we've been through alot together but it was never goin 2 b serious, lately we've gotten closer, which i tried 2 stop,he reckons it means sumthing cos goin on so long, so after spending more time wit him and his affection he tells me he's going away.. for few months.. im thinking cool c ye when ye get back have fun!!and dat it wld b gud cos i was getting too used to being like a couple, which wouldnt b gud.. so it ended on a bad note wit me in de end pretending not to care as he walked out n him sayin yeah e-mail ye sumtime!!!!
now i cant stop thinkin bout him n is he thinkin bout me.. im actually counting de weeks he's away.. havent heard from him yet.. im trying 2 forget & goin out wit other fellas but i keep thinkin was i wrong in how i acted.. i miss him kissing my nose and saying anythin i wanted knowing we never had to pretend wit each other, but i know it'll never work out, he's a serial cheater, worse is none of our friends know, so i cant talk bout it, any advice welcome:)
2007-07-11 23:50:02 · 10 answers · asked by red devil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, since you knew he was a serial cheater, why did you get in there in the first place?
I think at this point you would do yourself more good if you look for other ways to just BE! I think he may be gone for good and I think it was a good thing you were able to enjoy such a relationship for such a long time. It shows you really had a connection which I think got complicated when you moved to the next level.
I think this was the reason why it lasted so long because he has a fear of commitment but did not have to deal with that with you because you were good friends and not exclusively involved with each other.
He might come back, and when he does, you might resume from where he left off but always know that if you really feel something from him, you should walk away because you won't be the only one he would be doing anything with. At least, nothing exclusive and you definitely don't want that in your life.
For you to be with other guys, I think you must be a great person and have potential so I believe you should look for a loving relationship with someone who can truly commit to you without feeling the need to cheat.
I truly hope you can get over this guy and find what you truly need.
2007-07-12 00:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by rudeboi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to like this, but you need to listen carefully. I don't care what your physical development level is, mentally and emotionally you are still a child. The real world does not work like it does on The Hills or The O.C., or whatever other dreck teaches you that this is acceptable behavior. You are having sex before you're emotionally mature enough to handle it. YOU'VE AGREED TO MARRY A BOY YOU DON'T LOVE ENOUGH TO BE FAITHFUL TO. You've violated the time-honored code of best friends; you messed with her ex. This isn't real love. This is teenage hormones. Loving a man enough to marry him means that if he's sick, you blow off that cool party to stay home and clean up his vomit. You link your future with his, emotionally and financially. You make a home. You make children. You don't sleep with other guys. Ever. Stop. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Finish high school, go to college, get some knowledge in your head. Somewhere in there, when you're busy leading your life the right person will knock your socks off, and you'll do the same to him. Then you'll do all of this over again, the right way. Without betraying your best friend. What did you expect to hear? That it's okay?
2016-05-20 06:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's specifically told you he wants to be in an exclusive relationship, GET OUT! Surely if he did want to be in a relationship with you he would have, 6/7 years is long to figure out if he loves you or not. I think if he did love you, he would be making a commitment to you for sure because he wouldn't want to see you with anyone else; you allready know this from being in love yourself?! Please don't waist anymore of your time and start seeing others, you deserve better than what he is doing to you.
2007-07-12 00:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FWB relationships very rarely turn into true love. If he cared about you in the first place, he would have made you his gf. He just wanted a convenient piece of a**!!! Why would you want him anyway? You have already said that he is a serial cheater. whyat makes you think that he will not cheat on you too?????
2007-07-12 00:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol I agree with the first two of the above adivices. He was probably trying to get something before he went away. If you feel this is serious then discuss it when he gets back. Do you secretly know that he's not good enough as your friends don't know??
Good luck and no I don't think you love him. Not at all.
2007-07-11 23:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the "friends with benefits" and get yourself back to school for a proper education. Yikes!
2007-07-11 23:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just confusing "love" with "lust".
2007-07-11 23:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what love is!
2007-07-11 23:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by aa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hope u don't speak like u write !?!
2007-07-11 23:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by urstory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask if you love him-its not for sure
yet love is sure, and sort through this there is a jewels in it for you=relationships and the relationship from above-Just like with Jesus, if you truely love someone you commit to them. Marriage is a visable commitment with responsibility and honor -lots of people will say they love someone to get the other involved, yet in reality-true friends dont use and abuse friends, someone said to me =
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I agree with "Makemeaspark" "The heart is deceitful." Jeremiah 17:9 =chapter 17 verse 9, but it is not just the hurting ones that fall for believing a guy when he says he loves you. Sometimes you believe because you believe (in innocence) that truth and lies are obvious. And in your arrogance (or youth) you think you can tell the difference. You trust and are deceived, and there are those who are loyal even after the deception is revealed, out of duty, out of fear, out of a misguided loyalty...wow it still hurts. Sometimes they stay because they feel stupid and worthless and have no where else to turn. They feel like they deserve the punishment of being unloved, because they were untrue to their own moral compass, and unfaithfull to God. So they stay untill they are discarded. 3 Votes 43%
this helped me as raised a Jew to see the deaper truths to believe too=Christian means a follower of the Messiah-who came as a Jew- the believer in Jesus-has power over the mind to control their thoughts, thus when Jesus says to forgive and let Me handle it, or about lust is adultry against God, or hate is murder in the heart, we have the calling to cast down all imaginations that exault themselves against God which brings true peace and joy to our heart in all situations (Philippians 4:4-20).
My Jewish people believe in the comming of a Messiah, and his fulfillment is in Jesus. The laws of Judaism were given specifically to the Jewish people to be kept and to guide them to the promised Messiah.
Isaiah 9:6 the child to be the Son given, the mighty God and the prince of peace..
Isaiah 52:13-53:12 To be the exalted one. To first be marred more than any man, and to lay down his life to make atonement for our sins.
The way I came to know him is by believing what he spoke to us from heaven (Revelation1:1 chapter 1 verse 1 & 3:19&20 "I love you and ask you to repent of your sins (even one lie) quickly. Behold I stand at your heart door and knock If you hear my word and open the door, I will come in and be your friend."
so I prayed "Jesus I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen."
Its all good and now as a Jew who has come to know Jesus is my Messiah, savior, and best friend giving me joy beyond words and power to live right. And someone said this for me telling them this too=
Asker's response
Wow that was a great answer :).
Praying for you and all concerned, David
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Added notes to help in this about yahoo answerer 'Roadrats' before me too=I have been praying for you-that it is understood=and helpful your a princess-and deserve the best=and to have true good relationship=why begin intimacy of the heart-when it will not lead to moral principles and marriage? Why worship another person ahead of God-why live in disobediance?
the answer for me from having lived this way-and coming to a point of suicide for having used others and myself, was true love first from above- Yet as a Jewish person I had been taught to reject-the sacrificial love of the promised Messiah Jesus. "Unto us a child is born, a son is given, and he shall be mighty God, and the prince of peace." Isaiah 9:6
"He will lay down his life, to give forgiveness for our sins." Isaiah 52:13-53:12
As I read his words spoken from heaven my heart melted to his love (Revelation 1:1&3:19-20) "I love you, and ask you to repent from your sins quickly(even one lie). Behold I stand at your heart's door and knock, if you let me in I will become your friend and have fellowship with you, and you with me."
so I prayed "Jesus I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen."
and this was what all my life I had sought for true unconditional love-it taught me to Love him "If you love me keep my commandments. The fruit of my Spirit in you will be love, joy, peace, gentleness, and selfcontrol." Galatians 3:22&23.
"What is a gentle and easy yoke/control when done in obedience becomes an insupportable burden when done in disobedience." - THE WAY TO FREEDOM
Putting God's Principles into action
No task that seeks to serve others, whether that be in the home, at work, or in the church, is ever easy. This is particularly so when those tasks involve long-term commitments. To be kept in such commitments requires the knowledge that what we are doing is our responsibility and that our helping is appropriate. We can then call on God to help us and to encourage us in the journey. But when our tasks are performed without a sense of God's direction and help, then we walk a difficult and lonely road.
What the Bible is saying
Take the yoke I give you. Put it on your shoulders and learn from me. I am gentle and humble, and you will find rest. This yoke is easy to bear, and this burden is light. (Matthew 11:29-30)
Thoughts
To seek to serve others without God's direction and help,will end up making us bitter, and we will not see any good fruit of our labor.
Yes it is important to make right answers and commitments especially in relationships with God and mankind.
note DANGER about yahoo answerer=Roadrat (who I forgave for his comments to me-and pray for to find the truth and true love and happiness from above and on earth too in a good wife)-in his answers along with endorsing casual sex from his previous age as a 13 year old-quoted below-he also endorses doing illegal drugs -to a questioner that broke up with his girl for doing it in the car when he was driving, just dont do it in the open, in his answers (when we live in sin-druging the mind may be our way to find 'peace of mind' till jail or the mind burns out or the liver-yet he also states he is divorced and again living in (promiscuous fornicating) sex. I too lived in sin-Jesus is still the answer for each of us, and a new life. from Roadrats words answering to young persons question and I quote him=
Consider a fun, casual-sex relationship. It can last for years, and be more fun than you believe! Meanwhile, you both should keep each other aware that this is for your mutual enjoyment, until you each find your true loves. Personal experience, during 5 of the teen years. Meanwhile, just ignore any totally INANE responses you may get in here from losers with no lives who tell you you should get married first.
MORE to a woman who found out a guy was married and didnt tell her-he told her just call it a booty call, and if you two want just keep doing it.
MY RESPONSE TO HIM it IS TIME FOR SEEING THE FAILURE OF YOUR ADVICE endorsing cheating and AGAINST MARRIAGE-IT DONT WORK- Jesus does work
his response to me=EDIT: In a response to this question, "David I" did his USUAL idiocy of inserting a bunch of mindless and off-topic bullcrap after his answer.
MY RESPONSE=LIFE INTERESTING, BUT U GOTTA GET ONE FIRST.
-BUT IF YOU FALL BACK -PRAY= "Jesus restore the joy of my salvation, I am sorry for letting you down, help me do better, amen." (Psalm 51)
LOOK AT THE -bridal section here(the joy in dreams comming true-and then look at the dating section -broken hearts of those used in sex-with no future & hope and self respect lost)
Jesus is the answer for him and each of us, why settle for false or loose love going into physical relations before marriage to fill the void of not having Jesus in our heart, to try and feel 'loved' and continue to destroy our reputation, morals, and be a sex offender against God, risking Std's, pregnancy, and getting a cold heart toward true love, first from above and then with a person, our family, and toward ourselves.
Romans 1:16 unashamed so we can share the gospel and help others.
and look up Romans 1 changed me to be thankful, and worship the creator instead of the created, now true love is in my heart and He never leaves or forsakes me=Hebrews 13
My prayers to you, David and thanks for the good question
2007-07-11 23:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋