Im ready to "Do It" with my bf, but I need help on how and when to approach him.?

Question

ok, im 18 and he is 19. I love him and I know he loves me because he been waiting this long. He asked me on our third anniversary when are we going to become more intimate. I told him since its our third year, ill supprise you anytime during this year, and I still havent did anything yet and its already our 4th anniversary. He hasent asked or nothing, I guess he gave up, but know im ready I just need to know when. sometimes he comes and picks me up from work and takes me to his aparment and I fix him something for us both to eat about everyday. I need to do approach him while im at his apartment. give me some ideas please, make it romantic. but he cant know about it, maybe somethings that can fit in my purse, I can go in his room and set it up. Please just give me some ideas.

Answer 1

Honey, listen... if you two love each other as much as you mentioned, you dont need anything but you two. Candles and music are nice.. but nothing compares to the way you two make each other feel during the love session. Your first time is akward enough without worrying about the small stuff. Relax, and just get through this "ice breaker" of a time. If you really want to do something sweet, wear something a little extra nice... if you catch my drift. Don't get all hung up on the movie type romance.

Answer 2

Okay, well, my partner had some good points on what can happen once you take that next step. You are the only one that knows you're ready. Don't feel pressured to do it just because you gave your word and you're afraid he'll go elsewhere to get it. He obviously loves you or he wouldn't still be with you. That being said, sorry Michael H, I'm gonna go over your head with what she asked:

Are you already on some type of birth control or are you relying on condoms alone? At 18, it's probably not the wisest idea to become pregnant when you're not ready.

That being said, you want to set the stage, first of all, it should happen naturally, in the "heat of the moment." so to speak. Everything should feel right, like you love what you're feeling as you're going along and you don't want to stop. Fancy candles, lingerie, all of that doesn't need to be there if that's not what's comfortable for you.

Kiss him, let that kiss give him the idea and maybe whisper into his ear that you're ready, but you want to relish every moment and not rush through anything. He loves you, he'll help you take it from there. Good luck.

Answer 3

Treat it like a honeymoon. Plan a trip, even if it is to a hotel room down town. Get a nice nightie. Make it into a ceremony. Take a long time. Lots of foreplay, touching, kissing, etc. Have candles. Two nights would be better than one. As it is your first time, use some lube. When you're ready, have him do insert fast, but then stop and go slow. There will be pain, but you will get past it quickly. Do the same thing the second time, it should be enjoyable, more so then.

Answer 4

The first thing you need to do is figure out what kind of birth control you will be using..I would go for the pill..if you are a smoker then there are other alternatives.. condoms are ok..IF and I really mean IF they are used properly.. when I was in high school i used one improperly and got my GF prego! YOU DON"T NEED AN ABORTION OR KIDS AT THIS AGE! So once you have figured that out, then plan it yourself.. you have obviously set it up in his mind that YOU are going to make the move.. so get off the pot and make it.. Since this is a special time for you, then plan something special.. let him know what to expect... ( yes fill him in on your plans.) that will make the build up even more passionate... It doesn't matter where you end up making love.. beach.. river.. lake..his place your place.. what matters is that IF its your first time make it special.. ohh and if your hymen (sp?) (cherry) is not popped then it WILL hurt... so make provisions for this...( couple of advil an hour prior may work.. then again it may NOT) but this will be something that you remember for the rest of your life so try to make it special, but more importantly make it ASAP.. I cant believe he has waited this long.. he must really adore you... I know at that age I wouldn't have... ..
MY 2 cents.. Dan the man 38 YO married 3 kids

Answer 5

First off, let me say congratulations on picking out an excellent gift for your boyfriend. I can promise you he will love it.

You don't have to set much up. He won't even see anything but you, so don't waste too much effort on candlelight or such. A scented candle might be romantic though. Keep any music low, background level.

The main thing is you. Wear something revealing and obviously easy to get out of. Also wear a bedroom smile. Things will happen naturally.

He's going to so love this :)

p.s. Ignore Michael, but do use birth control, of course. I'm sure you already knew that.

Answer 6

Huh. I owe you an apology. I expected to click on this and find some idiot 14-year old.

All you need are condoms, maybe some personal lubricant, and something sexy to wear. That's it! If you want to, you can add some candles and music, but just show up at his door in a really sexy outfit (maybe wear a trench coat over it until he opens the door), and he'll know what to do! You won't have to say a thing.

That's my suggestion. Good luck! I think you were very smart and wise to wait. I hope you have a great time. :-)

Answer 7

See if you can get to his apartment before he does. Set it up with candles and wear some cute lingerie. Use rose petals and leave a trail to his bedroom door. Wait for him on his bed, have some sparkling juice (ur too young for champagne...sorry) waiting nearby with strawberries dipped in chocolate. Make sure you have protection (lots of it), lubricant (KY), and are relaxed and in the mood.

Remember, the first time isn't always easy, but it gets better with practice. You want to be prepared and feel beautiful.

Answer 8

First off, I'm goin to be the stick in the mud. There's a joke i tell and the one thing in the punch line is "Well turn it around".

Now, you may THINK you are ready, but, I'm going to tell you you aren't. If you have to ASK, then you really are questioning yourself.

So, let's turn this question around. What if, after doing it, you become pregnant. Let's just say you are excited. Well, you tell BF and he's in shock. Yes you can use all kinds of protection but, things happen. Are you ready to become a mom at 18???? I don't think so.

Opinion: WAIT. Don't give it up and find yourself in a state of regret.

Answer 9

you dont do romantic things for men really its the women who like that!! men just kinda wanna do the whole make out thing and then you suprise him by taking it further thats all... but just make sure you are ready and if it just happens you wont be so nervous dont plan for it to happen at a certain time or day or youll be so nervous you wont be able to do it... just let nature take its course..

Answer 10

What you do is go to Victoria's Secret, and pick up the sexiest peice of lingerie you can find with some pumps [heels]. Turn on "Red Light SpeCial" by TLC. Then, call him into the room "Baby, can you come here please" but sexual like. He comes in, you grab his hand and kiss him while pulling him to the bed. sit him down....and well you take it from there...hope this helps.