My son thinks he needs a g/f but I think he is too young. I don't think you need a b/f or g/f till you can drive because what are you gonna do until then? He is 10, am I being overprotective?
2007-07-12 05:08:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
old enough to have a legal part time job and a drivers license
i say 16 if the child is responsible has good grades and stays out of trouble
2007-07-12 05:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
date on their own i would say at least 16, But the parents still need to know where they are at all times and what they are doing. And check up on them to make sure they are doing what they said.
My son does have a little g/f and he is 15. (She is 15 and they have been close for a year.) If you can call it that. I would say more like friends. I know her parents and we both agree on what is OK and what is not. She comes to my home. They watch TV in my living room . I am there to supervise. She helps me bake and cook. They are allowed in my pool but I am there with them. I have no problem with them holding hands, or giving little peck kisses.
The same goes if he goes to her house. If they want to go to a movie and I or her parents cant attend, I do drive them and they take their little sisters . Ages 6 and 8. And then they get picked back up. But they have a cell phone on them in case they need to call someone like ME.
My son doesn't see this as odd... He knows i love him and just dont want to see him in trouble. He has pointed out that I am way more protective then any of his friends parents but he said he always knows that I have his back so to speak.
I plan to do the same with my girls. Kids under the age of 17 need good guidance to make good choices. I want the kids to have all the advantages they can in life. And I hope they will continue to do the same with their kids when I have grand children.
They have both had the TALK with us, and understand why were are so protective. They know what 1 bad choice could cause, and know it would ruin their future plans.
2007-07-12 12:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's kinda cute, I'm sure that it wouldn't last very long. At this age they are more likely to sit and talk about whatever kids talk about these days. I doubt they would even kiss. I would set some rules, let them know what is appropriate behavior and just let it go from there. I agree that dating is more fun when you can actually go on dates but I'm sure that if they wanted to go see a movie or something that you could go with them and they wouldn't mind.
2007-07-12 12:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had a "boyfriend" when I was 10, and my parents wouldn't let me date...at all...ever. You can tell him he doesn't need to worry about it, but really, that's not going to stop him from calling a girl his "girlfriend" at school or anything. You don't have to encourage it, and he doesn't need to be set up on "dates" at 10, but I wouldn't worry about him using the terminology. As long as he's not making out w/ his "g/f" at 10, it's usually harmless. A lot of times, it's just pressure from what he sees all around him, and he just wants to fit in.
2007-07-12 12:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Dj 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are being SMART! Your son "needs" air; he wants a girlfriend because our kids are being sexualized so early that he thinks that makes him a "man" and more mature. Which it doesn't; it just sets him up for the heartache and angst that comes with little kids trying to act like grown-ups.
He needs a girlfriend when he's ready to start courting to find a wife. With the way kids screw up their life, I'm starting to think locking them in their room until they are 18 and legal is a good idea!
But seriously: At the earliest, 16. But still not one-on-one dates even then.
2007-07-12 12:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Cheesy 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i think its just cute if they are little kids and its just at school thing but if they watn to start going to each others houses and hanging out..no. Not til 16 or 17 because yoru right what are they going to do? i mean its cute if they hang out at the skating park together or whatever but...no. I agree with you
2007-07-12 12:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. The younger they start the sooner they get in trouble. I would say it depends on their maturity, but no sooner then 16.
2007-07-12 12:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Just Somebody 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A ''kid'' should not have a gf/bf .
2007-07-12 12:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by HC 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋