My boyfriend was talking to his mom about saving up for the big day and she replied "you dont have to do that". She said the Bride's family pays for the wedding. I am not really sure how all this goes, any thoughts?
2007-07-12 06:35:29 · 22 answers · asked by Samantha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since the groom no longer has to work and support his bride, it is happening more and more that both sets of parents pay...or at least chip in for the wedding.
2007-07-12 06:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by WorldTraveler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, back through the mists of time, the bride's family paid for nearly everything. That was because a woman lived at home until she married and then passed to her new husband's care and was never expected to have any sort of an income of her own.
Nowadays, most women work outside the home, couples are marrying older, and the rules about funding weddings have relaxed a lot. More and more couples are paying for their own weddings. In other cases, both families and the couple pool their resources. Some parents of the bride still pay for the whole shindig. And every now and again, a groom's family chooses to pay for it all. But nobody is required to pay for your wedding.
The simple fact is times have changed in a big way and custom is changing to reflect that.
So start saving. If your parents talk about funding any or all of the wedding, that's generous of them and certainly a welcome expression of support. If they don't, then accept that and find your own way of paying. It sounds like his parents don't plan to contribute, as is entirely their choice.
2007-07-12 06:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if the bride and groom are young, under 25, and just starting out that the bride's parents should pay with assistance from the bride and groom. The groom's family could offer to pay for flowers or alcohol. If the couple is over 25, established in their careers and has savings then they should pay for at least half with the bride's family paying for the other half. In some instances the groom's family had a lot more money than the bride's family and offered to pay for a majority of the wedding, mainly because they wanted the wedding up to their standards. I think the groom's family in all cases should offer something. My in-laws, who have more money, offered to pay for nothing and my parents are still angry to this day about it.
2007-07-12 06:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To assume today that the brides family pays for the wedding is not very intelligent as not all families are well off. I would not worry about what his mom's thoughts are. If you are looking to get married then you and him should pay for your own wedding and if your parents are thought full enough and are able to pay for some or part of your wedding consider that money in the bank for your future. Good Luck and Congrats.
2007-07-12 06:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The brides family pays for the wedding
2007-07-12 08:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by whymewhynow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the US traditional the brides parents pay, but also it is traditional the the bride is living at home and will never hold a job.
I think the more modern approach is the the groom and bride to stand on their own and pay for their wedding. Any money given by either side's parents should be considered a gift that is given freely, not required by tradition.
2007-07-12 06:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by no_frills 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These days with couples being independent and working, they pay for their own wedding, then plan the type of wedding and number of guests they can afford to host.
The bride's family used to pay for the wedding when the bride would be going directly from her father's home to her husband's, which is rare these days.
2007-07-12 09:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, it's the bride's family that pays for the wedding but nowadays, the costs for a wedding can amount to so much that most families would not be content with paying for it all by themselves. 40,000 is now about average for a wedding. If you ask me, I think it would be fair if the costs were split between the two families. Besides, it would probably mean a better relationship between the in-laws in the future so yes split the cost.
Happy wedding planning! :D
2007-07-12 06:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by KeyIra 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
More and more couples these days are forking the bill themselves. If not, sometimes both the groom and bride's families chip in depending on who can afford what.
I think - gone are the days of strict rules saying the brides family pays for the entire wedding.
2007-07-12 06:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by mkv6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
back in the" good old days" the brides family payed for the reception and wedding and the groom payed for the honeymoon. Now most couples pay for the wedding themselves.
2007-07-16 06:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by beddybeddy83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋