Everytime he is told no he cant do something he hits and fights with me , screaming and crying like a wild child. I put him in either the crib or play pen to keep him contained and in "time out" he just screams if I allow it untill he falls asleep the longest has been 45 min. I would close him off in his room and check on him every 10 to 15 minto make sure he was ok, but he just tries to reach out and hit me more Im at my wits end and dont know what we shold do , I know that he has his back 2 yr molars breaking but what to do PPPLLLEEAASSEEE HHEELLPPP MMMEEE Thank You so much!!!
2007-07-12 03:50:22 · 10 answers · asked by misque77 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son is two and does this sometimes too. Sometimes he pinches me really hard when he's nursing. It's hard to not take personally, but a 2 yr old is too young to have "attitude." He's just learning what behavior is acceptable and what the consequences are of unacceptable behavior. I think he also is testing our boundaries and consistency. I just react naturally to the pain, like yelling "ouch!", and stop doing whatever it is we're doing. I tell him hitting hurts, and I don't hit you, and you don't hit me. He usually doesn't do it when he's angry, but when he's in a good mood, but if he is angry, I say it's Ok to be angry but not to hit. My walking away usually gets him to stop. He might swat once or twice but that's it. It's normal to have temper tantrums when you're told "no" when you're two. My son does it too. They are angry and don't know how to handle it, and are just expressing themselves. Thankfully my son only does it at home. It's hard to watch them struggling with themselves and being angry with us, but you just have to be there for them until they release all those emotions. I think when they can talk better and express themselves better things calm down.
I can't imagine hitting him to teach him hitting is wrong. Who is the grown up here? He learns what you teach him. Please just walk away!
2007-07-12 10:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by mnx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for the teeth you should still be using orajel and motrin. Pain can make a child tempermental anyway and mixed with the terrible twos this has to be hard. I suggest maybe hitting him back. When my son started biting I would bite back. Don't just rear back and smack your child but, pop him. Surprise him and yes he is going to scream but, he has to see what he is doing to you. But, if you would help out on the pain the tantrums may not get so bad. Sooth and comfort him but, never, never let him get away with hitting you or anyone else. Time outs aren't working if he is screaming because his head hurts. You just have to be stern with him and never give in to the fits or he will consider you wrapped around his finger. Good luck.
2007-07-12 04:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hit you sit. Make sure he is in an area that is not for bedtime- ie. his crib.
I put my son in a rocking chair- and he would rock out his mad until he was calm. If he tried to get down- right back in- over and over and over until he stayed there.
You may also get a timer and set it for 2 minutes, if he is still hitting, tell him you are resetting the timer.
When you put him in his room etc. Ignore him- don't go near him. Let him work it out. When the time is up and he is calm, then you can deal with him...not before.
Also, be firm, we don't hit mommy.
Molars have little to do with this behavior...give him infant motrin and that should do it for the teething. This is a bigger issue.
2007-07-12 03:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by NY_Attitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he hits you, tell him "stop hitting me" "hitting hurts" and simply walk away and try to ignore him until he stops. Try not using the word no as much as you can. Ex... You can have a snack after lunch instead of No you cant have a snack until after you eat lunch. You are still getting the same message across, but without being so negative so he is less likely to act out. Good Luck!
2007-07-12 03:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i live in a country where punishing children by spanking is acceptable , but talk to him firmly to show him that you are in charge not him. When he hits you tell him not to hit you in a loud firm voice so that he would know that you are not playing with him. Also take away certain toys for a while until he apologizes for hitting you.
2007-07-12 05:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Behavioral conditioning-Shock Therapy
2007-07-12 03:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time out should be one minute per age...so at 2 the time out would be 2min....if after 2min he is still hitting and raging then tell him the timer is being re-set...and continue doing so until he gets it.....you don't hit.
2007-07-12 04:00:59 · answer #7 · answered by miatalise12560 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is crying out for discipline!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Smack his hands and tell him, in a stern voice, "NO, you do NOT hit!"
Do NOT use 'time outs' - they do NOT work!!! The only thing that will work is discipline!!!
YOU need to step up to the plate and act like a parent!
2007-07-12 03:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spare the rod spoil the child. Smack his little butt!
2007-07-12 03:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Young 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to smack his butt you need to show him hitting hurts and its not ok and take away his favorite toys movies blanket whatever
2007-07-12 03:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋