Im 13 and a half. I know about emancipation and i plan to get emancipated when im old enough. I never get along with my parents, we always fight. My mom just goes off and cries but my dad shouts. Sometimes i hear my mom scream and i think he might be hurting her. Lately he's been shouting at me more and more. Sometimes he gets so mad he gets this crazy look in his eyes and i get terrified. I just freeze and pray he won't hit me. He has never actually hit me. And i have no proof he hits my mom. I am just afraid he will lose it one day and hit me...i have one younger brother whom i love. He's 11. I do not think he is aware what is happening. Just to be clear, My dad has never hit me and i have no proof he hits my mom. I am just afraid he will hit me and i don't want to take that chance. I am 13 and a half and my brother just turned 11. What do i do? Help me please.
Thanks so much, I appreciate it a lot.
2007-07-12 03:11:30 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
um...well someone just told me theres something called emotional abuse. My dad tells me he is going to take me to a doctor because there is something wrong with my head and i am mental. He tells me i am insane and he means it...He also tells me i am F****ed up in the head.
2007-07-12 03:17:35 · update #1
yes my dad drinks...he drinks a lot.
2007-07-12 03:30:47 · update #2
Call CPS no one ever has the right to hit you or call you names. Not even your father.
2007-07-12 03:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your dad is in a calm mood, tell him you are afraid he is going to hit you, that the way he handles problems with you is not helping you, it's just creating resentment and leading you to fear him instead of love him. Tell him you hope he is too good of a person to ever hit you, but that if ever did that you would call the police right away and also 976-kids and report the abuse. You do have rights as a child to not be abused and there is a lot of help for you. As yet, your father has not hit you, so that should give you some comfort. If he starts yelling and looks to be going in a rage, tell him "Dad, can we please talk more about this when we are both calm?" I know at your age it can be scary to stand up for yourself, but it's the best way to care for yourself if neither parent is capable of doing it for you. Good luck and don't be scared, you aren't hit today.
2007-07-12 10:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, I would suggest you calling CPS or speaking to someone that you are close to and you feel confident confiding in. Perhaps a pastor or church member, walk into a hospital and tell a staff member. I am sure you have safe places where you are... just walk in and tell someone of what is going on.
Concerning your little brother... believe me, he already knows what is going on and probably feels the same way that you do. i would suggest talking to him. ******* NOTHING deep or to informational however.******* Simply say, "what do you think is going on with mom and dad, things have been werid lately don't you think?" See what his response is.
However, if you are truly scared for yourself and your brother you need to take action now to prevent any possible problems from arising.
I would also like to add this... you said that you have never gotten along with your parents. are you a unrully child, are you disrespectful and go against their rules causing them to fuss and be harsh on you? Now I do not cundon the beating of anychild.... but I also do not cundon a disrespectful youth behavior either.
if you need to talk.. you can email me anytime.
2007-07-12 10:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is emotionally abusing the whole family. You need to talk to another adult you trust. You need to talk to your mom when dad isn't around. Tell her you can't live like this anymore and you are worried for her safety and your younger sib. Do you have grandparents you could stay with or an Aunt or Uncle? Your mom might be to afraid of dad to speak up for herself at the moment. You are old enough to know what is going on is wrong. I know how hard it is. No child at any age should have to live in fear of what might happen. You need to talk with someone who can really step in on your behalf and your sib's. There are help lines I am sure in your area. I would look for them online for you but I don't know where you are from. You could look as well. That way you could find someone to setp in and help.
2007-07-12 10:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hear what your dad is doing but what is he yelling about. i mean people dont just start yelling for no reason. someone did somethign to make him mad and he is finding little things to piss him off. you are at that age of rebellion. i know i am 31 with 4 kids. and i was liek that in that age range. my daugheter she is 11 she will sass you , roll her eyes when i say for to do something like put her clean clothes away. i raise my tone when she does more than 2times. thens he will stop and realize i amthe boss. i dont think he will hit yall. i just think he needs to work on his temper. and loosen up a bit. i would do somehting nice for him and would realize what hes dong wrong. people yell all the time. i bet you want to yell at him too right. if you really want to have relationship with him and mom. talk to him when he s sober and in a good mood. and be open minded too just talk and i bet it would help he loves you he just has a hard time controlling his anger everyone is human like your daddy and mommy.
2007-07-17 09:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by grumpyjen28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hon...
perhaps you could talk to a relative you trust and respect about the family situation? do you have an aunt or uncle or grandmother who might be able to help at all?
sometimes we need to talk and get things off our chests.
if your living situation is that frightening and bad, perhaps someone needs to intervene?
if there is a lot of drinking in your family (your father, in particular) you might want to look up the Alateen website for help and support...
you can also look up How to Cope with Angry Parents.
it seems your father has some anger issues which he has not addressed, and i'm sure there are problems in the marriage which are being ignored.. instead they fight and argue.
you're in my thoughts and prayers.
2007-07-12 10:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has not hit you, thats good. He has control. Any family or close friends you can talk to about your fear? Why don't you get along with both your parents? Abuse is usually handed down from generations. Physical or mental. Try speaking with him when he is sober. Let him know how scared you are. good luck
2007-07-19 18:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by sambgood05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have friends or family members that you can talk to, talk to them. Sounds like your dad is the one who needs the help. I grew up in a alcoholic family. It can be very scary, and I understand the fear you hold for your mom and your younger brother. I have a sister that is 6 years younger than me, and I was always trying to keep her from getting hurt. Your mom seems to have given up, and is depressed. She needs help as well. Please talk to someone, and get help. I know you love your dad and you don't want to hurt him, but he needs your help. You are in my thoughts, good luck!
2007-07-18 23:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one prayer is a good answer...Pray for your mom, dad, you, and your brother. God can help in any sitution.
2nd- Try to talk to a adult me and my parents used to fight and me and my dad still do (I got slapped once, a few years ago) My parents are now divorced so it's not so bad except for my dad don't care for me. He also drinks. Trust me if you can find another adult to talk to do it. They'll understand and probably try to help.
God Bless and Good luck
You can go to my profile and e-mail me anytime you want. I'll do my best I've been there. I'm only a few years older than you so I can relate a little better.
God is with you I'll pray for you
2007-07-12 10:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like there are some serious issues going on in your family. has he lost his job or is he in danger of doing so? is there problems in the marriage? (sure sounds like it). if you have a church, talk to your pastor. if not, do you have a responsible adult outside of your family that you can talk to?
can you ask your parents what is going on that you have notice things are getting progressively worse at home and you wonder why? tell them that they are scaring you guys. i am sure that is not their intent. they just seem overwhelmed by life for some reason. try to find out why.
you sound very level headed and mature for you age. good luck dear. God bless you.
2007-07-12 10:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
emancipation-You need a parents permission even if you are old enough.Just hang in there life is hard sometimes...If you see your dad hit your mom or if he hits you for no good reason tell someone right away!(tell someone when your in school)
2007-07-12 10:18:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋