I found out that some family members were talking very badly about me. (they are know for being "gossipers") She is upset that i bought a home in her neighborhood (10 mins away from her) i dont visit anyone.. I am a mother of 2 and truly just dont have the time. I've had a rough life and finally things have started turning around for me. (recently got married, bought a house, got promoted at work.. 2007 has been good to me so far and i am very thankful for that) But i just cant get over that my family of all ppl are putting me down and taking away from my blessing. Just recently she thru her daughter sweet 16 and everything from the gown to the decor was exactly like my wedding. That hurt! Because of my confrontation, (which was extremely civilized) she started threatening me like if i am an enemy.. Should i have stayed shut or did i do the right thing by standing up for myself??
2007-07-12 02:09:02 · 5 answers · asked by Angelis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well girl you are just realizing that people can be very mean when you start getting more than they do. Honestly let it go. If you get mad or fight with her every time that will only give her more reasons to bad mouth you. One lesson I've learned the hard way. YOU CAN NEVER PLEASE EVERYBODY AT THE SAME TIME. so with that said. Just let her have her fun, what's the use of arguing with people like her, and that's probably what she wants. So don't give her the satisfaction. If you are happy and life is finally going your way, enjoy it, just remember that unfortunately there will always be family members like her to try and rain on your parade. The more you ignore her the more pissed off she will be and at the end you will be the winner...Take it from someone who's been there.
Congratulations on all your successes and good luck
2007-07-12 02:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn it into a positive....maybe you gave her some really good ideas because you are creative? Or, did it resemble your wedding because of you and your families creative talents? Either way, hon, life is not all about money/things - relationships take effort and also effort placed into to getting rid of what can turn out to be the root of all evil in families if it's verbalized and treated as such. That was sweet 16's birthday party and effort was put into that as well as your wedding so perhaps other events need to take place on your part as well and because that what adults do. Maybe just out of the blue and not linked to anyone's birthday/a holiday/or wedding.
2007-07-12 02:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think perhaps that you are being over-sensitive.
She must have thought that everything about your wedding was wonderful, otherwise she would never have copied everything.
You should rather be proud and delighted, that you have done something that both she and her daughter liked so much.
It might perhaps be better if you approached her and apologised for whatever it was that you said, and tell her that you were being a little bit too sensitive with regard to whatever hardships you suffered in the past.
You should also thank her for the compliment that she paid you by using your ideas.
Since 2007 has been so good to you, don't give up now, make friends with your family.
Look after yourself and be safe
Sandy
http://www.moms-home-safety
2007-07-12 02:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon....
I think the issue here is not the sweet 16 party but your thoughts about others' ideas of what you should do in your life (such as stop everything to visit them).
if you don't have time, you don't! i'm sure if you wanted to make the time, you would....
it's not your fault "she" is upset you bought a home near her, and you haven't visited. people have strange and twisted thoughts about what OTHERS should be doing, when they need to mind their own business.
is it worth it to allow others to control your feelings and emotions? if it were me, i'd just think "they need to get over it" and go on with my life... because it's not worth being upset over.
my best advice is to ignore, act like a lady and treat others as you wish to be treated. and take care of you and that wonderful family. i'm glad 2007 is going well for you! hugs
2007-07-12 02:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up for yourself......but never let someone take your pride away. you dont need family/friends that want to bring you down. you need people who want to strive for the best with you. and about the sweet 16 they did that to make you upset and if you show them you are upset then they will feel like they won victory. Take care of yourself and your kids and dont worry about them, they dont pay your bills. good luckl
2007-07-12 03:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋