I do. I've only been there a week and I really don't like it. I'm a server at a restaurant on a dinner cruise. I'm very stressed because I'm in college and I have bills to pay, plus I'm trying to move in September, but no one will likely rent to me if I don't have a job.
Also, I'm married and I tried talking to my husband about it but he doesn't seem to understand. He tells me I have to continue working at the job. I feel like he's not listening to me or my ideas about other job options. I want to try to get a job on campus or just do a job that I will actually like or at least feel that I can tollerate. Plus, my mom has her own business and I was thinking about seeing if I can work for her. I have enough money saved up for 2 more months, but finding even a decent part time job around here is hard and 2 months may not be long enough. Any suggestions? Please help I feel like I'm having a panic attack.
2007-07-12 05:06:26 · 16 answers · asked by Babycakes 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Please don't let anyone tell you where you have to work. Just quit, and get some other job, and keep trying different jobs until you find something you don't mind showing up for.
Life is too short to be miserable over this, so call your job and tell them it's just not working out for you, then forget about it and move on!
I wish your husband would be more supportive of your feelings!
2007-07-12 05:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Work the job dont let it work u. *Never quit one job until u have another guaranteed in writing*
yet in the mean time Find a relaxing book or place to retreat into when breaking get away if its just a block down the street or a walk around the corner. Dont take your job home and torture loved ones. your spouse dosent want to hear a harpie everyday though he cares about your need for fulfillment. Hes looking more at the truth of the checkbook.
I can truly relate to both issues. I was very unhappy on my job previously. I hated it and soon i began to get depressed yet i was a single mom with a 2 and 3 year old. I had to work. I made good money. No one could see why i didnt "apreciate that good job it pays the bills" exc.
But i changed my mind to persue my own happiness and set goals that would ensure that i would not be there alaways. I also began activly persuing other job oppertunites (secretly to my job) to have a smooth transition and spare my self the finacial and emotional havoc that comes when u end up Acting Ugly to some butt head on the job or just walking off or letting the stress of a job break up a home.
2007-07-12 05:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I currently am quite happy at my job, but I have definitely felt like you do in the past. I remember once I had a job as a bank teller and I would literally cry on Sunday nights thinking about having to go there the next morning. My advice is to do whatever you can to get away from a job you hate so much. It sounds like you have a few possible options to check out, so what I would do is apply for them (or ask your mom about her business) BEFORE quitting your server job, so you have something lined up first. I think your hubby is mostly just really scared that you'll quit before lining anything else up and then be unemployed and broke for a while. My boyfriend totally freaked when I once quit a job before finding another one because he was panicking about how he was going to pay the rent alone if I didn't have a new job by then. I told him to cut it out, I'd find a new job quickly, and I did, so he could just calm down!! He was right, though- you can't just up and quit like that when it's not just you anymore-when you have someone else to think of, you sort of have to be rational about decisions like this.
To sum it up, do the following steps in this order:
1. Contact a temp agency. They are great resources for placing people in moderately good-paying jobs, and they usually can hook you up with a company pretty quickly.
2. Apply to any jobs you find in want ads or on Monster that you think might suit you, and that you're qualified for.
3. Ask your mom if she can hire you on as an employee, but don't be surprised if your husband gets mad about the idea f you working for your mom- lots of guys see that as an inability to cut the cord.
4. Once you get hired somewhere, tell the dinner cruise to take that job and shove it!!!!!
2007-07-12 05:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you think yours is bad, try working at a call center for an auto insurance company. My job was to decide who was at fault for auto accidents. That means I always had one person who was pissed off because I decided against them. That meant I had to engage in a 30 minute conversation with them about the facts of the accident and why I made the decision I made. Then after hearing about how they were going to sue the company and wanting to speak with everyone above me, the conversation would end and I would pick up the phone to do it all over again. Fortunately, I got fired after being there for 3 years and I don't work there anymore. I was on unemployment for a month while I looked for a job and luckily ended up finding work at a place where I am happy now. It's less pay, but I'm not sick to my stomach anymore when I'm driving to work.
2007-07-12 05:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone reaches this point in their lives. I remember very clearly feeling the same way you did. I stayed at my job because the pay was excellent. I learned later on that there wasn't enough money in the world to pay me for the stress and angst that the job was creating in my life. Unfortunately I didn't learn until it was almost too late. Get out of that job...no job is worth this much grief. You can find something else and, while it still may be stressful at times, you may find that you can manage it better.
2007-07-12 05:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, sweetie, I know exactly how you feel.
I have been married for 21 years and I would never allow my husband to dictate to me where I could work. A husband doesn't own his wife. They are partners. And if he can't seem to grasp the concept that you are very unhappy where you are now, you have my permission to do whatever you feel is necessary to change it. He may not control you like that. Please don't allow yourself to be pushed around by some man, simply because you are married. He isn't your father and he isn't your boss. Take the reigns of your own destiny and do not let someone else run your life. Your life is still yours. Even thought you are married, you still get to make your own decision about where you choose to work. If I were you, I would tell him: "sorry, honey, but you don't get to dictate where I choose to work." Learn now, before it's too late, that you have the right as a human being to make your own decisions about your personal journey through life.
2007-07-12 05:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have worked at a job that I hated to the very core of my being. I ended up sick because of it. Follow your bliss isn't just some silly ideal. If this job is causing a bad reaction you are most likely in the wrong place. In your spare time find what you need and want. Go for it. Don't look to your husband. Look to yourself. Be brave and do it.
2007-07-12 05:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by gone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, I have fantasies of punching my boss in the face on a daily basis. But just like you, I have bills to pay and a little mouth to feed.
You should start looking for another job. It's never a smart decision to quit your current job without having another income in line...especially if hubby doesn't support that decision.
2007-07-12 05:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by Tina 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well when it comes to jobs you have to do what you love and love what you do!! There is no need to stay in a job that depresses you or is not appealing to you at all. This will only make you miserable. When looking for a job, apply to places that you know you will hav fun working at.
2007-07-12 05:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweety we all have to enjoy life and what we do. If your not happy working there find you another job. Hey but dont quit untill you have found another. sometimes we must hang in there and make the best out of it. Remember its only temporary for you. If ist hard to find a job there well i advice you to hang in ther and make your days enjoyable there have fun while your working. remember this " Prayers that arent prayed, will never be answered" do some praying sweety and ask god for what you want, he never lets us down.
2007-07-12 05:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by reynaldovelajr@sbcglobal.net 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋