And who gave it to you?
Mine was: Love people for who they are - not who you want them to be -- and that was from my grandmother.
2007-07-12 03:09:05 · 12 answers · asked by Challah back Girl... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Date many, trust few.Ghandi told me that.
2007-07-12 07:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got this from a shrink in the student counseling center when I was in undergraduate school: I was into a girl that wasn't into me.
He told me something very profound: Your commitment to a relationship is proportional to your investment in it and not your profit from it. Think about that. A very important corollary from that is this: For a relationship to succeed with two partners who are both happy, their emotional investments must stay fairly equal over time.
That's not to say one won't be invested more than the other at some point but before very long, the investments will even up again.
That's the basis for, wait for it, wait for it, The Rules. The gals who wrote that understand that men and women invest very differently. The thing most gals don't get it that men invest by pursuit. That's why you make him chase a prudent amount.
The other really good advice I got was this: men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love. Men particularly are prone to disconnect sex and love and it's only by getting him emotionally invested on a equal basis that you avoid the disconnect.
Hope this helps.
2007-07-12 11:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I ever got was from a friend when I was dating my ex-wife.
She said, "you have to work at a relationship, but you shouldn't have to work this hard," then she told me I should break it off with my then girlfriend.
I wish I'd listened to her.
I think there's this cultural need here to 'make' it. If we were more critical in the dating stages we wouldn't have a 60% divorce rate. Yes, it takes compromise and work, but you shouldn't have to work that hard, because the right person should be more compatible.
2007-07-12 10:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, my best advice was from a movie.
And trust me once you hear it, you'll look for it too.
Movie:
A Bronx Tale
Advice:
Sonny: Alright, listen to me. You pull up right where she lives, right? Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors. Then, get outta the car, you walk over to her. You bring her over to the car. Dig out the key, put it in the lock and open the door for her. Then you let her get in. Then you close the door. Then you walk around the back of the car and look through the rear window. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her.
Calogero 'C' Anello: Just like that?
Sonny: Listen to me, kid. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in, that means she's a selfish broad and all you're seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and you dump her fast.
2007-07-12 10:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by malachai 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What your grandmother said, plus - save your virtue (virginity) for the one you marry.
2007-07-12 10:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best dating advice:
Do NOT be tempted to call him first. Men love to chase and if you seem too keen they will run away.
This was given to me by a friend.
2007-07-12 10:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by cuteweelisa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be opening to learning about people different than myself.
{along the same lines of what your granny taught you...}
2007-07-12 10:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can not see yourself being with the person for the rest of your life, it's not worth it.
2007-07-12 10:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love will not walk up to you and knock at your door. GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM.
(My ma)
2007-07-12 10:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by novembr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my mother told me not to marry my ex..... and she was right!!
he turned out to be a real jerk!
2007-07-12 10:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by act_won 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋