Sex.....My Bf really wants to but..........?

Question

I don't no if i am ready and i really like my bf, but he threatens that if we don't hes going to leave me for sum one else...... What should i do???? Please HELP

Answer 1

Let him go... He only wants to have sex and will end up leaving you anyway. What if you get pregnant and he doesn't want to be around for you? I'm a guy telling you not to do this.

Don't feel obligated to have sex with anyone. If they demand it from you, they obviously don't care for you or respect you.

Remember, you women have all of the power. You don't have to put out =P Think of it that way lol.

Answer 2

hey, don't let anyone i mean anyone tell u what to do especially when it comes to sex. It's ur body and u r the only one that can control it. If he really loves u then he won't make u do something u don't want to. IF he loves u then he will respect ur decision and stay to it. Not threathen to leave u if u don't give it to him. A true love means u will do anything for the other person willing. NO force has to be used. If he threathen that means he doesn't love u as much as u think he did. So, i think u should starting looking for another guy and leave him first. It seem like he will leave u after he get what he wants. After u give it to me he is going to make up some excuses to break up with u. For example, he may say oh u r not good at all. U can't satify me so i m going to find someone else. Guys got plently of reason to let a girl go. So, me as a guy is telling u don't give it to him unless u really want to be with someone who i think don't love u as much as he said. U can find someone better than him, trust me. Being true and respectful to urself is a good thing. I wish my g.f would respect her body as much as u do and not go out and cheat on me. But yea, stay true to urself. Good luck!!

Answer 3

Tell him you're not ready and you don't want to. If he doesn't respect that, he's not worth losing your virginity over!!! If he keeps pressuring you, dump him. My first boyfriend did the same thing... So I caved in and did it, it wasn't a horrible experience or anything but I didn't really want to in my heart. Then he dumped me anyway. So I could have waited like I wanted to and it still would have come to the same result. When I got married I really wished I had waited, so it would have been really special with my husband. I still regret it to this day! Don't make the same mistake. It's not a casual thing, sex is really serious and it's a big decision to make. Listen to yourself, don't let someone else make the decision for you.

Answer 4

Someone who "threatens" is not worth being with. He is trying to control you chica. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who accepts you for who you are? So basically you are only worth being with if you will give him sex. He sounds like a major jerk.

If you are not ready then you are not ready, period, end! If he was a nice guy he would accept this about you. RUN away from him as FAST AS YOU CAN. There are so many nice guys out there. I know, I married one who was willing to wait for me until I was ready! He NEVER threatened me, always treated me like a princess, and always accepted me the way I was and knew his option was take it or leave it. He stayed and waited!!!

In case that doesn't do it for you, remember that if you abstain you will not worry about:

Pregnancy
Sexually transmitted diseases including Aids
Broken heart - when he finally dumps you

Please take this advice to heart girlfriend. If I can save you from the heartache that this idiot will cause you then this answer was worth it! Good luck and be safe.

Answer 5

Dump his ***. He only wants u for ur body. If u don't want 2 have sex wit him u shouldn't. If he really cares about u he wouldn't be threatning u like that and pushing u into having sex wit him. U should find someone else. He is just being a dumbass and a big asshole. I think that you should confront him about it. Tell him how you feel. And if he ends up being a jerk about it, then you can do way better. I know it's hard . But I promise you that there is someone else out there who will appreciate time with you (and only you).

Answer 6

Now if you know your not ready for sex, then don't do it. So if you relax take a deep breath, and just examine the whole situation. Now if you not ready for the 5% or 4% or whatever chance of getting pregant then your not ready. Now if you wanna take that chance then be my guest. But if i was in your shoes, i would had told him in the nicest way possible to either wait until i am ready or leave me. Because if you like him, then you just have a little feelings for him. Now if you love him, then you still have to tell him to leave, you be hurt but you also save your life from having a early family. My suggestion is to you is for you to let him go. And you wait for a man who is willing to wait for you because he is going to love you for you not for your body.

Answer 7

if you have to question whether or not having sex with him is a good idea or not then you aren't ready. and if he's pressuring you, threatening you, or anything else like that then he isnt a good bf and you should leave him because if he was a good bf he would wait for you to be ready. if i were you id leave him and find someone who respects you....

good luck : )

Answer 8

You should let him carry out his threat. If he's pressuring you to have sex with him and you don't feel ready, then he's not the man you should be with anyway. There's someone FAR better out there for you. Keep yourself clean from guys like him, save that most precious part of yourself until you can give it to someone that loves you enough to wait until you're married.

Answer 9

LET HIM LEAVE as it sounds like he's only after one thing. IF he cared about you, your concerns would matter. I have a feeling if you give in to him, he will get what he wants and move on to the next one. Respect yourself and dont do anything you dont want to do. Sex will always be there, there's no rush.

Answer 10

Tell him to take a hike. This situation has been one for the ages, sweetie. "If you don't put out, I'll find someone who will." So you do, and he leaves anyway. Then you have a broken heart, a STD and possibly a baby.
Listen to your heart and tell him no. No one should ever have sex until she's ready, and any boy who pushes for it before she wants to is a jerk and an azzhole. Dump his butt and find someone who loves you.

Answer 11

don't let him bully you into doing something that you are not ready to do. if he cared about you at all he would respect your decision not to have sex right now. my guess is that he will leave you for somebody else whether or not you have sex with him. dump him before he dumps you and find somebody who is going to respect you. love yourself and respect yourself and you will find a guy that will do the same. good luck.