Help!!!! I lived in a small city (about 130,000) where my parents and I are well known in the community. I moved away about 10 years but we are having the wedding there. My fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves so we are on a tight budget for the reception. Is it okay for my parents to invite their friends to the ceremony and not the reception? HELP?!?!?!?!?
2007-07-12 06:24:48 · 26 answers · asked by curious1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, they come to the wedding....they come to the reception.
2007-07-12 09:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if u r paying 4 ur wedding u should invite who ever u want. The way u say "their friends" means that u don't have a friendship with them at all. That u know them don't necessary means that they r ur friends. So, u can invite them to the ceremony but not to the reception. A good reason, its gonna be an intimate reception with ur's and the grooms closest family and friends.
Other option is that ur parents pay for their meals for the reception.
Talk to ur parents about it and make them clear that u have a tight budget and that anyone that they want to invite that is not in ur list they have to incur in the expenses.
Good luck and congratulations on ur big day.
P.S. Advice of a married woman: Don't sweat the little things.
2007-07-12 07:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by daniriz♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect people to come to the wedding and then go home. How will you stop them? Are you going to print 2 invitations, one with the reception location and the other without? What happens if 1 of their friends is invited and the other isn't? Or what if 1 friend assumes the reception is part of the invite and shows up? If your parents are well known, don't you think people are going to talk?
This is something you really need to get straight with your parents, otherwise there will be a lot of hurt feelings, gossip about how cheap you/they are, and humiliation.
2007-07-12 06:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, since it's your wedding, the guest list is up to you.
Second, in cases where the wedding is a separate event from the reception, there are generally two separate invitations. The standard "You are cordially invited to the nuptials of..." and the "please RSVP for the reception..."
The second is usually a small card placed within the first. The Wedding Invitation should NOT mention the reception, and your parents shouldn't EITHER.
It is perfectly acceptable to invite people to the Wedding but NOT the Reception. People understand that these things are on a budget, and that every tom, dick, and harry can't always be accommodated.
Again, remember, the final Guest List is up to the Bride and Groom first, and whoever's footing the bill.
2007-07-12 06:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by jbtascam 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I typically assume that if I'm going to be invited to the ceremony, I'd also be invited to the reception.
A lot of times people that aren't even invited to the ceremony are invited to the reception. Unless you're having a very small reception.
But, in the end, it is your big day and should be your call. But be aware that some people might feel negatively about it.
2007-07-12 06:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by Glitter Berry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to invite people to the reception who have not been invited to the wedding ceremony, but it's never okay to invite people to the ceremony who are then not invited to the reception. Extremely poor mannners. If your parents want these people at your wedding, then they should pay for them. You need to make that clear to your parents before any invitations go out so your parents can decide what they will do.
2007-07-12 09:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 03:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone to weddings where I skipped the ceremony and just went to the reception! Thats the fun part anyway! I think that if your parents want to invite people you dont know to preserve their friendships, they should pay for them to attend. You shoudn't have to pay for people you dont know and didnt invite. I like the other girl's idea of not inviting them to the dinner part, but the dancing/drinks part. Your parents shouldn't be inviting anyone and if you decide not to invite them to the reception, they should be prepared to explain it to them. Thats not your problem. ANd you can stop people from attending if you have a doorman that only lets people in that have invitations. I've seen that done before.
2007-07-12 10:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Dig It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should not be inviting anyone to anything, since you and your fiance are paying for things. I would ask the to stop because it is very tacky to ask people to the ceremony and not the reception. Tell them you want a small wedding. Hopefully they'll respect your wishes.
2007-07-12 06:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that they are not allowed to invite people to your wedding. Let them know you are on a tight budget, and if they want to invite the whole town they need to cough up some cash. If you want to be nice, you can give them a small portion of the guest list to invite whomever they choose. It is not okay to just invite people to the ceremony and not feed them.
2007-07-12 06:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by dice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if you invite someone to the ceremony, they need to be invited to the reception. You need to tell your parents that you understand they're going to have a couple people that you don't even know, but if it gets over a certain number, you can not afford it. You set that number, and unless they volunteer to chip in or pay, its unreasonable of them to expect you to pay for everyone they've ever met in their lives.
2007-07-12 07:06:29 · answer #11 · answered by Allison L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋