
I'm 21, and have been cutting for 9 1/2 years.
If you don't learn to stop now...it's only going to progress to a worsened situation.

Please visit the links below. I have created a message board for Self Injury Recovery...and we currently have 116 members...who are all there to help eachother recover.
You can do it...and you're never alone.

Please visit the links I provided. I'm here for you.

Answer 2

I was a cutter at your age. Its a scary thing to not be able to stop. I eventually did with the help of a good therapist.

Your friends put you down because they don't understand what makes you cut. They could think you are just seeking attention, but you and I know that's not what it is.

I would start by talking to someone that can be objective, maybe a school counselor or an adult you trust. A pastor, a teacher, your doctor, your favorite aunt...there is bound to be someone.

Try to figure out what triggers the need to cut. If you can resolve the root of the problem, the need to cut will subside.

You can email me if you need or want to talk. I have been in your shoes honey its not an easy road.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I know what its like when your life gets thrust upon you and you cant do anything about it. It sux, majorly. Cutting may seem like it solves the problem at the time, but it doesnt. You are finding out (as am I) it gets addicting...fast. Have a long hard look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you can get through this. Throw away all of your razors and find something to keep yourself occupied so you dont think about it. Read a book, watch tv, read a magazine, go online. Anything. Im going through the same problem you are right now. Im 15 too, and I know how hard life can be. But if you are serious about stopping, then you can do it.

If you need someone to talk to, just email me.
xoxoxo
kutsnkisses

Answer 4

I know what you're going through, kiddo. I've been there myself. I started cutting when I was 15 and only just recently stopped. It takes a lot of strength to do.

My mom thrust me into therapy the minute she found out, but for me it didn't do anything. That's not to say it won't help you. You don't know until you try.

When I decided I wanted to stop, I took a thin rubber band and put it around my wrist. Every time I thought about cutting or wanted to, I snapped it and the sting reminded me how harmful it is. I also really took a look at what was going on in my life and how I wanted to handle compared to how I actually was. I changed a lot of things in my life for the better, and turned to my spirituality to help me find inner strength.

Please, please try your hardest to stop hurting yourself. It is not worth it. All it does is make all the hurt worse.

Send me a message if you want to talk some more, OK kiddo?

Blessed Be

Answer 5

I know what its like I really do, I am a recovering self harmer and for the most part I do OK but I remember being 15 and how hard it was not to just do it. I learned a few things over the years. one being to wear an elastic band or one of them small hair bobbles around my wrist when I felt bad I would pull on that. It does not always work but sometimes it really help. What you are doing is just a way of coping with what ever pain (mentally) comes along. therapy can really help, your friend that puts you down is no friend. A true friend would be there for you and help you get the help that you need. stopping thinking about what they will think and start thinking about yourself. you need help and its out there waiting for you. Its a big step but one you can take just ask for help and it will be given to you. see someone at school (councilor or school nurse) talk to your parents. I promise it will get better and you can stop.

Answer 6

firstly, well done for realising that you need help. the first step to getting back on track is actually telling yourself that you need and want help.
secondly, your friends wouldn't say things like that if they were true friends. they should be supportive of you and help you instead of making it worse.
i know exactly what you're going through. whatever i said or did, it always seems to upset someone, including me. whenever i upset someone i immediately thought of turning to a razor or a sharp object, but i've found that writing songs helps. but that doesn't necessarily mean it will work for you. choose something what always makes you feel good and whenever you feel like cutting, do it. your not stupid, no way. whatever your "friends" say. i reccommend going to see a learning mentor at school. they are there for just about anything, and it's completely confidential. they don't tell your parents anything, but if you are on the verge of suicide they probably will, but not if you're just cutting. email me if you ever need to talk, even though i don't really know you, i'm here for you. hope this helps xXx

Answer 7

Are you cutting yourself because it makes you feel alive, takes away the deeper pain, or just because it seems to be the fad these days. Kids rarely cut themselves before all this Emo and Hot Topic crap started coming out. Find something happy to substitute for doing harm. Your not proving anything other than you're an attention-seeking pessimist that would rather be bored and depressed than do something constructive and positive. Its evidence of social decline the fact that depression is more a trend amonst kids.

Answer 8

that takes me back when I was in HS my friend did it and at first no one really knew but then we caught her in the bathroom doing it. Honestly I wont say its stupid b/c even I did it when I was young. I know life can be shitty at times and everything you seem to do isnt going right, but think about it there has to be something prescious worth still being here. I found that the most prescious thing worth staying here for was my baby bro and my sister. Ifelt if one that cut would kill me then I can never see them grow. As well I felt my life was important so much cause I had plans for myself no matter how people try to put me down. I hope this helped you can contact me anything..

Answer 9

ok I've been here. i will tell you what worked for me but it may not work for you.
do your parents know? if not you should let them know, they can help you
I went to a therepist and that helped a lot too. I use to cut becuz my dad is an alcholic and my sister has emotional issues and i needed to escape from my home issues and that seemed to help.
Talking to a friend helps, i know that your friends keep putting you down, just say i need to talk to you to keep my mind off of things, you don't need to talk about cutting.
do something active like walking, or running, play a sport!!!
Journal
read something that some one wrote for you
read a story
play with a pet
go to the movies
go to the mall
here are some websights:
http://www.girlslife.com/index.php?id=93
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen
http://www.geocities.com/within_the_stars/urges.htm
http://vinland.org/scamp/institute/dsh.html
if you need to talk to someone email me at [e-mail]
hope i helped xox3

Answer 10

please stop cutting now! nothing or no one is worth you cutting yourself.i went thru this with my daughter. she came to me about it cecause she was at the point where i think you are now. the cutting was really bad and very deep.she hadnt come to me sooner because she thought i would "be mad".
i wasnt mad,i was SCARED.well she eventually told me what all the cutting was about.it was a combination of things from going to a new school,girls at the school and most important of all (to her anyways) was that she liked aboy that didnt like her.this boy would do things to make her jelous on purpose.
my daughter was only 14 at the time.is there a friend you can talk to if you dont want to talk to your mom? i think mom would be my first suggestion. i friend cannot get you help like mom can.dont go to the same people who are calling you "stupid".they dont care,if they did ......they would get you some help.
dont give up ,but please stop cutting yourself. if you cant just come out and tell mom whats going on,write her a letter.no matter how you get it across to her,she will help you.you do need to open up and be honest about what is causeing you to cut.if she doesnt know the whole truth,then the cutting will never stop.i wish you lots of luck and please stop cutting.life is better without hurting yourself.

EDIT: your parents never have too much stress to deal with you. its not "dealing "with you either.its called helping you get the help you need.