ever since the day i've gotten married one thing has bothered me and i was wondering other peoples take. is it ok for the mother of the groom to wear a white dress to the wedding? not ivory or cream but white! i confronted her recently and she said she asked 3 people who told her it was ok do you believe that? i don't know why she didn't ask me and if she had any doubts i wonder about it. thanks
2007-07-12 05:53:37 · 20 answers · asked by ASHLEIGH P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
that is a big no no! and yes if she had any doubts she should have asked you not other people. it was your wedding day and it should have been what yo uwanted. the people she asked the opinions of were probably not even at the wedding.
that is just wrong. if she was wondering whether she should have worn right or not she should have went right to the source. i agree with you. whoever she asked needs to get their heads screwed back on.
2007-07-12 05:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your MIL did was totally inappropriate. She shouldnt even need to ask. If she felt she needed other people's opinions on the matter, then she should have known just to wear something else. I had something similar happen at my wedding. My husband's sister wore white to my wedding. I dont know why people would think it would be appropriate to wear white to a wedding if you're not the bride. Luckily my sister-in-law got her period and was forced to change right after the ceremony. But the day that she gets married, I'm going to wear a beautiful white dress also.
2007-07-12 05:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want the traditonal answer then only the bride & flower girl shoud wear a white dress. Look at the library for a MS Manners or Emily Post on weddings.
2007-07-12 06:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by jcmurphytexas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad it is traditional for the mother of the groom to wear blue and the mother of the bride pink, no one is to wear white only the bride unless you are having a black and white wedding, so just move on I'm sure it wasn't that bad and you are already married.
2007-07-12 06:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful Bee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why is it that the mothers always try to steal the spotlight on the wedding day? She deserves a slap in the face. No one wears white except the bride. And even if you don't wear white, or are okay with her wearing white, she absolutely has to ask first!
2007-07-12 05:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is bridal etiquette. It seems like she is determined to take the spotlight off of you..and why I don't know. This is not a way for a MOG to make friends with her daughter in law. She is being very b.......tchy. Speak to your fiance and tell him to ask his mother if she could change her mind about wearing white to your wedding. Have another talk with her and ask her in a nice way if she could change her mind. If she refuses, then what can you do. She is the one that is going to look like an idiot, not you. People will say that it was not right of her to do that...so she will be on the receiving end of lots of talk.
2007-07-12 12:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us Mothers are ignorant when it comes to wedding rules. Most brides do not want anyone else in white. Some of us do not know that. Some Brides actually think it is ok though.
I think you need to forget what your MIL wore and get on with your life. (It sounds like your trying to stir up problems)
2007-07-12 06:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really stretching the rules, BIG TIME! I've heard of the mother of the bride wearing ivory or a champagne color, but not white, and the mother of the groom, well, she isn't supposed to wear that color. Go to theknot.com, they have all kinds of answers to etiquette questions.
2007-07-12 06:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by britno_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That's really rude that she didn't consult you or your Mom about her dress.
Traditionally the Mother of the Bride goes shopping w/ Groom's mom or she buys her first and calls Groom's mom to inform her.
I would have your Mom or fiance talk with her about it unless you feel comfortable confronting her.
Or last option is buy her a Mother of the Groom book and nicely put tabs on certain pages for her!
Good Luck
2007-07-12 06:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by erink1799 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, you're already being too type approximately this. you ought to be direct, and the two you or your fiance can clarify to her that this is irrelevant for anybody different than the bride (and the flower ladies) to placed on white. traditionally, the mummy of the bride is meant to p.c.. out her dress first and then seek advice from the mummy of the groom approximately dress concepts. ought to your mom communicate together with her (or pretend to no longer comprehend what dress she picked out and say something like "I regarded on the prettiest dress, yet i think of this is too white and that i do no longer desire to examine the bride!" in any different case, the subsequent time you're round her you are able to ask a chum or relative to assert something like "This female I paintings with is donning white to her daughter's wedding ceremony, are you able to have faith it?!" and want she gets the hint. this is no longer foolproof and not completely common, although this is extra suitable than no longer something.
2016-10-01 11:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋