Did I over react?

Question

I'm renting this apartment and the landlord called my fiance to tell him to be home by 8pm because she is bringing some of her out of town friends and family to look at the house. she and her husband bought the house last year and her friends and family haven't seen it yet.
My fiance told her, he would have to speak to me first before making a decision.
So i called her back because i am very upset that she would think it's ok to bring her friends and family to browse the house going in every room including my bedroom. so i told her now, ipay rent every month for my privacy my house it not a museum it's not 7th grade show and tell so no her and her friends cannot come over.
she is married to my fiances cousin so i can understand why she would think it would be ok for her to just assume she can come over. and im more upset at the fact that she didn't ask permission she just told us to be home by 8pm. I dont feel that i was wrong. do you think i was wrong?

We don't have a lease or contract, its a month to month basis. I pay my bill every month on time sometimes before the first. she knew it was wrong to ask for such request because she didn't ask the people upstairs to be home. she only ask us because we are young and she think she can walk all over us.

She is not selling or renting the house to someone else. she just had her out of town guest and friends from her brothers wedding she wanted to show them the house. what bother me is that she didnt ask if she could come, she was telling that she was coming.

This answer is for blunt. i am not immature and i pay 12 hundred dollars a month for my apartment. she is not doing me a favor because i dont l;ive there for free. i had ot pass a credit check and pay a fee just like everyone else. she is allowed to do her inspection whenever she wants, she can come to the house and fix anythin that needs to be fix anytime with my permission, but the fact that she think she can bring her family and friends over to the house like tourist pissed me off. and the fact that she thought it was innappropriate to ask the people upstairs to do the visit. pissed me off that she touhgt i would be ok with it. and this is not my first time renting. this is my third apartment. i currently live in new york and i use to live in florida. i know the proper etiqutte of a landlord and a tenant. her behavior was not a proper one. and you are brobably one off those push overs.

They didn't come over because i said no.

Answer 1

unless she is selling the house there is no real reason why people you dont know to be shown the house.

Answer 2

Being that she is renting the house to you it becomes buisness not family and there are laws that should be followed.. Here the landlord has to give 24 hr notice before entering unless they think there is an emergency..

She should of oked it with you way before hand and let you two know what is going on. I would of been upset too.. So I dont blame you..

When you next talk to her, just let her know that you werent trying to be mean or rude it is just that both of you had no notice that would give you ample amount of time to get things in order and really werent ready for company and maybe see if later on you can show them the house..

Answer 3

It sounds as if perhaps you did overreact just a bit. But she was certainly not very considerate (and potentially not within her rights) when she contacted you about this.

Even a month-to-month rental should have a contract in place (for your own security, really). If you don't have one, you'll want to get one, and be sure to stipulate how much notice the landlord should give before entering your residence. Most states have laws that clarify how much notice a landlord has to give before entering your home. My landlord does everything within his power to give me 24 hours notice before he enters the house. Even when I tell him something inside is broken, he ASKS for permission before coming in.

I'm guessing she knew the friends & family would be in town...after all, they all got invitations to the wedding, didn't they? It would have been much more appropriate for her to say, "Hey, Edan, you know my brother is getting married in July, right? I know there will be a bunch of my friends & family around, and I'd like to show them the place. Could we arrange for you to be around on the 11th or 12th to show off the new property?" That would probably have avoided the stress for you, and allowed her to get what she really wanted in the first place.

Answer 4

I certainly don't feel that you were wrong to take this as an invasion of your privacy but you may want to review your lease or rental contract. She may have the right to do what she proposed, especially if she is thinking of renting the place to someone else and kicking you out at the end of your lease. Plus a landlord has a right to inspection of the premises upon reasonable notice. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

She informed you (as she is obligated to) , so yes, it's her house and she can visit her property. A one time visit with advance notice is NOt and outlandish request, hmmm I'm sure you are a first time renter.

You over reacted, your inmature reaction may leave you homesless, she's doing you a favor and she is also family. The thruth is that no landlorn in thir right state of mind would want to rent to inmature couples that cannot handle a simple request. Your little tantrum my leave you both homeless, good luck trying to find a reasonable landlord.

If this happen often , I could see a reason to be upset, but a one time request is normal. I've heard many people that complain that their landlords go into their homes when they are not present and sometimes walk on them! She at least had the courtesy of informing you...count your blessings.

If you want a home and have your "privacy" and not having anyone walk in you home, I suggest BUYING a house intead of renting.

Good luck

Answer 6

She doesn't have the right to enter your home without your permission. I could understand she is interested in showing the house to her friends, but she didn't go about it in the right way. When my landlord has work to do in my apartment, he always asks when he can come by...I prefer not to be there, so we always try to figure out a time when I'm not around, but that's just us...the only time a landlord is legally permitted to enter your home without your permission is when there is an emergency like a water pipe has burst, etc.

Answer 7

I agree w/ you completley, rhe landlord has the right to show the property is trying to rent or sell, and only as long as you know they are coming.
They have absolutley no right to walk ppl through b/c they want their friends to look at a house they own. I think it is rude of them to even suggest such a thing and I also would be upset.

Answer 8

If her only purpose was to show off a house she bought for renting then she was totally inappropriate to not ask. I'm sure since she is your fiance's cousin she thought him being family would make it okay, but still she's his family, not yours and that was just wrong, wrong wrong. I don't blame you for telling her no. You are correct it is your home, you pay rent, you want privacy and there is no reason for her to show it off.

Answer 9

It should not make any difference if she is related, friends ect..that is your home...you are paying to be there and you should not have even been put in that situation. If she wanted to show it off , she should have done so before having tenants move in or take pictures to show people before hand.

I would say if you were moving out and they needed to show to a prospective new tenant that would be a totally different thing, they have the right to do that..but in this instance just to show it off to people....No .
I don't think you were in the wrong at all.

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Good for you, glad to see you held your ground. Maybe next time she will see fit to ask if she needs to be a show off...

Answer 10

I agree with how you feel about this......

Unless she is either renting or selling the house, she needs to respect your privacy. Even if she is related, business is business and i think that you have a right to be upset.

The fact that she told you when to be home is quite rude in it self however to then expect you to allow her family to go through the house i think is inapprpriate.

She should have spoken to you in person before any plans were made to discuss it with you properly.


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Answer 11

Depending on where you live, I know in California that a landlord can come into your home as long as he or she gives you notice. I think you might have over reacted some. Big deal they want to show off the house. I would too if I had just bought it and they are family. Chill and let them come see it.