my hubby is gone to abroad,he dosent do anything about it , we have lots of fight, i have a daughter of 2 yrs,i dont know what to do, i hve no support frp my parents as she fought with them and now we have no relations with them tooo, i have no other family member excep 2 sis in law , & they too support my mom in law(no physical harresment only mental torture),i need some space since 8 yrs of my marriage i am becoming weak and losing confidence in doing things please help
2007-07-12 05:04:35 · 15 answers · asked by payal s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If things are going out of control then only indulge in any legal relief which very much is available to you in the form of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005 which deals with such domestic violence too which are not physical but mental in nature & for which you gets protection order issued by the court against defendants/relatives who are inflicting or abetting to inflict such mental harassment towards you. But I shall always dissuade to indulge in any such legal proceedings that spoil otherwise nice matrimonial relationship between you & your husband. The best for you here is to insist your husband to get you with him abroad along with him & get his family immigration done as soon as possible. Once you are away from her it will be smooth sailing for you at least till you remain abroad with your husband alone.
2007-07-12 18:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you are not in American culture? I mean it seems like it might be Indian or Middle Eastern? I am very sorry since your living conditions will affect your child. Can you beg your parents to once again get along just in the interest of your 2 yr old? That is so sad that people are mean and fight but then if families cannot get along, we shouldnt be surprised that countries have wars
2007-07-12 05:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand a fact how come your mother in laws fighting can ruin your relations with your parents too. Rather your parents have left you to live on your own just like your husband did.
Why did your husband leave India without you ? I am sure he must be sending you money ? If not then are you sure your marriage in not on rocks ? If he does send you money then rent your own place and leave your mother in law. Are you educated ? then probably you can join some job.
Ask your husband to come to India and help you in settling in else why should you compromise and let him live in peace.
2007-07-13 04:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pooh san 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Two things I want to suggest to you- One ,try to join with your husband as early as possible. When you have two years daughter with you and alone with your in law family will bring you lot of problems without any doubt . Each child should grow in a good enviorment and family back ground in healthy atmosphere, for that your husband should co operate with you. Next suggestion is go friendly with your sisterinlaws of similar age ag group and mostly they will understand your difficulties and help you. Try to adjust maximum possible, if nothing is not materialised you can even have open talk to your parents in law and explain your situation and please them by telling your difficulties you are facing. Mostly this two things may work out for you . all the beat Yours VRVRAO
2007-07-12 06:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Raghavendra R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, call your father and mom and tell them you're sorry on your weak spot. Then, i could %. up and bypass on a protracted bypass to on your father and mom and get removed from that woman. She's basically torturing you given which you enable her. in case you give up allowing her to run and smash your existence, then it truly is going to give up. in case you % the area, make the telephone call, heal the rift with your father and mom, and %. this evening. And LOCK YOUR DOOR so this woman does not get into your place and show YOUR CALLS and don't take calls from her. you're susceptible. and you will greater suitable discover some capability.
2016-10-19 04:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many Womens Organisations. You can approach them and explain the situation to them. But before that you talk with your Hubby and explain to him how you are being treated and how is he going to be responsible to make you happy and lead a peaceful life?
If that do not help then you talk to womens organization and they will take care of it.
Regards
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2007-07-12 05:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by samyuktha_cool 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Search a job as soon as possible , put your daughter in a creche then, you should have to get times for nurturing your creativity for your mental peace, in the mean time try to inform to your husband & to your family members too for keeping yourself safe in future!
2007-07-12 05:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Gargi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Payal, the secret in getting along with your mother-in-law is to change your entire strategy. In stead of fighting with her, your husband or your sisters-in-law, surprise them with a firm, but friendly attitude. Let them know that you want to be their friend but that you are demanding to be treated with respect. Don't whine or fight or gossip about them. If they do something you don't like, just tell them calm how you feel about it, but in stead of whining or accusing them, tell them you would appreciate it if they stop doing it. People, no matter who they are, always have respect for a calm, composed person. Also, be interested in their doings, let them feel important and i garantee you they will change their ways towards you in no time. Thats the law of nature. No one can resist kindness. So, just try treating them the way you want them to treat you and see what happens. Please email me if you need more assistence. Good luck
2007-07-12 05:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by ina W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your problem. Have courage. don't get depressed. things will improve once your hubby completes his course or get a good job.and he will call you there. till such time don't loose temper be cool. Have you seen "" Indian serial "" saas bahu. though it is different in real life. even then you are young and your mom inlaw will be old. she may need medicines. etc. instead of fighting win her heart. treat her better than her daughters. slowly and steadily things will improve. God will reward you for this and you have bright future. may god bless you and lessen your misery.
2007-07-12 05:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by goody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE GO GET YOUR OWN PLACE!!! I don't understand why people want to live in joint families and ruin their lives.You get one life and that you want to spend whining....not worth it!!!
Please get independant,get strong.Tell your husband you have taken enough and that you need to move out and you are getting your own place and if he does not respect or support you in that,then I'm just sorry my freind he is not the man for you!!!
2007-07-14 06:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by Desiladkiinusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋