Our invitation said that 'monetary gifts appreciated' on the right hand bottom of the invite....although it doesn't seem to matter these days, is this correct etiquette to have this written right in with the invitation?
2007-07-12 00:57:53 · 32 answers · asked by basport_2000 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is not MY invitation...we received an invite to a wedding with 'monetary gifts accepted' on it!
2007-07-12 04:03:29 · update #1
I can't believe you had that on your invitation. No, no, no! It's not appropriate at all! You shouldn't be expecting a gift to begin with, let aside a monetary gift! If someone gives you a gift, it's because they are kind and not because they are obliged to.
And you never know what those people went through to manage to bring a decent gift to you.
Maybe they found something good on discount, etc
I mean, I know people who buy a gift once they see something nice with a reasonable price without naming it, and then give it out when an occasion comes.
That of course doesn't make them cheap. It is still nice of them to give a gift in the first place - but to put those people in a situation where they have to give a "monetary gift" and would feel embarrassed to pay less, that's not nice at all!!!
2007-07-12 01:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by ✿Purple✿ 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No. You should never include anything regarding gifts (monetary or otherwise) on an invitation. This is rude and tacky. You're inviting these people to spend a special day with you, not to receive gifts! I hope you're able to change this before sending your invitations out.
And yes, it does "matter these days"! People will still be quite offended. I've received two invitations from friends (I'm in my 20s) that included mention of gifts and although I was living outside the country and unable to attend the weddings, I still didn't send a gift (which I usually do). It's quite offensive.
2007-07-12 01:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, that is absolutely not correct etiquette.
Anyone sending a wedding invitation should be happy to have their family and friends share the day with them. It is completely improper to expect that they bring gifts. It is even worse to state it on the invitation.
If the couple has preferences for the gifts they'd like to receive (whether it's money, or a place that they are registered for gifts), the only proper way to communicate that is by word of mouth and ONLY when asked.
2007-07-12 02:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Stacia T 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Nope. It's never okay to ask for gifts, monetary or otherwise.
It is expected that people will bring gifts to a wedding but it is by no means a requirement. Similarly, you should not indicate where you are registered for gifts on the invitation either. That information (as well as the preference for cash) is supposed to be just spread by word of mouth. When a couple doesnt register for gifts, that is generally the biggest hint that they are hoping for cash instead of gifts.
2007-07-12 01:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! I don't care if it's 2007 or 1907, It's tacky and greedy to mention gifts on the invitation. A huge offensive etiquette faux pas. The couple should be inviting guests to share in their joy, not to give them gifts. If I received such an invitation, I wouldn't attend and would send them an etiquette book.
2007-07-12 03:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. End of story.
No mention of gifts monetary or "boxed" should ever be included on the invite. This info should have been ONLY passed via word of mouth. It's a BIG breech of etiquette to include it on the invite.
Be prepared. People who know a thing or two about etiquette may include no gift at all now.
2007-07-12 01:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
aaaaaaaaghhhh!!! This is asked here so many times. IT IS NOT PROPER to ask for money or any gifts on a wedding invitation period. No mention of gifts should appear on the invitation. You are inviting people to share your day and by putting that on the inviation is in poor taste and tell them they are REQUIRED to bring a gift when it is entirly OPTIONAL. If you want money I suggest you tell the bridal party and parents(subtly mind you) to pass the word along if they are asked.
The nerve of some people's children... really!
2007-07-12 03:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Was this a wedding invitation you received from someone else or was this your wedding invitation for your wedding? Either way, it's not okay to ask for or request a wedding gift in your wedding invitation. Now if this were for a shower, it's okay if the shower host mentions where the happy couple is registered but never in the wedding invitation itself.
2007-07-12 01:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Were these "your" invitations to your wedding?
Or was this an invite that you received?
Just wondering becuase if these were for your event...it's a bit late to ask propriety now...sounds like they've already been printed?
I think it does seem to matter still these days...there are just SOME things that even over time don't really become proper.
ONE DAY some wedding "guru" will come up w/a way of making this acceptable...but it hasn't happened yet...so to answer you question..
"no"...it really isn't proper to ask for money on a wedding invite.
2007-07-12 01:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It is typically considered tacky to EXPECT a gift. The gift of people attending your special day is supposed to be enough.
However, most wedding guests know the rule of thumb is to bring a gift or cash which at least covers the cost of their meal. That is a rule of thumb, etiquette-wise.
If you wanted to get the hint across that you would prefer cash, as opposed to actual presents, you could avoid registering for any gifts. Guests, at a loss for what to buy you, would generally give cash or checks.
It's not polite to "ask" for money or gifts, since the joy of spending a lifetime with the love of your life is supposed to fulfill you and be gift enough. You are merely asking people to come witness the happiest day of your life.
I wish you the best!
2007-07-12 01:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by diva_500 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋