i have a gf who i am in love with, were not ready to marry cuz were only 18, want to do atleast 2 years of college first her to, but she is roman catholic, and i was never raised religiously. my family never practiced anything, i was taught faith in one god, but never practiced anything like hail marys our fathers etc..her mom is very traditional and wants her daughter to be married in a roman catholic church, but ive never even done my first communion. i have no problem with that, but what are the necessary steps i need to do, and do i have to have done first communion, confirmation, etc to marry in a roman catholic church??
2007-07-12 06:47:11 · 8 answers · asked by Titan 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
ok well basically i have no problem marrying into her religion because i do not have a labeled religion both of my parents were raised catholic, but didnt practice it when i was born, i would love to learn about it, and yes i need to make sure its the right decision. she isnt shoving the religion unto me, she invited me to her church a couple of times to see what it was like, so thats not a problem its nice to see how it is. i just want to know if there are steps to be done before i can marry her
2007-07-12 07:00:42 · update #1
since i dont practice enough to call myself a chrisitan or a catholic, im not sure if i need to convert...my gf is very close with her mom, and i am becoming close with her mom too, my gf thinks we should get married in her church because i dont really have one, and yes i put in an extra maybe 2 years before marriage in case there are steps i need to do
2007-07-12 07:13:57 · update #2
what is meant by parishioner?
thanks about the communion and confirmation though i knew those might be part of what i have to do.
2007-07-12 08:58:04 · update #3
Well, 1st off. Don't sweat the non-Catholic part. I was born and raised Catholic and my military dog tags are also printed with Catholic as my religion. I married into a strong Catholic family. I am not nor have I praticed religion since I was forced to go as a child. If you really want to follow through you would most likely have to become a parishiner at the families church. Maybe get your communion and confirmation and then attend marriage classes throught the church. It is a long process and in two years you may be done in time to marry. Best advise I can give is go talk to her priest and ask his advise and guidance. Good Luck
2007-07-12 08:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by scott m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're both still very young, and it's very very smart of you to plan on waiting at least a couple years before getting married. If you can wait to get married, you can wait awhile yet before deciding to join the Catholic church. I was raised Catholic and no longer practice, no longer believe it's teachings. I am not sure about a priest marrying the two of you in the church if you're not both Catholic; I think you would need to convert, but that you can find out by calling a local Catholic church and asking -- you probably will have to make an appointment to talk to a priest. Ultimately, however, it's up to you and your gf if you go this route to please her mom, or if you two agree on another option. What is your gf's thoughts/feelings on this? Does she agree with her mom, or are you two happy to get married outside the church? And that, let me warn you, can and probably will cause problems with her mom.
2007-07-12 14:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPandemonium 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Titan. You are marrying your girlfriend - not her mother. Who cares what her mother wants? It should be about what you and she wants, not mom.
Does your girlfriend insist on shoving her religion down your throat? If so, thats a warning sign. If not, then tell moms to take a hike, and marrying your girlfriend in a manner that makes the both of YOU happy, not your parents.
FYI - I too had a friend who recently had to go through the pain of contacting an exwife, because he HAD TO have his previous marriage annulled because he was marrying a strict Catholic woman. It was hell on earth - having to reach out to an ex, explain that you need her to sign stuff so that you could get married again, and then he too had to take courses and learn the myths. Hated it, but did it for the girl.
2007-07-12 13:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You both need to sit down with the priest that is going to marry you and talk this through. Then decide together whether that is the way you want to go or not. Marriage is a one time deal in my belief, so you have to get it right before you take the step. Things like this can be worked out by communication. Good luck, hope it helps. Thanks for the question.
2007-07-12 13:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a guy who married someone who was insistently Catholic. He had to go to classes to learn the Catholic versions of the myths. He hated it and frequently argued.
2007-07-12 13:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Peter D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't join a religion to be with a girl. If you don't agree with her family's faith, then be honest and respectful of it. You don't have to marry her mom and dad and her church - just her.
2007-07-12 13:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by sharky 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT.
You're only 18. Why mess up your relatively benign non-Catholic life with the weight of their dogma?
2007-07-12 13:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope, I don't think you need to do all that stuff to get married there.
Congrats! :)
2007-07-12 13:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Trinity 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋