Dont you think its sad? last nite was family counsel meeting inthe nursing home my mother is in..?

Question

only three family members came two were for my mom. 125 elderly people live there.

Answer 1

I used to work in a nursing home. Its very sad how many families never bothered coming or calling.

Answer 2

At the nursing home where I worked, we had these multidisciplinary meetings twice a week, so only 10 families were invited to attend each meeting. Using a revolving schedule like this, the care of each resident was reviewed every 90 days. Still, it was amazing how poor the participation was for some residents.

It's very sad when the elderly are warehoused and forgotten. It's even sadder when ambulance-chasing attorneys seek to make a living off those unfortunates by clamoring about nursing home abuse. Most homes meet rigorous state requirements and scrutiny. You can bet those same family members show up when there is any opportunity for monetary gain. That is to say, nursing homes face unwarranted criticism and opposition while they are probably the only people left who really care about most of these elderly residents. I've seen first-hand what family neglect does to these little elderly people.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you have a loved one in a nursing home, don't forget that they are still a part of your family. Visit them often. Take them little gifts. Show them the respect to which they are due.

Answer 3

Why does that surprise you? It's not very different from school functions. Only 3% show up for most things. My mom is presently in a "rehab" center that is also a nursing home. I visit 4 days a week and am constantly called by my father wondering where I am on the days I stay home. I do have a husband and two children at home to take care of as well. As much as I love my mother, I also have a life outside of her. Yes, it would be great if more familes took care of their parents but with some it is far too difficult.

Answer 4

I am happy for your whole family that you all cared enough to show up.

Some old folks have skeletons in the closet and that could be one reason kids don't show up. And sometimes the children are seniors themselves with problems that stop them from making it to the meetings. Still others live long distances away from where they had to set their parents up due to lack of available places in their home area.

I am not making excuses, it's just that we studied both sides of this story while I was taking related courses. Perhaps a local guardian or representive could be there for family who can't make the meetings. Even to take personal notes on behalf of the resident or speak on their behalf would bring more community spirit to the meetings.

I also like the rotating meetings and families idea.

This is not a new challenge. With people living longer and longer getting families together is becoming a bigger challenge.

Answer 5

Too often the elderly are just forgotten after they are put into these homes, its just so so sad. I have visited these places and have found ones that go for years and no visitors, that is a darn shame. They brought us into this world and gave us a lot of there good years and i think the least we could do is to go in and visit them now and then.

All have a Good day, Dave

Answer 6

this is what happen when we lose the family morels.. in my day what was stressed was family first.. we still had to put some of our family in nursing homes but we went and saw them and make sure they were OK.. now they just dump poor old mom or dad out the door and say hope you make it.. i hope when i get to be of that age someone will shot me.. for i rather be dead then have to live in a nursing home.. they smell and some of the people there are not all nice.. i know my wife will take care of me for as long as i need. but she is getting up in years too.. why did we give up on the family way.. why

Answer 7

Very sad, but not surprising.
I volunteer at a local nursing home, and I see so many wonderful elderly people who very rarely, if ever, have family members visit. But when the eldery person passes away, family members arrive crying.
Your mom is very lucky.

Answer 8

It is barbaric the way this country treats the elder.They don't get enough to eat,they can't afford heating in winter or cooling in summer.The life giving Rx's that the doctor tells them to take.Some of them cut their pills in half taking only half what is prescribed. Because they can't afford them to Begin with. The conditions at the nursing homes are not much better than the dog pound.The most depressing thing is to go visit one of this places.They beg you to visit them and grab your hand and talk to you.these are the ones that can get in a wheel chair or walk. The poor people that just lay in bed and wait for death.because no one cares.My mother in law was just in one of these places and her room mate had no one to help her eat.They would bring her meal and put in on the bed table and not even uncover it.She could not eat by herself,begged us to help her she was so hungry and couldn't eat.We fed her ever day,and she improved and had Rosy cheeks again. When my mother in law was ready to leave and come home.We had to leave this little lady. I still feel so bad about this.But,I lived 150 miles away.

Answer 9

Wow, to assert this sounds annoying isn't the word! all your existence, you have felt responsible on your Mum. As you're saying, you have a companion and a existence and no one ought to cease you living this. i in my opinion sense on your mum as this is glaring that she has many themes, yet in all this time, your efforts have not replaced the region (even inspite of the undeniable fact that i could desire to assert you have executed incredibly nicely and tried very puzzling with this!). it sort of appears like your mum's themes are combating her from seeing the flaws which you DO do for her and it is now something she expects, and extra. There has to return a time once you cease feeling responsible for her generally. To be straight forward, you have been attempting for as a result long and no one seems an happier for it do they? with out sounding advise, your mum does sound very manipulative and if this performs on the heartstrings of the persons who care approximately her, then she will push it. i comprehend it's going to be puzzling, yet only take a step decrease back. Be straight forward yet very organization along with her and only clarify which you have tried your terrific and it would not look working. tell her that it is unreasonable to assume you to pass in along with her, fairly as you have a companion and an entire life of your guy or woman and likewise the actuality that regardless of you have tried she has not been happy with besides. If she kicks up a fuss, only proceed to be calm and persist with what you're saying and advise it. the actuality her psych team have picked up on the actuality that her behaviour is interest searching for for sure grants much extra reason to comprehend your thoughts are actually not unfounded. I choose you the terrific of success. D

Answer 10

There's no more respect for the elderly anymore. It' so sad. There's even a user in P&S who trashes old people with awful questions about them. Makes me mad.