Can girls and guys just be friends??? I have an awesome guy friend. We have everything in common. He has even told me that he can talk to me like I am one of the guys. But many of my friends are telling me that somehting is going to happen and we are going to get together. They say this because we make fun of each other, joke, flirt, all that. I still think that girls and guys can just be friends. Can they?
2007-07-12 02:40:04 · 35 answers · asked by sarah c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that it's possible, but I have seen that in many of these friendships there is a time when one person or the other gets curious to know what it would be like.
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2007-07-12 02:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by The Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it is possible...The problem is...just because he says you're like one of the guys doesn't mean he really feels that way. He may secretly be attracted to you, and for the sake of the friendship just won't tell you. Or maybe you deep down have some feelings for him. But just "play it off"
It's very difficult for a man and woman to spend so much close time together without anything happening. You said yourself you "flirt" with each other. Do you "flirt" with your female friends, Probably not!
This is a sign that things are already going in the direction of "more than friends".
Think about this for a moment. If the opportunity arised and you both were completely alone and the electricity went out(Get my drift?) What do you think would happen?
So, Be careful, if you really want to be "just friends" calm down on some of the flirting and stuff or just get together, then you won't have to pretend anymore.
2007-07-12 02:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a no and yes question. Usually when 2 people are close like you guys are something is going on or is going to happen but you just don't see it because one of you see each other as a friend. But that's how feelings develop. If you like him let him know. But I personally believe you can be friends from a distance but there will always be feelings especially because you both are so close.
2007-07-12 02:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jamezy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy and girl can never be friends because the sex issue always gets in the way. You don't have any male friends. You only think you do. Your "male friends" really only want one thing. However, a guy and a girl who are both in different relationships can be friends.
Of coure, that doesn't work either because their boyfriends/girlfriends don't understand why they have to be friends with another girl/boy, and will start to distrust them, thinking that they want to be something more than friends, which leads us back to the original rule: that guys and girls can never be friends.
2007-07-12 02:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by witdfk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!! I have a friend that's like that. At first he thought he liked me and we went through this wierd stage but now we are just really good friends!! Sometimes people think that we are dating but we aren't he has a gf. I think guy friends are better than most girl friends a lot of the time!!! Have fun!!
2007-07-12 02:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only a girl thinks that but he might think different. I was in the same postion that i had a girl best friend and i liked her but she just wanted to be friends. some guys think different than girls. when ur joking around and making fun of each other, that makes him think u like him, so i would talk to him.
2007-07-12 02:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by DAVY O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To a point, yes. But you guys are obviously attracted to one another, otherwise, the word..."flirt" wouldn't have even come into play. I have male acquaintenances, meaning, it's more than just a passing hello. We will make small talk, I ask about their kids, wives, weather, sports, maybe a gossip bit that came out of the newspaper, but that's about as personal as it gets.
Your "friendship" with him sounds like the one I have with my husband. That's how it starts anyway, your friends are probably just pointing out the obvious.
2007-07-12 02:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. My best friend is my teammate at work. She and I have a blast every day we work together. We do things together away from work, often times with my wife and son as well.
I couldn't imagine a better friend. There is absolutely no romantic interest between the two of us or any sexual tension for that matter. We are just good friends.
2007-07-12 02:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by todd s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its unnatural to "just be friends" with opposite sex. Not impossible. But a truly good relationship foundation is built on friendship. I was friends with my wife before getting married. There is (I'd say) a 95%+ chance that there is a spark there too. At least from one side of the friendship.
2007-07-12 02:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by Steve B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I just read letter written in column about this---husband is emailing ex-wife , tried to be " just friends", he is still in love with ex although he is now married and with kids. Men and women have the sexual attraction to deal with--it is just not the real world to think you will not deal with this.
men/women "just friends" realionships are emotional bonds that are physical relationships waiting to happen. Dont expect to have a lot of "guy just friends" relationships if you want a steady boyfriend--he wont put up with it and I dont blame him. Just my thoughts.
2007-07-12 02:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by skyward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋