umm i am 15 and getting married and my bf and i keep talk about sex ...... but i am a virgin and he's not he's 17 and i don't know what or how to do anything?
please help the best answer highest points!!!!
no mean answers please!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-12 03:40:23 · 24 answers · asked by blondewithbrains92 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
15 and getting married? I thought you were the blonde with brains!
2007-07-12 04:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
blondewithbrains92 -
Okay, I'll try not to sound "mean".
First off, if you really want to live up to your online name (Blonde with brains), then DON'T get married...at least NOT until you finish both high school and graduate from college with some kind of useful degree and marketable skill.
Why?
The odds are against you that you and your boyfriend will end up divorced within five years and most likely you'll have a baby.
Which means you'll be an unwed teen mom with no skills or promising future.
Secondly - sex.
Ah!
Sex...lovely sex!
Stay a virgin for awhile.
Certainly wait until you are of legal age in your state.
Most state laws say that 18 is the legal age for consensual sex...which means that if you and your boyfriend agree to have sex right now, it is still rape and he would go to jail.
And speaking of sex - for God's sake, please make sure he uses protection.
Not only to avoid an unplanned pregnancy, but so that your won't get a sexually transmitted disease.
Look, you are young.
You have not traveled around the world or met a lot of guys.
You need to discover yourself, for that matter.
You at 15 today will be a totally different person ten years from now...with different values and opinions and beliefs.
Enjoy life, WITHOUT getting married.
2007-07-12 03:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by docscholl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be too young to get married. Best to mature a bit longer before taking such a life altering and permanent step.
You can learn by doing if you are willing and interested in making your partner feel the best possible.
Many books and pictures available.
You need warming up with a lot of french kissing and rubbing and cuddling for at least 30 minutes before having intercourse or oral. Your bf only needs to get his dick out and he is ready to go with oral and intercourse. So the two of you will have to work that out between you. Just make your needs clearly known up front and to start with.
Making love is a lot about providing the best sensations that are possible to your mate. Learn the best way to to this to some extent by practice on your own body.
2007-07-12 03:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by Toosense3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are getting married at 15? Ok, well I don't know why people would be mean at this point, no one can make you not get married. But, I would just say don't worry about it. My boyfriend had had sex before and I hadn't and I just didn't worry about it and it just happened. As long as you love him it will be ok, it will hurt obciously, but when you love someone you will go through the pain for them and yourself. After a few times it will be better and you two can grow together. Just make sure you are both ready for marriage and commitment to each other and only each other for the rest of your lives and everything should turn out fine.
2007-07-12 03:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is this a question or a boast? Why would you marry so young? What do your parents, and his, think about this? Is there no one you can talk to about your wedding night? An aunt, grandmother, neighbor or trusted friend? You say you don't want mean answers and yet you're still in 8-9th grade, so why wouldn't we oppose something as silly as marrying before you're into high school?
2007-07-12 03:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant , for the life of me, figure out why you are getting married at such a young age, but who am i to judge...i think you are asking advice on how or what to do when it comes to sex. No one can tell you what is right or wrong for you, that is something you have to figure out. This isnt something that is taught to you it is something you learn as you go... the first time will be painful but after that all should go well...if your husband to be is not a virgin then why dont you ask him to tell you these things? is there anyone close to you whom you might get some advice from? good luck
2007-07-12 03:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by tee_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Blonde with Brain HUH?.........me thinks otherwise for right now...but then you only have stated that you are fifteen years old hun. Take some time to experiment and evolve and satisfy yourself and your curiosities with men out there.....especially with a few good REAL men before you go marching off to the alter with anyone. You're way to young to be mature enough to handle the riggers of a permanent relationship with anyone seriously. Sorry if this is "too blunt" for you really....but then what else is there to really acknowledge to you significantly darling? You'd be making a mistake by getting married right now hun. I can't believe that your guts don't already tell you this though. Who are we to judge you otherwise sweetie?
2007-07-12 03:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're getting married at 15!? Not smart.
But if you are foolish enough to go through with this, then just make sure he takes it slow. Other than that, he'll know what you should do.
Ick. You really should wait until you are grown up. Someday you'll know why. Good luck!
2007-07-12 03:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you getting married at 15 and you're still a virgin? i would think if you were pregnant, but being so young and your boyfriend being so young, how can you be sure if he's going to be faithful to you? are you getting married just because he wants to have sex? that's not a good idea.
2007-07-12 03:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by dcarcia@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i dont know if you're lying or not or telling the truth. but if you're telling the truth then here it is. If you are only 15 it is very smart to use virth control everytime you do it. wash your sex organs before and after sex so that no infections can occur. telll your boyfriend you want to have sex and gice it a try. if you dont feel comfortable with the process of making love then stop.
with love, Bridgette
2007-07-12 03:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but I am 15 and I wouldn't even think about getting married! Or having sex, I think you should wait on both, you are rushing this way to fast. You need to meet other people that are out there, he can't be your true love, im sorry.
2007-07-12 03:43:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋