I take care of my sisters 4 children in the mornings and recently started a new job. My mother has Full costody of the children until my sister is able to take them back. How do i tell my mom that i cant watch them any more. I have bills of my own and a baby to support. I need the extra money because she does not pay me anything. I love these kids to death, but getting by is hard with no income. I just dont know how to tell her i cant watch the kids anymore. What do i do?
2007-07-12 03:16:55 · 12 answers · asked by Shelby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her that in order to make ends meet you have had to get a job. She will not find fault with that. She has to understand that you have to provide or help provide for your family. See if you can get anyone lined up to refer her to.
Good Luck.
2007-07-12 03:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her this post. The children are her responsibility, not yours. Tell her that you can take them occasionally to give her a break but you have your own responsibilities as a mom too.
Not a good situation, try to help her resolve it by finding another sitter. Isn't she getting some sort of state aid for the children? Where is the children's father in all this? I understand it may cause more problems and that's why she's not looking for help, but at some point the fear has to balance with the kids not getting what they need. I wish well for everyone involved.
2007-07-12 03:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your mom getting assistance from the state to help support these children? If so, they do pay for daycare and she can talk to them to get referred to a daycare that they approve of and they will make arrangements to have them paid. If your sister is providing financial support, then your mom will have to get some babysitting money from her to pay the bill.
It's great that you found a job and I think your mom will understand and will be happy for you. Just tell her you are going to be employed full-time and will have to find a sitter of your own - perhaps you two can look for one together.
2007-07-12 03:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take care of your own, and I sympathize. I think if there's any chance to, you should try and figure out something, anything your mom can do that will help her.
Then I think you should just tell her straight up, "Mom, I have a job, and I won't be able to watch the kids anymore."
I'd give her a week, if you can, but you have to start life, and take care of your child. If you can spare a bit of money from the job that might ease the burden on your mom, but I don't think that's something you need to do.
2007-07-12 03:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you started a new job, that means you will be using day care correct, perhaps you could suggest to your mom that she does the same. If she has custody of your sisters children she more than likely gets some sort of income from that, that she could use for the day care.
2007-07-12 03:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about, HI mom, exciting news I just got a job, I am going to be working the following hours which means I really wont be available for babysitting. I really need the money cause I am getting behind in my bills and need to catch up.
2007-07-12 03:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by dave n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest. Tell her that the baby cries all day and it is too much for you to handle with the two other babies in the house. Let her know that if she is willing to ask her doctor how to calm him, you will consider keeping him, but that for right now you are not the best person for the job. Tell her that you don't feel like you are taking proper care of him because you have your hands full with your own kids.
2016-05-20 09:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her you've started a new job and won't be able to babysit. If she questions you about this, explain you also have bills to pay and a child of your own to take care of.
I honestly can't see how she could fault you over this.
2007-07-12 03:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch tough question. well it depends how old they are. if there is one thats like 12 or 13 then they could probably watch the rest for a little while. but if they are all like 7 and under then they cant stay home alone
2007-07-12 03:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by Forever Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.. if you have a job, i don't know how your mom can expect you to help her.
just let her know she needs to find someone else to come in and care for the kids in the mornings, because you have other responsibilities. you can let her know you will help out when you can, otherwise (if that is what you want to do).
take care of YOU and your baby.
2007-07-12 03:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋