my husbands mother is a gossip?

Question

my husbands mother constantly gossips about us and other members of their family to other people 99% of the time she gets things wrong and if u confront her she lies like a rug to cover up what she says. she totally ignores me and my children and has told people she wishes her son and i had never ever been married and recently told some of my husbands brothers that my husband is cheating on me? I need some advice to stop the mouth of the south and put her in her place once and for all. thank you for the answers

Answer 1

Don't look for instant revenge in a can. This will take time, if you and your husband love each other, and you know the truth about yourselves, and your relationship, then nothing she says should bother you, nothing she says should have any impact on you or your husband. The truth puts you in a much higher place than she'll ever be, you can simply shake it off, because it's not the truth....

Tell her that you don't have a problem with her and that if she has something against you that she should tell you, that way you know.

Or you can simply ignore all the junk she talks, and be nice to her, be nice to her even if it's hard to do so. This will show her that no matter what she says about you she has nothing over you, that you're the bigger person here. Be tough girl, don't worry because this won't last forever, just move on and be happy with your own family, love them and think of them and laugh when things get tough. Don't waste your energy thinking about her, she obviously has you on her mind all day long, haa haa haha that's funny right? See, she's the one with the issues, not you....so if she ignores you and makes you feel uncomfortable, don't let that get to you, you have every right to be there too, you're part of your husbands family, you belong there. And as far as your brother in-laws, try to get along with them, and show them that you're not as their mother says. People often slander people to make themselves feel better. Your better than that, remember that!

Be Cool...

Answer 2

Send this to her in an email or postal delivery.........

"my husbands mother is a gossip?
my husbands mother constantly gossips about us and other members of their family to other people 99% of the time she gets things wrong and if u confront her she lies like a rug to cover up what she says. she totally ignores me and my children and has told people she wishes her son and i had never ever been married and recently told some of my husbands brothers that my husband is cheating on me? I need some advice to stop the mouth of the south and put her in her place once and for all. thank you for the answers"

Answer 3

I know what you mean...I have a mother in law that does kinda the same thing...she gossips to her daughter and my husband and the other brother is a saint and who ever he dates is acceptable but for some reason.... well I just understand how you feel.....my husband have had fights about it but it comes down that I don't live with her and she can say or do whatever she wants but I just ignore it and let her just be mean...she never tells me anything to my face...itd just to others. Or try to talk to her about it if you feel up to that challenge. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I finally stood up to my own MIL last month. I have to tell you it feels fantastic!! She would constantly say things and talk about us to other people. She even went as far as saying that I was an unfit mother!! My DH and I were finally so fed up with her behavior that we ended that relationship. We haven't spoken to her in weeks now. It's a relief not to care what she says to people anymore. I am focusing more energy on my family and not on worrying about what she's going to do next. I never knew what a great stress she was on me and my marriage until she was no longer in my life. Good luck to you!
~ MIL free for 3 weeks and counting ~

Answer 5

Why let it get to you? One day - she will put her foot in her mouth one time too many and the problem will be solved without your input. Being nasty to her will only make you look bad and won't stop her from talking about you and yours to anyone and everyone who will listen.

The next time she wants to share gossip with you just ask her if she's going to tell you something positive, because if not, you don't want to hear it. Otherwise, leave her be. It'll catch up with her one day.

Answer 6

thats really your husbands job. I know how you feel, my mil did the same thing...i cried all the time. when my hubby figured it out he went to her and put a stop to it. he told her that i was the most important thing in his life and if she made me unhappy that she would not be a part of our lives. It worked like a charm.

Answer 7

you can put her in her place by gathering your dignity, acting like a lady and going about your life. don't let HER control your emotions anymore.

she is obviously bored out of her mind, doesn't have a life, doesn't keep herself occupied with positive things, so has to talk about others.

YOU know the truth about yourself..... and through your actions and words, so do all your friends and relatives.

ignore her... she's not worth worrying over.

Answer 8

My husbands mother is a gossip?

Answer 9

Is today a spiritually beautiful day filled with Joy and good things?

Answer 10

A mother in law that is a pain in your butt now there is a newsflash. I am blessed that my evil mother in law died a painful death from cancer a few years ago. Buy her some cigarettes maybe you will get lucky